To think people don’t want to be sociable?

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AIBU to think most people just won’t come on nights out? Realistically, this is a young persons thing isn’t it?

GaudyNight
I am not afraid, but I am not ashamed not to be 20 any more and I don't need to try to pretend I am.

If you decide you have a child, you should become a parent. If you are not mature enough, why didn't you wait?

If the only thing you can think about is to go clubbing when you are middle-age, it is pathetic.

But there's nothing inherently '20 year old/non-parent' about clubbing any more than any adult would expect to be asked for age-identifying ID or evidence that they have a child when they enrol for a climbing lesson or poetry slam.

I don't like clubbing myself and I also live in the sticks and estimate that the nearest nightclub would involve a significant drive and an overnight stay but I see nothing whatsoever wrong with anyone liking it, or not liking it, at any age.

And I should be very surprised if the poster who, on another thread I read this morning (it might be the one about how you told your parents/immediate family you were pregnant) had planned to be pregnant aged 15. From your point of view, she should not ever be allowed into a nightclub after giving birth because she's now a parent, even though she's also a teenager and thus meets your age criteria?

I'm in my thirties and still like raving once or twice a year. I don't think theres anything wrong with going out, but agree you do have to prioritise your DC and not go out and waste the weekend by going out and being hungover the next day. Every now and again is fine. My judgy pants do come out when parents do it every weekend to the detriment of their DCs lives.

I'd bloody love a night out. I would like to put on something nice and go out dancing all night. I don't think there's an age limit? It's only "sad" to go out as a middle age person if you are shrieking and staggering about drunk, but that's sad for any age.
I like gigs and theatre and nighttime events in the city. I dont drink anymore so i can drive myself. I don't want to sit home in my pyjamas night after night.
This has inspired me to plan something! I frankly don't give a shit if me shaking my fat arse to music upsets a twenty something's sense of decorum. I can sit in front of the telly in the nursing home.

Just because someone likes clubbing does not mean they are wasted and staggering around, embarrassing, falling out of the club or anything else anyone has typed. Just wanted to put that out there. There's a lot of different types of clubs and many people go for the music/dancing/socialising aspects, not just the pulling/drinking aspects. So they might be perfectly able to spend time with their DC the next day.

Having said that I think the OP IBU because there's many ways to socialise (as we have seen on the thread) and it seems like most people want to in some way, even if it's not all the time.

In response to the queries, I'm married. We socialise together regularly. I work full time and don't sleep in. I can cope with very little sleep, always have. My teens babysit if we're out together or a grandparent. Most of my friends are similar. It just depends what you enjoy doing, doesn't it?