He turned up drunk. First date.

[Bt100200]

Hi everyone

Have formed a close online friendship with someone over these last few months and we decided it was now time to meet for a first date.

Both very excited. Chose an area that required a fair bit of travel for him (5 hours on the train).

I get there and....he is absolutely wasted. Drunk. LOUD. Embarassing. He said he was nervous about meeting me and had some dutch courage on the way down...however, hadn't just stopped at one or two.

He was staggering drunk.

I am so upset with this. After the build up over the months...our first date....and he could barely stand.

I am so.....let down and disappointed by this. Or am I being completely unfair?

I was looking forward to spending some meaningful time with him....how on earth can that be done when he can't put two words together? It was honestly the most sh*te date I have ever had.

Can all you xx either stop with the twee or just fuck off back to netmums.

It isn't needed, it isn't necessary. We are gown ups and none of us need xx used as punctuation.

Calling people who object sad fuckers and snobs but being OK with kisses?

I can't roll my eyes hard enough.

Grow. The. Fuck. Up.

I'm finding all the upset at the different style of writing rather funny.

OP, definitely a serious alcohol problem.
Don't become dispirited.

Xxx💐😂

Can all you xx either stop with the twee or just fuck off back to netmums

Sixteen kisses in the OP’s latest post. SIXTEEN KISSES!

I’ve had wild sexual encounters that involved less kissing than that.

Red flag. I met a guy who reeked of booze at 11.30am. Full on knock you over reek. He made a point of making one drink last 2hours but let slip he'd had a drink problem for years, "but I'm fine now". Erm, no you're not. The ones who are willing to wait ages before meeting are never good.

@colourless

Now THAT is something to be upset about😂

Please block him, Bt, he's a wrong 'un.

I’ve just split up with my boyfriend of 2 years because he took me for a meal and was already drunk!! I was so disappointed, I know he likes a drink but felt really disrespected that he thought it was ok to pick me up while he was over the limit and expect me to enjoy a night out with him slurring and repeating everything all night.

@Bt100200

Definitely not saying see him again. But in the hopes that it helps you feel better I think it's wrong to conclude that this show's you meant nothing to him.

I think you did mean a lot to him and he was really hoping it would go well, was crazy nervous, foolishly tried some "Dutch courage" and for some people every drink makes the next more likely until they're fucked.

Well done moving on.

xx

You never get a second chance to make a first impression. Obviously he didn’t care enough about the first impression he was going to make in you. Sorry OP, but that tells you all you need to know about him.

Make on you, sorry! 😱

Title of the thread needs to be amended:
He turned up drunk. First and last date.

Seriously though -
You need to ask yourself why you stayed and went through with the date.

Also ask yourself why you feel your irritation is 'unfair'.

Were you hoping he would miraculously sober up?

You don't have to spend time with someone who is embarrassingly drunk.
You can leave any situation, any time.
You have the right to get angry with a time waster who has both massively embarrassed and disappointed you and wasted five months of your life.

I think the xxxxxxing is part of a very regrettable 'nice girl' syndrome that you are suffering from. You don't have to pretend to be besties with people you don't know, or patient, polite or nice and ladylike with men who show up steaming drunk to a date either.

Delete him, and if you have mutual online friends, sorry but they are history too, or you will be keeping a link to him.
Forget about an apology. Block him and move on. No more contact directly or via mutual friends.

He is deadly quiet now....I think he is thinking...oh boy....she was gutted and I have ruined everything. He said this morning...that he thought....I've blown it with her and that he just wanted to go home with his tail between his legs after messing up so royal. He also said everything I said to him about how out of order it was, was correct.

Oh for the love of puppies, stop with the 'I think he is thinking...'

That is co-dependence, right there.

Why are you wasting five seconds trying to get into the head of someone who has already wasted five months of your life and inflicted a truly horrible evening on you?

Stop talking to this loser. Block him.

At least he wasn't driving

Xx

OMG! Sounds like my ex fling! Met him online. He travelled 5 hours by train to meet me and turned up tipsy. He also works offshore. Hope for your sake it isn't him... If it is, if his initials are RJ, then f-ing block and run!!!!