My DD's first boyfriend is transgender and I feel weird about it.

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I've always been a very liberal minded person. Supported gay rights all my life. My best friend and DN are gay. I support the rights of Trans people to live their life etc.

My dd15 has a nice group of friends (boys and girls). In that group is a Trans teen (Female to Male). He changed his name in Y8, He's totally accepted as Male at school. There are no issues. He looks completely Male and people who don't know him would never think that he'd been born female. He's a nice boy who is well liked. All good.

Except last night my DD told me she's going out with him. I've surprised myself that this has unnerved me.

My dd hasn't had a BF before. She's only ever snogged one boy before at a party. She says she's 100% straight. She says she fancies the cool older boys in Sixth Form. Has teenage celebrity crushes on boys like Tom Holland etc. So how does this work for her?

Last night I told her all was fine and just to be careful they didn't damage a friendship if they broke up etc, but I didn't make a big deal of it.

Would you find this weird if your dc said they were straight? Please be honest. I'm kind of hoping it fizzles out without any drama.

Are those serious comparisons?
Please tell me you’re joking. You must be. Surely.

Oh Lloyd, you old silly - of course someone dyeing their hair is exactly equivalent to a child being given cross-sex hormones! Loosen the fuck up!

That intervention was so mad I actually thought I must have been on the wrong thread for a minute.

I mean that’s just nuts. I know we’re supposed to be polite but that’s out and out fucking nuts.
It’s got to be a joke, hasn’t it? Is my irony detector on the blink again?

Nah you’re ok lloyd

I think it’s just that poster

But is it a joke? I’m a bit pissed. Have I missed something?
No one is that insane are they?
My certainties are in pieces on the floor. Someone help!!

Well OP did ask. No matter how lovely and incredibly well balanced this young trans person might seem - Do I want my 15 yr old daughter going out with someone of a group with these stats? No.

If my child says they are straight but has a trans boyfriend who is actually female then I’m wondering what confusion is being bandied about at school and would be concerned by how much reality is being twisted and redefined. I’ve already seen the fallout when a friends 16 yr old niece got caught up in an unhealthy relationship with a struggling young trans person and how it affected her - so I would be concerned and rather my child stayed clear.

And yes, these stats concern me - my 15 yr old doesn’t need to possibly have to be dealing with this

But is it a joke? I’m a bit pissed. Have I missed something

Nope youve missed nothing

The poster believes that

Its not you...its them

I don’t know whether I’m relieved or appalled rufus!
God there’s some fruit loops out there

lloyd

A friend of mine has had the breast cancer test..if (god forbid) it comes back positive and she decides to remove her breasts i will tell her its exactly like dying her hair or having her ears pierced

I’ll let you know how well she takes it

Well I hope she is ok.
I know we are taking the piss but looked at in that light this insanity isn’t funny, is it?

No i don’t find any of this funny really

My coping mechanism to take the piss out of everything

@LloydBraun, well I can only tell you what I know to be true based on my real life experience, the child I know is no more unbalanced than any teenager. I don’t know the child the OP refers too, but I don’t see why she has an reason to lie about she sees.

@Toorahtoorahaye

Those “suicide” stats were based on flawed data and have been widely debunked, though they are still wheeled out by certain groups to emotionally blackmail critics of trans ideology.

Rendered sterile as a teenager = dying your hair as a teenager.
I have seen it all now.

Forgive me, but I find it hard to accept that someone who is taking hormones to approximate to the other sex is entirely well balanced

I find it hard to believe that a teenager is entirely well balanced and I say that as someone who is totally against hormones and surgery.

And this is the harmful confusing nonsense vulnerable young people caught up in this queer/gender theory are being hit with. No thanks.

Well OP did ask. No matter how lovely and incredibly well balanced this young trans person might seem - Do I want my 15 yr old daughter going out with someone of a group with these stats? No.

I think your comment demonstrates transphobia and prejudice in a nutshell. Basically you are saying that if someone belong to a certain group then it doesn't matter how happy they are or how happy they make the daughter as they must bad because some other people in the group are bad.

And these adult men fir some bizarre reason have a bunch of female followers to do their dirty work. Who dont seen to realise the rape culture they are peddling

This comment has nothing to do with OPs situation although it does demonstrate your true agenda and that the stated concern for children who are transgender is fake.

“Lesbians have to accept penis or they are transphobic”. Every trans person doesn’t believe this y’know. It’s really not a hive mind, what you see on social media isn’t necessarily the views or experiences of all trans people. You will see the people who are extreme in their views but there are plenty more who don’t think like that and aren’t posting about it.

This young person could be quite happy, if they’re dysphoric and are receiving treatment (including some sort of therapy) then it could genuinely be a relief to them. OP hasn’t even suggested that they are part of any trans social media following and surgeries also might not be on the table for them.

I don’t really agree with youngsters being given hormones but just being on them doesn’t necessarily mean that the rest of their life is a mess.