To find the unmummsy mum really dreadful

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I know she has a lot of fans, and some parts of her first book were funny. Although the second book was dire, why would she need to tell everyone when she has sex with her husband as if it’s once in a year event.

I find her really cringe worthy and I don’t understand the hype. She thinks she’s really funny when she’s not, she’s not unmummsy, she seems like a great mum with her kids but makes out she is rubbish all the time. Why?

I don’t understand how everyone think she’s the funniest thing ever.

Unmumsy mum is lovely. She's very honest about not breezing through parenthood or 'loving every minute'. She cares about promoting support for mum mental health and other issues she can use her platform to help.

If you don't like her that's fine, but this thread is mean. She's a fellow mum just trying to wade through ado her best. We should be supportive of each other.

One thing I don't understand is why is it ok to criticise celebrities but one must be supportive of influencers?

I don't have an opinion about Unmumsy as I've never followed her. I do find the whole "I've managed to keep my kids alive today so well done me & now I need gin" hapless parenting very trite. I don't follow many influencers on social media anymore but I can still criticise some of the dubious practices eg not declaring ads, too many ads, privacy issues, etc.

Never heard of her until reading this thread.

YABU
Her first book was laugh out loud
She's pretty funny. I don't get some comedians but different strokes for different folks eh
No need to start a thread about it

I don’t get the whole mum vlogging/blogging thing anyway, who wants to watch/read about the same old shit we all do each day anyway (although some clearly have as otherwise they’d not exist).
I think it’s the younger mums that like this (fair enough), but I grew up in the 60’s/70’s and am proudly ‘a bit old fashioned’.

I’m quite shocked by this thread, not the comments about the book/blogger, she’s not someone I’ve followed, but the comments that we shouldn’t discuss it! Are people not allowed an opinion anymore? I feel like people are becoming less tolerant of other people’s views in life and it’s becoming ok to shut down discussion. There’s a quote somewhere along the lines of ‘if free speech bothers you then try living somewhere where it’s forbidden’ or something like that. I think people would do well to remember.

I love her! Part of her appeal to me is that she seems so ordinary, she's relatable. Other mummy vloggers with their grey/silver/white immaculate houses and lots of money to have a nanny or cleaners or get their hair done every 5 minutes are not relatable to me. So while they might make funny posts or tell stories about how hard their day is, I usually think....well It's not that hard for you is it?

And I think that's why this thread feels mean. She's a mum who's earning a living, finding her way through motherhood without her own mum to ask for advice. Her kids seem so happy and loved, and she might find some of these opinions hurtful. We know she reads mumsnet!

I don’t get the whole mum vlogging/blogging thing anyway, who wants to watch/read about the same old shit we all do each day

Well yeah, that’s kind of the point. Talking about the struggles of everyday life so you don’t feel quite so alone. My grandmother has always said how isolated she felt, as there were no baby groups or support for women and no one spoke about how hard being a Mum is. I’d hate to go back to those days!

She sounds great, just the sort of voice I’d have found helpful in the baby days.
Totes Innapropes has a fab Peri-Meno FB group where you’re encouraged not just to have a moan but to share what exercise/diet/supplement/HRT etc works for you.
Used to read Why Mummy Drinks but the pieces started looking a bit recycled so not as interesting.
Putting blog posts in a book often doesn’t work, unless you haven’t read the original blog.

She was one of the first 'mum bloggers' and has just kept going based on response.
Posts like this are uncalled for... Is your real name 'ruth' by any chance?

never heard of her but by sounds of it she is funny, dont take herself to seriously and isnt all faked up like most instagram crap

I cant stand the perfect mum crap, so unattainable and unrealistic

I think she's really down to earth and normal. She doesn't really do paid content and is probably the only one that doesn't!

If you don't like her don't follow her, we all have people we don't get in RL, on tv, social etc.

She's one of the best ones!

‘And I think that's why this thread feels mean. She's a mum who's earning a living, finding her way through motherhood without her own mum to ask for advice. Her kids seem so happy and loved, and she might find some of these opinions hurtful. We know she reads mumsnet!‘

No, she’s a commercial author who has put herself and her life out there to make money. It’s fine to say you don’t enjoy her content/books and why. I would agree people shouldn’t make unfounded, personal comments though but I would say that about anyone.

I like her because she makes me feel less bad for not enjoying every minute of being a parent and a lot of what she says resonates with me. I do also find her funny but not everyone can find the same people funny and that’s fair enough.
I don’t think there’s a need for anyone of this thread to be unkind about other women finding certain things funny.

I haven't heard of her.

But this thread seems unfair: of course we are 'allowed' to discuss it!

I've never seen her, but the absolute worst is Knee Deep In Life.

By which I mean, I've never seen the Unmumsy Mum.

She’s effectively a business like most of the big influencers so yes discussion is fine. For what it’s worth I quite like her posts but I haven’t read the books. I laughed out loud lots at the hurrah for Gin books. It is Peter and Jane that annoys me- the social media posts are just so long and rambly.

I thought the Instamum threads were good because they drew people’s attention to undeclared #ADs, free gifts and the use of children as advertising props.

Unmumsy really does ADs about 5% as much as the other “lot” though so I don’t think she should be a target. She also comes across as just very real and genuine, or trying to sell herself a certain way.

I do agree with PPs though that the the whole feeling like you’re failing / not loving the baby straight away thing has been done to death. Most people tell you they think they’re doing a crap job now.

Couldn't agree more. Someone recommended her first book to me so I took it on holiday last year and have never read such obvious, crass drivel. Gives mums a bad name.

Awful, stupid tripe!

My least favourite is hurrah for gin. Followed swiftly by totes inappropes.

Yep!!

So, we're allowed to have an opinion on the Insta Huns but not the Insta Mums? and I seem to recall Mrs Hinch was fair game on a thread once.....

Mumsnet is a weird screwed up double standard place sometimes

God sorry take it all back. It's 'Why Mummy Drinks' that I absolutely loathed. Dreadful.

No idea re the Unmumsy Mum but tbh they all blur into one amorphous mass nowadays.

They're all awful, imagine how their DC will feel in years to come when they see what their parents have publicly posted all over the internet about them...

No she isn't my cup of tea. And do any of these "comedy" mum bloggers who use their children as fodder ever consider how those children will feel later in life, not to mention being picked on at school?
I'm all for blogging but not at the detriment of their children's right to privacy.