To think I should pay 1/3?

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Travelling with my cousin and his wife to another cousin’s wedding in a different part of the country. They have one child, who’s also coming. I don’t have any.

We’re hiring a car because neither of us has a big enough one. The cost is £120. I assumed we’d pay £40 each for the three adults. Cousin has text saying ‘so that’s £60 each’, meaning £60 for me and £60 between him and his wife.

I don’t think this is right. AIBU? I know it’s only £20 but it happens all the time when some couples assume that they count as ‘one’.

My mum used to holiday with my Aunt and uncle, they always split it 3 ways, it's the only fair and sensible way.

Reply saying no its £40 each, its split between the travelling adults.

Also I this scenario yes they have one bank account but they have 2 wages going into it and it needs to cover the cost of those 2 people!!!

Why people cant see that is beyond me !!!

Will it be fun to go together, or hell travelling with a toddler / baby? (I wouldn’t drive that far with a small child for such a short trip away).

£120 sounds quite cheap for car hire for 3 days a big car: will there be a mileage charge on top? I am assuming 3 days minimum, 2 driving one at wedding?

How much will petrol be? £120? If he splits that 50:50 your total for petrol and hire car will be the same cost as if you paid petrol in your own car!

You can see from the replies here that plenty of people think 50:50 is ok, so you would be possibly causing a family rift over £20.

How important is it to you that you share the driving?

I would double check the T&C of the hire car and total costs. Is full insurance included?

£60 to be shoved in the back of the car and have to entertain a toddler..
I don't think so..

How much will petrol be? £120? If he splits that 50:50 your total for petrol and hire car will be the same cost as if you paid petrol in your own car!

Have you answered how the petrol is being shared?

If this cousin has already implied he’s generously subbing you when you paid £20 out of a £60 meal bill for the three of you, I don’t know why you’re considering it.

You should pay a third, or even a quarter, but I would consider travelling by yourself otherwise you’ll have to do what they want regarding timings!

You do realise that the married couple, regardless of which of them is driving, will occupy both front seats of the car - so the only break you will have from childcare responsibility in the back seat is when you are driving. That gives you zero down-time.

Maybe pay thirds but in return they pay you the going rate for a childminder ...

£26.50 for an advance ticket on the train to Edinburgh. Check what it'll be to whatever you're going.

If we hired the car I wouldn't expect my cousin to pay for an extra seat at all actually because we needed the big car. I'd expect to split it 3 ways at most, but it isn't worth arguing over as they've started out being unfair. Get the train up because that's more pleasant, then split petrol costs when you're there. If they need to drive a load of stuff up then let them pay the extra for the car.

Say you'll pay half if you have sole control of the music. No nursery rhymes

If you pay half for the car you'll end up paying half for the food and petrol too, and all for the privilege of sitting crammed in the back with a puking screaming toddler with a timetables CD soundtrack for 10 hours (worst case scenario) or doing half the driving whilst still listening to screaming toddler and nursery rhymes (best case)

Just go on your own in your car.

OP.. forget about what’s fair and think about travelling in a car for so long with someone else’s toddler!! I literally could not think of anything worse!! I wouldn’t even travel that far with my own toddlers!!

What if she screams the whole way? What if she gets car sick?

OMG this has filled me with anxiety! Don’t do it!!!!

I would also expect to split 50/50

I do think a third each is fairer.

But are you prepared to throw away a relationship over £20. Really?

Infact I said 50/50 but then thinking when me and DP go out in a group with a mix of couples and singles and split a minibus or taxi we always split per person so maybe 1/3 is correct

I’d say 50/50

They've obviously been listening to spice girls '2 become one' too much.

Christ don’t do it!!!!!! Don’t . Do . It
Fly it or train it or do it solo
Please for your own sanity abandon this shit show 😂😂😂

I also think £120 seems really cheap for the car hire!

Like many others I would fly/to on the train/drive myself. It's better to be in charge of your own car than to be a second class passenger in the back of a car. If you do go in the car you need to make it really clear that you are either driving or in the passenger seat. Not looking after their toddler.

Definitely don't drive. Fly or get the train. That's a nightmare journey. Have a G&T and read your book.

Scheduled stops don't work with a toddler either. You'll be making frequent unscheduled stops between bouts of screaming, and won't stop for anything if they've actually fallen asleep.

But are you prepared to throw away a relationship over £20. Really?

No, they are.

I like how the onus is on the OP to not throw away a relationship for £20 but not the couple

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Yep, but they’re only gaining 17% non driving time each, you’re gaining 66% (I’m not doing the decimals, lol)

WTF are you on about? If each adult is sharing the driving equally then each adult is getting the same amount of time not driving. Or does couple entitlement extend to time as well as money?

Good grief

Never mind the money, who would choose to be in a car with an infant/toddler for that journey!

OP...please listen to all of us who have experienced long car journeys with small children...DON'T DO IT!