To think people don’t want to be sociable?

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AIBU to think most people just won’t come on nights out? Realistically, this is a young persons thing isn’t it?

Bloody hell, there’s some boring miserable people on here.

I’m 32 and try and make an effort to socialise and have ‘a night out’ twice a month. One of those tends to be a meal out somewhere with friends on a Friday/ Sat night. The other tends to be getting dressed up and going out to bars in our local city. They are nice, classy gin or wine bars with low level music in the background. After a few drinks we then tend to head to a either. a bar that plays R’N’B or a live music and then cheesey music bar for a bop! I LOVE buying an outfit and getting all dressed up. Oh, we also do bottomless brunch/ afternoon pub crawl drinking in the summer too.

These are all ‘naice’ Places, not dingy Chav holes and I can’t say I’d do a proper nightclub now at my age but I’d feel miserable if all I ever did was sit around watching tv every weekend!

Have to say though, I’m not sociable during the week really. I’ll do a meal out or cinema occasionally but weekdays I do like to jut go home and relax after work. Which is why a couple of times a month at the weekend, I like to be sociable and have some fun!

I love a night out but it's so expensive I can't afford to do it very often. I hate getting drunk so for me an ideal night out is a lovely meal out and/or a trip to the theatre or comedy club. If out with friends I'd rather be somewhere where we can all hear each other talk - I can't stand nightclubs now even though I used to love dancing the night away in my 20's.
A big night out now (lots of drinks, dancing, taxis home) etc could well end up costing £100 these days and I hate spending all that money just to feel ill with a hangover the next day. But maybe I'm just a boring old fart - can't think of anything worse though.

I'm not interested in nights out at the moment but maybe that will change when I'm getting more than 5 minutes sleep. The kind where you are crammed in to some noisy, sweaty bar though is not something I plan on doing again. A night out now would involve sitting down and being able to talk to eachother.

"I don’t have any “going out clothes”."

I have one going out outfit. My mum and sister are always horrified about this

Is OP still recovering from last night, I wonder

Dinner or early evening wine yes definitely.
Around 11ish most places get a bit loud though, that’s my cue to head home😂

The menopause robbed me of my (legendary!) ability to drink shedloads and still get to work the next day. Nights out without a decent skinfull just aren't the same, somehow. Can't be doing with drunken dickheads when I'm sober.

I love a meal out with friends though, or a proper party.

I am in my mid fifties and still go out with my friends regularly for nights out.

Usually that means meeting in a wine bar, going for a meal, then maybe a nightcap once we have left restaurant. Not clubbing - would be too embarrassing to bump into our DC!!

We also go on holidays together and are very sociable.

I love a night out! Only had a few since DD, nine months, was born but I have enjoyed them all the more for that. I love going out for drinks then a meal with DP but with my friends it’s bar or pub for wine, putting the world to rights and bumping into random people I haven’t seen for ages.

Why does a night out have to mean clubbing? I had a "night out" with friends last night, we went to a local Indian. No clubs, loud music or creepy men.

I don’t mind socialising but choose to do it in different ways. ‘Nights out’ just aren’t really my thing. I hate the crowds, the noise, the queues for drinks, the expensive taxi home. I can’t be bothered with it either, I’d rather do other things.

I personally have no interest now I am in my 40s - my interest peaked in my mid-twenties and then started waning - it's at zero now. I'll go out for a meal but that's about it. I'd be bored stupid nowadays standing round in a pub or club.

Very much like @OMGshefoundmeout, I'd much rather do either daytime hours or nights in. Nights out are too busy and the two busiest areas for going out here are not places you want to be at night.

I’d rather a meal or quiet pub than clubbing but still enjoy socialising

I've never liked 'nights out'. As a teetotal vegetarian with asthma, clubbing/meals out/ pubs were always a horror to me - I'd end up paying 3 times the cost of my meal to sub other people's steak and wine, unable to breathe because of cigarette smoke - and that's not changed now I'm middle aged.

Being sociable (ie a particular type of extrovert) is not a mark of moral superiority, as many people seem to think. I don't care that other people think I'm boring - my dull evenings have been used to get my Master's and 2 other post-grad qualifications whilst working full time, and now I'm doing my doctorate. I stay up late, but it's to read articles!

Night out with drinking, dancing, loud music & flashing lights. Feeling like shit the following day. Nope.

Meal out with friends catching up on gossip and reminiscing. Absolutely.

I can’t see the point of going to some noisy pub where you have to wait an eon to get served every time you go to the bar, struggle to find seats and can’t hear what any fucker is saying anyway above the blast of whatever shite is being played.

On my rare ventures to the pub these days, I only meet deaf or hearing friends who sign, so I can have some idea of the conversation.

If I lived in some nice, rural village with a quiet wee pub, perhaps I’d be less curmudgeonly about nights out but equally, perhaps not.

My last trip out with friends was to a spa afternoon. Had a swim, a fantastic back massage, afternoon tea. Home by 6 pm. Thoroughly enjoyed it and had a laugh.

I like being sociable but only with people who are close friends. So I don’t have to make an effort and can just relax.

DH and I social lives are more bbq’s, NCT meet ups, dinner or lunch out. Play dates.

I agree with you- I hate nights out drinking. But luckily so do my friends so it’s just not something that we do.

Who wants to spend the day with a hangover when you have a child and work full time!

No to clubs! I only had a short spell in my late teens where I really did that anyway. Yes to pubs/restaurants/house parties (if the sort you have in your 30’s and 40’s). Generally don’t enjoy black tie or big sporting events where you have to dress up. Much prefer casual socialising! I’m late 30’s.

I love a good night out, however I'm fussy over whom I go with and where, so they rarely happen . The fact that I'm an anti social sod during the day doesn't help either.

If you mean a night drinking, bar to bar then no, I hate it, noisy, crowded, full of drunks and men on the pull.

I like quick supper then theatre, or summer barbecue or wellyboot stroll along the river then a meal.

I used to be a massive party animal but I can no longer drink alcohol because of a stomach condition and I also just can’t be arsed with bars/clubs/pubs type places.
That’s not to say that I don’t still enjoy the occasional evening out but we just go to places like the cinema or restaurants. Having a night in with a film and takeaway excites me a lot more though. Never thought i’d ever be such a homebody when I was in my teens and 20s.

I’m sociable but picky about who I see now! Cba w feeling awkward or small talk really.
Not as into drinking any more although happy to have a glass of wine or cocktail - mainly cos it makes me feel yuk.

I am late 40s, work nearly full time and a lone parent. If someone suggests a night out it fills me with sheer horror.

In my twenties and early thirties I loved going out and did frequently, but the novelty has definitely worn off now.