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To think people don’t want to be sociable?

132 replies

hotpinkice · 28/09/2019 16:03

AIBU to think most people just won’t come on nights out? Realistically, this is a young persons thing isn’t it?

OP posts:
Auntyfannybaws · 28/09/2019 16:04

Love a night out, I'm definitely not youngGrin

Franny8365 · 28/09/2019 20:20

I think most people just want to let a little TV watch them after working all day, keeping house and keeping kids alive and thriving through the thick of it. I personally would rather have a day in. In my bed. I'm not that old but I'm tired...

Heatherjayne1972 · 28/09/2019 20:22

Yes. You get to the point when you really can’t be bothered ( perhaps that’s just me)

OMGshefoundmeout · 28/09/2019 20:26

I want to be sociable but would much rather have brunch or lunch or afternoon tea than a night out. Or have mates over to mine for wine and chats. Nights out are too noisy and crowded. Next weekend 8 of us are going to a cottage on the country for a long weekend and the plan is have an early dinner in a pub and then back to the cottage for wine in our pjs until we all fall asleep! Can’t wait.

littleorangecat22 · 28/09/2019 20:27

I want to be sociable but I hate nights out so don't do them. Me and my friends do things in daytime hours. If anything at night it would be a night in with a film/takeaway.

Shoutouttomyspecs · 28/09/2019 20:27

I’m definitely like this. I’d class myself as a recluse but do like an afternoon tea

Butchyrestingface · 28/09/2019 20:28

YABU. I was The Grinch even as a youngster. Age hasn’t improved me.

honeyloops · 28/09/2019 20:30

I hate going out. Don't mind an afternoon tea but realistically I just don't really love socialising - I'm happiest at home, by myself!

Kittenbittenmitten · 28/09/2019 20:30

I'm sort of an extroverted introvert. Love a night out speaking to lots of new people but sometimes I really can't be arsed. I like quiet days when I feel "peopled out"

thatmustbenigelwiththebrie · 28/09/2019 20:30

I like being sociable as long as it's straight after work so I don't have go to home first. If I go home first I start wanting to put my pjs on and that's fatal.

Bunnybaubles · 28/09/2019 20:31

I love a night out, but I have no one to go out with. I'm rubbish at socialising.

GaudyNight · 28/09/2019 20:31

I have a feeling you mean something very specific by a ‘night out’.

Wheelson · 28/09/2019 20:31

As a 30something FT working mum, the thought of a night out just makes me want to cry! I'm happiest in my pyjamas watching telly! I'd far rather meet for lunch.

speakout · 28/09/2019 20:37

I don't go on "nights out".

Dreadful thought.
I love to go to bed early, noisy overpriced pubs full of drunk people, then waiting for a taxi or a bus home.

Not for me. I do like eating out, but only at lunchtime or early evening- back home by 8.30pm
I would always turn down any invitation for a "night out".

BarbariansMum · 28/09/2019 20:38

I'm old and I still go on nights out. Just not very frequently.

codenameduchess · 28/09/2019 20:39

I was The Grinch even as a youngster. Age hasn’t improved me.

^^this. Always hated 'nights out', over crowded, dingy, dirty bars/clubs full of loud dickheads and creepy men. No thanks! Occasionally I'll think a night out id s good idea but regret it within an hour.
I did spend my youth in a popular city for night life... the stag and hen dos are enough to put anyone off!

Girlmeetsbook · 28/09/2019 20:40

Don't want to go clubbing or anything but a meal out/out for wine and a good catch up every so often is just fab.

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westcountrychicken · 28/09/2019 20:44

Night out= no
Meal out, with wine and where I can actually hear and see people AND eat food better than I can cook= Hell yeah!

EmmiJay · 28/09/2019 20:46

I love getting a chance to go out out! I miss the whole shopping for an outfit in the morning, getting dressed up, booking cars, dancing and drinking all night, getting food on the way back and stumbling home. Good times. Good stuff. I still don't remember a few birthdays Grin

EmmiJay · 28/09/2019 20:47

I'm 34 btw.🍷

Bouffalant · 28/09/2019 20:50

I'm mostly so exhausted from work that all I want it to get under a blanket on the sofa and either read or watch tv.

I go out maybe once a month but that's plenty, and even then it's just pub or a meal.

I'm around people all day every day, I mostly want peace and quiet when I have free time. But I'm also an INFJ, I think personality type comes into it.

99mTc · 28/09/2019 20:57

I hate nights out! I want to be home by 10 pm and collapse into bed.
I enjoy daytime socialising though, in places where I can actually hear what people are saying.

AnxietyDream · 28/09/2019 20:57

I want to be sociable!

But not every night. Or every week. Sometimes I need space. Much more so since having two small children in my face everyday...

Prettypumpkin · 28/09/2019 20:57

Night out in clubs? No way. Chatting over a nice pub meal or curry, yes please!

I'd prefer to go out earlier though. I'm not happy if I'm awake after 10!

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