To find the unmummsy mum really dreadful

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I know she has a lot of fans, and some parts of her first book were funny. Although the second book was dire, why would she need to tell everyone when she has sex with her husband as if it’s once in a year event.

I find her really cringe worthy and I don’t understand the hype. She thinks she’s really funny when she’s not, she’s not unmummsy, she seems like a great mum with her kids but makes out she is rubbish all the time. Why?

I don’t understand how everyone think she’s the funniest thing ever.

Another thing that confuses me is why do people need an influencer to show them real parenting? Aren't they, their families & friends actually living it? Aren't most parents muddling through, juggling & dropping plates, laughing one minute & crying the next, etc. Or do some people actually believe that they will give birth & their lives will be like a Center Parcs advert?

“We all get through it without becoming semi alcoholics”? Really? You think that nobody struggles; that nobody is so unhappy or stressed or not coping that they actually turn to booze or prescription drugs or overeating or anything else? What a naice little bubble you must live in!

She’s just a mother doing her best, first to get through the incredibly hard “tiny” years, and then because she found an audience who appreciated her finding humour in situations they could relate to and feel like they weren’t so alone, to earn some money to support her family. I suspect she’s helped far more mothers with young children than most.

If it’s not to your taste that’s absolutely your prerogative, but why start such a negative and mean spirited thread?

I’m sure there are things you do, or find funny, that people could sneer at if they were so inclined (would certainly be the case with me!).

Sarah is local to me and I often notice local places when she posts.

She is real and I think what you see is real. Her posts are natural and I can relate to them.

Also she is very nice in real life.

Other mummy vloggers with their grey/silver/white immaculate houses

And I think that's why this thread feels mean. She's a mum who's earning a living, finding her way through motherhood

Ironic. You don't consider your first comment mean about mums trying to earn a living?

I'm not a fan of that style of humour, though she isn't the worst. Some of the blogs which mimic hers are absolutely vile, in my opinion. The whole "bloody kids, pass the wine" was funny and honest at first, but like everything, it's become a competition to see who can be the most foul mouthed, crude and "real" about parenting, often involving some really horrendous comments directed at their children, complete with embarrassing pictures.

There comes a point where your feelings about your motherhood should in fact be hidden and kept to yourself, or shared only with a good therapist. Certainly not paraded on Instagram where your child will read it sooner than you think.

Er, to clarify my last post, when I said “would certainly be the case with me,” I meant that people could sneer at my lowbrow tastes, not that I would sneer at you, OP! for me!!

There are loads of comedians and comediennes that I can’t stand. I just don’t watch their stuff and concentrate on the ones I do like. I don’t start bitchy threads about finding them unfunny cos, y’know, humour is subjective?

When will women start lifting each other up instead of taking any opportunity to knock them down?

The first thing like this I recall was a column in a broadsheet about a working mum called ‘I Don’t Know How She Does It’. It became a series of books and later a film. I started to read it because our DC were similar ages but gave up because it was so annoying. In my head I renamed it ‘I don’t know why she bothers’ because she seemed to be so half-arsed about everything she did.

I used to love a blog called Nunhead Ramblings about a mum who seemed to actually enjoy her life and her family but sadly the writer became unwell and stopped posting. I often think of her and wonder how she is doing.

Different stokes for different folks.

I like the unmumsy mum. The books helped me during my PND when i was blaming myself and comparing my parenting and baby. It was good to know everyone wasn't a natural or perfect parent, plus i had something good to read during the constant night feeds which almost broke us.

It’s bitchy when you like someone, and it’s fair game for people who no one likes. Great logical thinking.

It's just bitching and that's not acceptable just because someone has shared a small part of their lives online.

I think this is a very grey area. I agree that personal attacks are not on but as someone who is around lots of young people & is a parent I absolutely reserve the right to be critical of what is on social media. It's not a question of don't like, don't look as social media doesn't exist in a vacuum & does have an effect on society.

So is no one allowed to critique her books now as it’s deemed “bitchy”. Get a grip, if you write books then you must be prepared for all sorts of criticism. I said I don’t find her funny, I didn’t drag down another hard working mummy like everyone is going on about.

You’d think I’d curse her and stole her first newborn the way people are reacting. Threads about her are mean spirited but threads on boris Johnson is fine (don’t worry I don’t like him) who decides who can be criticised here? Mumsnet police?

Ah, she’s harmlessly.

Don’t like, don’t read, don’t follow. I get the perverse pleasure of following someone whose essentially a hate read then discussing them on another forum. I lurked/commented on the ThatWife/Living Absolutely GOMI threads for years but you’ll feel much better if you don’t have them in your feed.

When will women start lifting each other up instead of taking any opportunity to knock them down?

Does this apply to Katie Hopkins?

critique her books

This thread critiques her not her books.

I'm not a great fan. But I think it kind of comes down to humour differences.

I don't get Lee Evans. Can't stand slapstick. I do get Ricky Gervais. Many people find him really offensive rather than really funny.

So no, I don't rate her, but she's still reasonably popular. It's a bit unnecessary to start a thread about it though. You already know the answer. Some aren't keen on her humour and writing style. Some are. I do think hats off for a mum of three to reach a level of success as an author that she's probably got no mortgage, and if she's helped even one person feel a little more human, fair play.

Variety is the spice...

I thought this thread was going to be about an unmummsy mum at the school gate or something, and I clicked because I thought it might be me.

The unmumsey is the sort of blogger who before I had children I would have hated. Now I have 2 children and I follow her on fb.
I don’t like all of what she says. I’m not a fan of ‘freezer tapas’ etc because it just makes mums look lazy, but I can relate to the baby that won’t sleep and the son who thinks he can fly (literally).
I can also relate to losing my Mum and the effect that has on you once you become a mother yourself.

Horrible bitchy thread. I think she's great. She made me feel normal when I was struggling with my toddler.

Of course you can critique any book but i think it depends on your language as to whether people see it as bitchy or a discussion, "She thinks she’s really funny when she’s not" vs "i don't find the books funny at all."

Giving reviews and feedback for discussion are good to be constructive, as well as give opinion.

I haven't seen any other mum bloggers, i was recommended UMM books. I'm not interested in blogs, or vbloggers. The only time i felt a passion to join a discussion and give negative fb was the vbloggers who used cold showers as cruel punishment. I do have a few friends who are pretty religious about watching loads though, one likes some cleaning one too which is weird to me.

Why is discussing a published author unfair or mean? I find that more disturbing than anything any individual blogger/writer could write!

I follow her and I don't really follow any other mum bloggers. I like her. She doesn't do many ads, isn't trying too hard to be funny and I don't think she exploits her kids as much as other bloggers do. She does little boomerang video clips and relatively standard photos rather than filming them constantly. I also have a bit of a soft spot for Wilf!

I wouldn't buy her books though, they're not my cup of tea.

I have to say, I don't see why people can't critique or criticise mum bloggers like they would actors or singers. The op hasn't said anything personal about her, just that she doesn't like her online persona really.

Why. Do. You. Care?

Why is discussing a published author unfair or mean

This thread is not critiquing her books, it's critiquing (read: bitching about) her.