Dp says we're sexually incompatible because I can't climax from penetrative sex

[JustWonderful]

He has implied if we split he 'd meet a woman who does.

I think that's delusional - because most women (who don't fake) can 't climax from penetrating sex. I read 75% or higher of the female population.

Aibu?

He's watched too much porn.

Thank fuck I'm a lesbian.

What a lazy selfish man. Seriously - he hasn’t got a clue how to please you and he can’t be arsed to learn because it hurts his fragile ego that thinks his thrusting alone should be enough.

OMG OP you MUST make him read this thread. He is a selfish, misogynistic wanker just like my ex who thought he could speak for womankind even though he had a penis! Now my DP of 19 years has always been a much more considerate man

I thought it was standard that you can't - I can't and neither can any of my friends.

Can't he do tongue action first, so you finish, and then do the sex? That's how we do it and works fine for us.

I had a very similar conversation with some friends recently- both (husband and wife couple) said orgasm from penetrative sex was rare - for the woman had never happened, with anyone. I’m guessing that somehow it’s anatomical (as well as comfortableness with the partner and of course foreplay) because I cannot bear direct clit action (sorry tmi!), have never had oral sex that worked and almost always orgasm from penetrative sex - though it’s varied with position and partner. I’m wondering if your DP is worried that he’s not matching up to what’s expected of him (from wherever the notion comes from that it should always work from PIV/porn) and is probably being both lazy and defensive. Dare I ask if it’s been a long relationship? He definitely shouldn’t be comparing partners and should be trying to have exploratory fun! I hope you get what you deserve from him!

He seems to think the streets are lined with women just bursting with orgasms the very second he winks at them 🙄 He's a dreamer. I can only come on top. That requires my DP to either hang on first off or keep it up afterwards....and give me a decent revving up before hand....but I'm a lucky lady who has a kind and sexually competent partner. Please dump this pathetic idiot OP.

This thread illustrates to me how little men understand women's physiology.

Your "D"P is BVVVVVVU and disrespectful after you've voiced your needs.
Buy a Hitachi magic wand. It's expensive upfront but it uses less electricity than a man, and it doesn't need feeding and never leaves the toilet seat up, either. ;)
Then you can take your time finding a guy who's half-decent in bed and who you get on with out of bed, too.

Before having children I couldn't but since giving birth I can and quite easily - too easily. I wonder what giving birth did to my anatomy.

I read that about someone else, unless it was you in another thread.

Regretting having a Caesearian now. Autocorrect kept trying to.change that to Caucasian.

Turn it back on him....say most women do need a good 20 mins fore play followed by at least 5 mins on top bouncy fun. If he comes, it's game over. Can he do that? A paper bag over his head might help too! 😂

I can come from penetrative sex, easily.
But men like that make my legs slam shut, yuck.

I'm just wondering how your partner will find such a woman, who would be interested in a man who was so interested in this aspect of her!

YADNBU.

Wow. He is very lazy in bed and trying to find an excuse for his behaviour!

Your husband is a nasty twat who wants to make you feel small and defective to sooth his own pathetic ego.

What's about a clit ring ....oh and a personality transplant? The two things together might work.

@jewel1968 me too... only post kids can I do it....But DH and I managed a perfectly healthy sex life pre-dc for 13 years!

Well isn't he a charmer?!

I would rethink this relationship

I'd put money on his exes faking and him getting the idea that women all cum from PIV from porn. Even if he does genuinely think that's the case, how fkn cruel is it to tell you that?! (If it were true) It would be the same equivalent of pointing out to a man who can't quite get hard so easily that his body is defective, it's awful behaviour.

I used to be an idiot who faked orgasm and my ex boyfriends would probably say I came through PIV. I was young and foolish, and life got soooooo much better when I decided to stop that shit and let men do whatever it took to bring me to orgasm. I've got absolutely no complaints with current partner and if I ever have the misfortune to come across somebody who doesn't make sure I get mine as well as they get theirs, they won't be gracing my bed for long! Suggest you take getting your orgasm as seriously as he takes his.

Now I am intrigued how does childbirth help with orgasms. Off to research...

I’m surprised how many women are saying it’s a myth that women come from straight sex alone - I pretty much always climax through penetrative sex - maybe I’m just weird!!

Nope, you're not weird, I do too.

I think we're saying it's a myth that most or all women can climax through PIV.
I think it's rarer to be able to than not...?

He is an idiot to blame you for this. If anything it reflects badly on him! I didn’t orgasm from penetrative sex until I met my DH, and now I do climax like that most times we have sex. Clearly he’s just shit in bed and can’t get the rhythm right. But even just for saying this to you he deserves to be dumped.

Your DP is a prick for telling you that. As you already mention, most women can't climax from penetration alone. There is NOTHING wrong with you if you can't. I've never been able to. If my DH said anything like that to me I'd seriously reconsider our relationship!

Tell him to get over himself!