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Aibu to wonder if everybody life is like this?

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Laraaussie · 24/09/2019 21:22

So today I got up at 6am, coffee, breakfast, then rushed around getting ready sorting kids eldest just sits around and does nothing unless told, no common sense, youngest 4yo spends all morning moaning and having tantrums because he can't get his socks on.

Left house, dropped dc at childcare, struggled through bad traffic to get to work. Left work, got stuck in unexpectedly bad traffic, was going to be late to collect dc so had to ring my mother who thankfully was able to collect them but I was super stressed.

Got home, youngest heads straight to the toilet for his usual after school poo, calls me to wipe his bottom. I then leave him to wash his hands while I have a tidy up, can hear water, he's left the tap running with the plug in and had flooded the bathroom, water pissing through the ceiling so I'm trying to dry it all up with towels while youngest is crying because he's flooded the bathroom Hmm

I nag eldest to pick up after himself as he leaves a trail of mess in his path.

I cook dinner, then go out to swimming lessons, more traffic, no parking spaces at busy leisure centre despite leaving in plenty of time we only make it in in the nick of time. After swimming queue for showers, people pushing in gives me the rage.

Head to shops for milk/bread top up, forget the bread.

Home, eat the dinner I've cooked, dh home by then, by the time we've cleared up, got kids to bed, sorted bags/uniforms for tomorrow, stuck a washing load on, we've just sat down.

I'm knackered and tomorrow I do it all again.

OP posts:
Alexandra2018 · 26/09/2019 17:57

Never ending day of taxi ing, laundry cleaning and cooking it’s exhausting!

Drabarni · 26/09/2019 17:58

No, never has been, two left, one to go.
You have my sympathy.

StarlingsInSummer · 26/09/2019 18:03

I only have one but it sounds very similar to my life. Especially the four year old whining when getting dressed, and leaving taps running - DC has done that several times in our downstairs loo and first thing we realised is when DH gets home and goes in there to find it like a sauna because the hot tap has been running for 2 hours.

OneAutumnMorning · 26/09/2019 18:03

Yep. All the way to 10oclock every night. My two flooded the bathroom yesterday too whilst they were in the bath. Then 3yo managed to get the carton of soya milk (my last carton) and empty it all over the kithen floor. Obviously it makes WAY more of a flood than it should. You'd think 10 cartons had been emptied.

I then couldn't sit down and have a cup of tea. I didn't get a morning cup of coffee. I cried. That is literally the only thing I have for me!

BenjiB · 26/09/2019 18:05

Sounds like a pretty standard day!

Redspider1 · 26/09/2019 18:08

Make your life easier. Forget the swimming lessons in the evening, maybe swap to Saturday or do an intensive course when you have time off.
This sounds easier said than done, but spend time teaching your DC to do things for themselves, once they can do something don't do it for them.
Do online food shop.
Forget trying to fill weekends with FB worthy stuff. just chill and enjoy being at home doing simple stuff. DC have such full on weeks too, they probably want to run around the park then flop with you!
Lastly, this phase will pass! Grin

Redspider1 · 26/09/2019 18:10

I was SAHM for 7 years and I know not everyone wants to or can do that
but boy was my life more chilled than you describe.I sacrificed money but was happier. Good luck.

Booyahkasha · 26/09/2019 18:10

Yep then we have various kids clubs til 9, it never ends! Knackering but I secretly don't mind.

speakout · 26/09/2019 18:16

Working long hours with children will never be easy.
I didn't work when the children were young, then became self employed, working from home, able to work part time and fit hours around my children.
My kids are older now- still at home, but don't need childcare.

My days are filled with nice things! Yoga, pottering, craft work etc.

speakout · 26/09/2019 18:17

Sometimes we have no choice but to be a SAHM.

Mitzicoco · 26/09/2019 18:18

Sounds like my day. Except have to cook two separate diners as dh doesn't get back to 9pm YYYYYYYYYYYYYYAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN

speakout · 26/09/2019 18:21

Mitzicoco

Why do you have to cook two separate dinners?

Toomuchtrouble4me · 26/09/2019 18:24

That used to be my life for sure.
Now...
Woke at 7, made some porridge for younger two and drive them to school.
Drank my coffee and listened to the radio.
Let ironing lady in at 11 and went to do a quick shop,
Met a friend between her clients and had a quick lunch and gossip.
Home for 2.
Made a shepherds pie and put the ironing away whilst watching crap TV.
Spoke to DD at uni who’s phone had died - not a happy bunny. Upgraded her phone,
DH in from work at 3, kids in at 4.30.
Just about to dish up Shepard’s pie and then going over the toad for a glass with my friend.
2 kids at school years 5 and 7, two at Uni - DH’s business took off and I gave up teaching and am a lady of leisure.
I look back at my previous life and I’m amazed at how I managed it - constantly treading water - they get older, it gets easier. Hang on in there. X

Elllicam · 26/09/2019 18:25

I got up at 5, got 4 kids ready (6,5,2, 9mo). Gave everyone breakfast, tidied, helped with homework, dropped 2 at school, did a food shop, came home, hung out with my mum and my baby niece for a couple hours, tidied, made lunch, tidied, picked up from school, made dinner, got my two oldest ready for boys brigade, babies ready for bed, my friend has taken my two with her son to boys brigade so I’m getting the babies off to bed and watching tv/playing on my phone. Tomorrow I’ll be working a 12 hour night shift with no sleep though so it’ll be busier.

Frazzledstar1 · 26/09/2019 18:27

Sounds familiar here except we don’t do any clubs but I do try and run during the week. Always all go!

speakout · 26/09/2019 18:29

Tomorrow is a typical day

Wake early, back to bed with coffee
Shower
Yoga class
A few bits of food shopping
Browse in my favourite charity shop
Stick on laundry
Craft work
Make lunch
More craft work
Make dinner
Pick up DD from train station
Drink wine
Serve dinner
Chat to OH.
Bed.

Mitzicoco · 26/09/2019 18:30

Speakout

Don't like to leave dh eating by himself as he works such long hours and we both love VERY spicey food which the kids can't eat!

Jack80 · 26/09/2019 18:32

This sounds like my husbands dad, I have it easy really, we both work part time I do the washing/drying putting away, ironing and cleaning. It is like ground hog day, I do work 3 part time jobs.

speakout · 26/09/2019 18:32

Mitzicoco you can sit with him while he eats?
I love spicy food too- simply add spice to your plate.
Doesn't need two meals.

Lou12124 · 26/09/2019 18:34

I'm with all of you! It's the most difficult job in the world but rewarding and amazing at the same time. I work 2 night shifts a week until 2am and have to do school runs each day which is a killer! But us mums are amazing and superwoman so can pretty much do/get through anything!

CroissantsAtDawn · 26/09/2019 18:35

@Mitzicoco

Either leave something for DH to reheat, or, my preferred version, let him cook his own dinner when gets in!

I eat my main meal at lunchtime in the work canteen then a sandwich or whatever in the evening. DC eat batch cooked food, reheated by the nanny before I get home. DH cooks whatever he wants usually with pasta...

manicmij · 26/09/2019 18:37

Standard day then!

Mitzicoco · 26/09/2019 18:37

Speakout will look into recipies I can bung a load of chili on!

MrsBadcrumble123 · 26/09/2019 18:38

Yup welcome to family life...

CroissantsAtDawn · 26/09/2019 18:38

Or save the spicy food for the weekend?

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