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To find the unmummsy mum really dreadful

252 replies

Katex888 · 25/09/2019 23:21

I know she has a lot of fans, and some parts of her first book were funny. Although the second book was dire, why would she need to tell everyone when she has sex with her husband as if it’s once in a year event.

I find her really cringe worthy and I don’t understand the hype. She thinks she’s really funny when she’s not, she’s not unmummsy, she seems like a great mum with her kids but makes out she is rubbish all the time. Why?

I don’t understand how everyone think she’s the funniest thing ever.

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superram · 25/09/2019 23:34

I don’t anyone, including her, thinks she’s the funniest thing ever. I find her amusing enough but I don’t rofl. I feel the need to slag her off though as she’s a fellow parent that been successful. Yabu

FrangipaniBlue · 25/09/2019 23:43

I'm with you @Katex888 I just don't get it Hmm

babylove8 · 25/09/2019 23:49

I like her and do think she can be quite funny. There are loads of mum bloggers/vloggers around, some of which I find funny, and some of which I don't - but I think in the spirit of supporting fellow mums/parents, it's a bit mean to start a thread slating them... just don't read her books anymore if she bothers you.

MsVestibule · 25/09/2019 23:59

I don't find her the funniest thing ever and I don't think she's trying to be. She's honest about finding motherhood bloody hard, frustrating work sometimes and doesn't sugar coat it. I like her.

Re being an 'Unmumsy Mum' - IIRC from the book, her mum died when she was 16 and she describes her as being a great 'mumsy' mum, e.g. a patient, loving, tea on the table every night with no stress kind of woman. Sarah wanted to be like this but feels as though she is the opposite, hence her moniker.

Proseccoinamug · 26/09/2019 00:07

My least favourite is hurrah for gin. Followed swiftly by totes inappropes.

Just not funny or clever. Also quite often unpleasant.

TheBrilloPad · 26/09/2019 00:18

Let's not make this into another instamum bashing thread.

They're just women, raising kids, trying to do their best, like all of us. Let's not slate them or pull them apart.

FWIW, unmumsymum is one of my faves. She seems genuine/cares about maternal mental health and not making everything look rosey/ has happy and cared for kids that aren't overexposed/ doesn't do shit loads of ads etc etc. She seems well liked by all who meet her too, which says a lot.

Whoops75 · 26/09/2019 00:21

Link ??

No idea who this is but I’m intrigued.

Sashkin · 26/09/2019 00:25

I think they were a backlash against the plethora of awful #feelingblessed #bestlife #here'ssomeprofessional-lookingcraftprojectI'mgoingtopretendmytoddlerdidintenminutesthismorningbetweenorganicricecrackersandmandarinlessons bloggers. The "here is Finnian's Montessori nursery" types. They were genuinely everywhere about 5-10 years ago.

But nobody really does that any more, so the anti-that mummy bloggers just look weirdly defensive about nothing, and not really very funny.

PerfectPeony2 · 26/09/2019 00:27

I find this thread really mean spirited.

I love her. I’d go as far and say that her books have saved me from PND as someone who has struggled with a very difficult baby. I had her 3rd book on pre order and It hasn’t disappointed. She says everything that I have thought but am too scared to say out loud! I have passed her books on to friends who have enjoyed it too.

YABVU.

Don’t like it then don’t read, obviously.

demelza82 · 26/09/2019 00:36

This is all clearly going to end terribly......

YABU

I've not got much interested in mummy bloggers although I have to keep up to date with them.for professional reasons. If you really REALLY have to open up this can of worms again, you've picked the wrong target. There are countless high profile family bloggers who are grabby, lax with declaring their freebies, quite keen on setting their followers on people who pull them up on things etc and she isn't one of them - maybe start a goady thread on them if you really feel like it

Drabarni · 26/09/2019 00:40

I've never heard of her Grin

escapade1234 · 26/09/2019 00:42

God, somebody gave me that Why Mummy Drinks book as a gift and plagued me for my opinions on it so I had to speed read the damn thing. What sort of woman find this trite, cliched rubbish funny? There is a lot of good comedy out there. This isn’t it folks.

The marketplace does seem to be swamped at the moment with books about “slummy mummies”. So hilariously dgaf with their burnt cupcakes and lost PE kits and flasks of Prosecco.

GigiIdid · 26/09/2019 00:45
  1. She explains why she’s called “unmumsy” in the first book. She felt like everyone knew what they were doing and she was clueless. It’s a lighthearted name about her feelings about herself at the time.
  1. She got a book deal from the strength of the response to her blogs where she shared her struggles that no one else talked about. I doubt your bitchy post will garner the same success.

YABU

PerfectPeony2 · 26/09/2019 00:48

What sort of woman find this trite, cliched rubbish funny? There is a lot of good comedy out there. This isn’t it folks.

Well I do and given how popular she is many other Mums do too! No need to sneer just because you think you have a better sense of humour.

managedmis · 26/09/2019 01:13

Who is this woman?

TooMuchPeppa86 · 26/09/2019 01:19

This is a shitty thread.

WinkysTeatowel · 26/09/2019 01:42

^ this

1300cakes · 26/09/2019 01:44

I think she was sort of funny at first what she was saying was more unique, and it was a response to the perfect family blogs described above. Now everyone is doing the exact same thing though and it's become a boring cliche - you can't open the internet without having 100 articles of how being a parent is soooo hard and sooooo shit pop up.

firstimemamma · 26/09/2019 01:57

I really like her. If I didn't like her I just wouldn't read her books or follow her online. There's no need for a mean thread as lots of other posters have pointed out.

tvdinnertracks · 26/09/2019 02:02

Yet when there was a thread saying the most hideous and vile things about Katy Price it just got worse and worse and hardly anyone minded.

I and others reported it and Mumsnet let it stand.

Florencenotflo · 26/09/2019 02:36

I really struggled when dd1 was born, it wasn't all sweetness and roses, I loved her of course but I wasn't overwhelmed with love for this tiny human I'd made (like everyone tells you). I felt like there was something wrong with me for staring at my perfect newborn and feeling like crying because I missed my 'old' life.

A friend gave me Sarah's first book when Dd was about 10 days old and without sounding cheesy it was the first time I felt ok about how I was feeling.

I don't follow any other 'mummy bloggers' a lot of them can be over the top or very try hard. The unmummsy Mum isn't one of them. I find her very honest and nothing she's ever posted is for effect, it's her life.

If she's not your cup of tea you don't have to read the books or follow her on SM. But starting a thread about how much you dislike a person (and at the end of the day, she is a normal person, not a celebrity for whom an Internet roasting is par for the course - unfortunately) is very mean spirited.

mokapot · 26/09/2019 03:31

Who is she? I’m not on the gram, book or snappy chatty thingy. Is she on google?

YellowArdvsrk · 26/09/2019 03:54

But nobody really does that any more, so the anti-that mummy bloggers just look weirdly defensive about nothing, and not really very funny.

I do think this is a good point. Those blogs served a good purpose for their moment in time though.

CardiFree · 26/09/2019 04:01

Another one that's never heard of her. My DC are teens though tbf.

cardamoncoffee · 26/09/2019 05:36

I've heard of her but haven't read any of her stuff. I know from reading other 'slummy mummy' stuff though that it's vair fashionably middle class to make out that your children are in desperate need of a social services intervention because you have no idea how to parent. FOD is a prime example.