My friend called me ignorant, was I being unreasonable?

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I met my friend with the kids at soft play today for some lunch. She is my closest friend and has been for about 4/5 years, we see each other almost everyday and if we don't see each other, we at least speak on the phone daily. She's like a sister to me.

Anyways today she was telling me a story, it seemed as if the story was finished and my phone rang, it was my sister so I picked up the phone. I noticed my friend rolled her eyes at this. I literally had a two minute conversation with my sister about money she had transferred to me.

When I got off the phone, I asked my friend a question and she just continued to look away from me and not respond. Then the conversation went like this:

Me: are you just ignoring me? Haha

Friend: well you just picked up your phone when I was in the middle of speaking.

Me: I thought you were done with the story.

Friend: I wasn't and you just picked up the phone without even acknowledging it, was a bit ignorant to be honest.

Me: I'm really sorry, I honestly thought you were finished.

Friend: it's fine.

That was it dropped and the rest of the afternoon went as normal, no atmosphere or anything.

But now I've had time to think, I think my friend was a bit out of order calling me ignorant over a genuine misunderstanding. Anyone else?

You were (inadvertently) rude. She got annoyed and called you a name. Then you moved on. Dont think it's worth thinking about anymore.

No, you were being unreasonable. If it was an important call then you could have said "do you mind if I take this?"

Just picking up the phone was rude.

You were rude and I wonder if you do this all the time and she's had enough.

Well I'd certainly prefer the word 'rude' to 'ignorant'.

I find it's usual for people to say 'sorry, I do need to take this' etc. Then apologise when finished.

I'd never answer my phone in company without apologising first. Unless I thought it important I wouldnt answer it. You were rude.

What is it with people totally misusing the word ignorant nowadays? However, if she had called you rude she would have been right.

The actual word may not be ideal but you were rude and she appears to have been pretty forgiving so I'd chalk it up to experience and not pick up your phone for non-urgent stuff when seeing friends again!

Yes,sorry it was rude. When my friends have to take a phonecall, they always say "excuse me do you mind if I take this call?". I tend to put my phone on silent when with friends.

To just answer it without saying excuse me first and to cut her off like that without commenting on what she'd said was bad manners unfortunately and whilst she was a bit childish in her response, her upset was understandable.

You were rude. I'm assuming unintentionally.

I agree with other posters, the word ‘ignorant’ was incorrectly used. However, when in company of others, I think it’s good manners to apologise and state you’re going to take the call.
As things are fine between you two, I wouldn’t overthink this

You were rude.

You were definitely being ignorant. Would you have taken the call when you talked to someone at work?

You were definitely rude
Your sisters call couldn't wait and you had to pick up while your friend was talking to you ?
I had a ' friend ' that did this .. we'd go out and she would be all in her Facebook, even in the cinema , not just tagging us in , messaging and replying to comments
Needless to say I don't speak to her anymore
On more than one occasion I asked her to put it down
YABU

You weren't ignorant, you were rude.

I don't think she misused the word at all, judging by your account of events you do seem quite ignorant.

I don't think you were rude, you thought she finished and you answered your phone...hardly a big deal.

I am comfortable enough around my friends to answer my phone without asking permission.

Or ignorant

Ignorant of good manners/how to behave. Apologise.

From dictionary.com

ignorant
/ˈɪɡn(ə)r(ə)nt/
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adjective
1.
lacking knowledge or awareness in general; uneducated or unsophisticated.
"he was told constantly that he was ignorant and stupid"
Similar:
uneducated
unknowledgeable
Opposite:
educated
knowledgeable
2.
INFORMAL
discourteous or rude
"this ignorant, pin-brained receptionist"

So, yes you were

You were rude. Even if it was totally clear she had finished, you were with her, and should have said "do you mind if I take this". Taking a call is removing your attention from her. You wouldn't just get up and go to the loo without saying something, so equally you shouldn't dive ino your phone without saying something.

And for those grumbling about the choice of word, "ignorant" has for a long time been used to mean "ignorant of polite behaviour" ie "rude". Even the OED agrees.

Yes, you were ignorant.

Ignorant means uneducated, so no. You weren't ignorant.

Okay then...like a pp said, I thought we were close enough friends that I didn't need to ask permission to answer my phone.

But apparently I do, so will know in future.

It's not about permission IMHO. It's about focusing on being there with your friend.