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To find the unmummsy mum really dreadful

252 replies

Katex888 · 25/09/2019 23:21

I know she has a lot of fans, and some parts of her first book were funny. Although the second book was dire, why would she need to tell everyone when she has sex with her husband as if it’s once in a year event.

I find her really cringe worthy and I don’t understand the hype. She thinks she’s really funny when she’s not, she’s not unmummsy, she seems like a great mum with her kids but makes out she is rubbish all the time. Why?

I don’t understand how everyone think she’s the funniest thing ever.

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Greggers2017 · 26/09/2019 09:41

Oh wow! I bloody love knee deep in life and hurrah for gin. Find them so funny. They are real life, well for me they are.

Greggers2017 · 26/09/2019 09:42

I also read the reason Mummy drinks and the reason Mummy swears and I can totally relate.

babylove8 · 26/09/2019 09:50

@Katex888 your comparison to criticising Boris Johnson doesn't work. Decisions Boris makes impacts us all as he is running the country most of us live in. What the unmumsy mum does has no impact on our lives, so you feeling the need to criticise and call her "really dreadful" is just an arsehole thing to do.

Passthecherrycoke · 26/09/2019 09:52

@NerrSnerr no, no link where she states the words

“It’s awful having kids”

🤣🤣🤣🤣

Foldinthecheese · 26/09/2019 09:54

I follow the Unmumsy Mum and also her house renovation account. I really recommend the latter. In a sea of interiors accounts where whole bathrooms and kitchens are funded through #gift, it’s really refreshing to see a family who are paying for it themselves and making the compromises that go along with that. That includes her husband painting all of the kitchen units himself in a bid to save money.

I think she also did a lot of good when she was really honest early in the life of her third child when she was honest about why she moved to formula and the various challenges they were facing with him. Most bloggers go on about the third baby just ‘slotting right in’, and she was clear that wasn’t the case in their household.

I’ve never read any of her books, but I’ve never seen her be neglectful (even in a benign sense), but rather just honest about the challenges of raising three boys.

delilabell · 26/09/2019 09:54

I've reported this post.
It's really mean spirited and nasty

NerrSnerr · 26/09/2019 09:56

@Passthecherrycoke you know exactly what I mean. Where has she suggested or implied that it's awful having kids? The whole point of her blog is that having children isn't always easy but that doesn't equate to thinking having kids is awful.

sashamichele · 26/09/2019 09:56

I actually follow her and I think she's great. Love part time working mummy too. They're the only mummy bloggers I follow.

hsegfiugseskufh · 26/09/2019 09:57

foldinthecheese I follow her reno account as well and honestly I bloody love it. We are mid reno with a small child and its really refreshing to see it getting done at a normal pace and not finished within a week and entirely paid for by someone else.

They are so normal.

I also think she has very nice taste.

Passthecherrycoke · 26/09/2019 09:58

Yes I know what you mean. You’re trying to deny her blog is all about moaning about parenthood (albeit with humour) because I can’t link to specific words saying so Wink

JumpyLiz · 26/09/2019 09:59

I like her.

And I LOVE the photo of her husband and toddler on the ride, where the child is screaming and the husband looks like he’s just stared into the abyss Grin

hsegfiugseskufh · 26/09/2019 10:00

cherrycoke her blog is about her actual real life, some of that does entail whinging about parenthood. Most parents at some point, will whinge about what parenting entails. I know I do.

Im not sure I know any parents who don't, tbh.

Her blog isn't ALL moaning about parenthood at all. Have you even read it?

LolaSmiles · 26/09/2019 10:05

People can say whatever they want. That's freedom of speech.
Personally, I find personal abuse unacceptable. Others don't.
I find personal abuse unacceptable.
I don't think commenting (positively/negatively) on the material people put in the public domain or their actions in the public domain is wrong though.

If anyone puts information, books, stories, social media content in the public domain then it's reasonable that it's discussed. People will have opinions on people who set themselves up as influencers, instagranmers etc.

The difference is that because social media creates a superficially blurred boundary there's a false sense of friendship/loyalty/solidarity between people who follow and like them, which you don't get with other types of celebrities. There's similar issues with teen fans of YouTubers etc, people develop a loyalty to a person when it's really a clever piece of self branding and marketing. Being a mum talking about being a mum shouldnt give you immunity from reasonable criticism.
Personal abuse is always unacceptable.

Deadringer · 26/09/2019 10:06

I don't really get blogs. Why would anyone be bothered reading about other people's perfectly ordinary day/life?

welshsoph · 26/09/2019 10:08

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HowlsMovingBungalow · 26/09/2019 10:08

I agree with eeks.

I'd like some laws made concerning Social Media and children being used as a brand.

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Katex888 · 26/09/2019 10:13

No I’m not going to admit I was being mean spirited or bitchy. Get a grip of yourselves, and if I say I don’t find her funny I will say so. If you don’t agree then that’s fine too.

So what if she’s a hard working mother who is honest, aren’t we all? It’s nice she’s helped some mums here, but I don’t find her funny and i don’t see no harm in saying it. Just because you are a fan and think of her as some weird internet friend, doesn’t mean anyone can’t have an opinion.

Some of you are worse then one direction fans.

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BiBiBirdie · 26/09/2019 10:14

@PeterRouseTheFleshofMankindno she really wasn't!
I used to follow mum bloggers when my DCs were small (they're now 12 and 11) and the ones who wrote interesting content were great. Yes there were some boring, clearly money orientated early influencer types that were shite. But the ones before YouTube blogging and the likes were great and very honest. They also bridged that gap between over sharing and keeping their kids anonymity.
I'm thinking of blogs like A Mother's Ramblings, Glowstars and there was another one that cracked me up but I forget the name, it was something like life of a mum. Her DS was prem too.
I don't find ones who bemoan their kids existence funny or who find drinking every night as soon as they can chuck their kids in bed in the least bit amusing.
Why have kids if you are going to bitch about your decision for likes and freebies?
And none of them actually review honestly anymore, they're all too desperate not to lose out on more deals and free stuff.
Blogging and Vlogging now has gone the way of reality TV- it was great when normal types started it but now they are far more aware and join up for self validation and free stuff it's just wank.

BiBiBirdie · 26/09/2019 10:17

@Katex888 I tell you who is worse- Whinge Whinge Wine. There was a whole madness a few years ago about a dad blogger being questionable in motives and trying to get women to send him pictures in return for teaching them how to set up a blog. It was all over Twitter and women were rightly disgusted. All except Whinge who refused to believe any of it despite proof.
I cannot abide women like that. Never found her funny anyway but crickey.

hsegfiugseskufh · 26/09/2019 10:22

you can have an opinion, sure, but it says a lot more about you than it does her.

I don't like a lot of people, or don't find them funny, or don't enjoy their content but I don't feel like I need to write a thread about it.

TokyoSushi · 26/09/2019 10:22

I really like her, and her house renovation thread too!

HowlsMovingBungalow · 26/09/2019 10:27

The irony of MN. A massive % of the messages posted here are moans about DH/Mil/Sil/boss/bestfriends/teachers etc.

But one must not have a moan about 'mummy influencers'. It is mean Hmm

Daffodil2018 · 26/09/2019 10:34

The difference being that if you post anonymously about your MIL/DH/whoever, no one has any idea who they are, whereas this is criticism targeted at a named individual Hmm

OP, I like Unmumsy Mum but of course she's not going to be everyone's cup of tea so YANBU on that front. YABU to start a thread about her though.

mytinyfiredancers · 26/09/2019 10:36

Ah no, I like her. As do millions of others judging my her success. She's funny, writes well and clearly adores her children.

I'm reading her new book at the moment and she even says in there she thinks she's a good mum. She's not pretending to be a shit mum for likes!

Her first book got me through some dark days with DD1 and helped me see that it was fine not to 'cherish every moment' when I was struggling.

She reads MN too, she's referenced it many times. Can't imagine how shitty it'd be to read a thread about you personally where people are just out and out attacking your character. Critique someone's published writing, or world views (ala Hopkins) fine but it's pretty awful to just rain down on someone because you personally don't seem to like them even though you don't know them!

I'm not a fan of the deluge of mum bloggers to be honest, but Sarah was the original one (or the first one to get big) and I think it's in the main because she's relatable.

HowlsMovingBungalow · 26/09/2019 10:40

Maybe any threads on anyone in the public eye should be banned then.