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To find the unmummsy mum really dreadful

252 replies

Katex888 · 25/09/2019 23:21

I know she has a lot of fans, and some parts of her first book were funny. Although the second book was dire, why would she need to tell everyone when she has sex with her husband as if it’s once in a year event.

I find her really cringe worthy and I don’t understand the hype. She thinks she’s really funny when she’s not, she’s not unmummsy, she seems like a great mum with her kids but makes out she is rubbish all the time. Why?

I don’t understand how everyone think she’s the funniest thing ever.

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Benes · 26/09/2019 15:46

Starting an anonymous post with the sole intention of slagging off someone who can be easily identified is a shitty thing to do. I don't care what that person does for a living.

Having an opinion about someone's work is one thing and is to be expected and encouraged. This wasn't just about her work.

Are we really at a point in society where if you're in any sort of public facing role you're free game and it's acceptable for people to offer personal criticism anonymously? I hope not

Benes · 26/09/2019 15:49

The OP is free to think and write what she likes obviously but she could at least admit it's a shitty, bitchy thing to do. People need to take responsibility and own their behaviour.

DefConOne · 26/09/2019 15:51

I can sometimes enjoy the humour but really what easy middle class lives these mums lead. Most of the challenges they face are completely avoidable (juggling multiple extra curricular activities, holidays, well paid part time jobs). It amuses me that they find their comfortable lives so difficult. I wonder what they would be writing about if they ever faced any real difficulties.

hsegfiugseskufh · 26/09/2019 15:54

def do you know anything about the unmumsy mum?

DefConOne · 26/09/2019 16:03

Not a massive amount. I generally see stuff shared on Facebook rather than following blogs. Lived in Exeter and looks immaculate. Can’t see any obvious deprivation from her website. What have I missed?

HowlsMovingBungalow · 26/09/2019 16:04

No 24 out of the UK's 100 top influencers.

pikapikachu · 26/09/2019 16:07

Just had a look on her Insta feed and it is very middle class. There's the odd one of a crying child or a mishap like child pooing into nappy minutes into a car journey but clearly she lives a #blessed life with the odd shouty day thrown in. I've not looked deep enough to know how hard her life has been but it looks rosy from here and that's great for her and her family.

A person living in a grotty high rise flat with barely any toys and space would not get the following that instamums like this do. They wouldn't get the book deals or followers who buy into this online persona that they create.

AliceAbsolum · 26/09/2019 16:08

Totally with you OP, cannot stand her. Maybe if she spent less time on her phone she could parent in a better way rather than ignoring/shouting at her children.
Poor kids, imagine reading all that when you're older?

HowlsMovingBungalow · 26/09/2019 16:17

These 'bloggers' are just advertising vessels. Selling every minute of their medicore lives and their childrens childhoods for ad space. There will be a massive backlash in years to come when these children grow up and realise their whole childhoods have been published online without their consent or payment from these companies.

hsegfiugseskufh · 26/09/2019 16:19

defconone I didn't say she was deprived, but I wouldn't say she was like other "influencers" swanning off on holiday every 2 mins. She also doesn't do a lot of ads or sponsored stuff.

theyre doing a reno on their house, and they are actually doing it all themselves. Her house is very far from immaculate so I don't know what you've been looking at. It is quite literally a building site.

theyre actually very normal, and its not all rushing to activities at all.

hsegfiugseskufh · 26/09/2019 16:19

Maybe if she spent less time on her phone she could parent in a better way rather than ignoring/shouting at her children

sorry, how do you know shes ignoring or shouting at her children?

HowlsMovingBungalow · 26/09/2019 16:20

Do you know her personally then Holidayhelpppp?

hsegfiugseskufh · 26/09/2019 16:22

no, I don't but nor do I assume she ignores or shouts at her children from her Instagram posts!

I also follow her house reno account so I do actually know what her house looks like.

CardiFree · 26/09/2019 16:26

Argh Benes she has made her life and her family's life her work by publicising it repeatedly fgs in blog and book form.

Benes · 26/09/2019 17:14

I know that cardi but what she does is irrelevant. My point is that creating an anonymous post with the sole intention of slagging off an identifiable person (professionally and personally) is shitty behaviour. Especially when the purpose of the post is to get others to agree.

People are entitled to have an opinion but it's pretty crap to make those opinions public while hiding behind an anonymous forum.

But that's just my opinion ,🤷

LolaSmiles · 26/09/2019 17:19

Benes
I think as someone said above, commenting on what they put out there is fair game. Personal nasty comments aren't.

But it would probably be better to have a thread on general opinions on instamums/mummybloggers than have one about one person, but then again public figures and people who out themselves out there are doing so knowing not everyone is going to like what they do.

It's fine in my opinion to say you don't like the humour, she's not funny, or you find it twee and grating, bit quite another to suggest she doesn't pay her kids enough attention because she's on her phone (for example).

Benes · 26/09/2019 17:31

I agree Lola and I felt the op veered into nasty, personal comments about an identifiable individual

sweetiepie1979 · 26/09/2019 17:46

The marketplace does seem to be swamped at the moment with books about “slummy mummies”. So hilariously dgaf with their burnt cupcakes and lost PE kits and flasks of Prosecco

I agree it’s the Instagram look at me I’m not what you’d expect I’m a bad mum I burnt the cupcakes and downed a bottle of Prosecco!
Oh do fuck off!

itsasmallwordafterall · 26/09/2019 17:57

Jesus the world is turning to shit.

I know let's start a thread about how dreadful another human being is.

First of all, how you think that's not mean spirited to make personal comments about someone, I don't know and it's bordering on cuntish behaviour.

I think it's also quite unfair to chuck her into the same category as certain vlogging families etc who literally have a camera in their kids eyeballs all day long and do seem to live very luxurious lives in comparison to the average Joe. They come across as a very normal, nice family.

Her husband is painting all their kitchen cabinets to save money for fuck sake. I don't think you can get more normal than that. I'd rather eat my own shit, than do that mid renovation.

Interested to know...Do you follow her op?

Original poster
Katex888 · 26/09/2019 18:00

Bore off @Benes honestly I am not going to admit anything. Just like I’m not going to be reading her new book, you don’t have to read this thread.

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hsegfiugseskufh · 26/09/2019 18:04

kate the more you comment the more you just seem generally a bit arsey and mean.

Original poster
Katex888 · 26/09/2019 18:10

That’s fine if you think that, your opinion isn’t going to affect my daily life. Just like my opinion isn’t going affect the unmummsys mum daily life.

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hsegfiugseskufh · 26/09/2019 18:10

🙄😂 ok then kate

DefConOne · 26/09/2019 18:21

I don’t follow her, no. I don’t even know what an influencer is. Too busy doing a full time job in part time hours, raising two DC (one with ASD and the shit storm of stress that brings), and doing up a house mostly by ourselves.

Benes · 26/09/2019 18:37

The more you post the worse you sound Kate

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