To think this won't ruin Christmas?

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Mil was saying it won't be long until dc will believe in santa-claus (dc is only 22 months so surely it would be next Christmas not the upcoming Christmas ). I mentioned we were thinking of not doing the whole santa-claus thing and telling him the truth. Mil said how awful I was, and I will be ruining Christmas for my dc and that I'm a very selfish women.

AIBU to think that's a over reaction and it won't ruin Christmas. Any of you not do the whole santa-claus thing for Christmas?

Although ruining Christmas is a bit extreme I do think it would take away some of the magic of it in the early years.

If you tell him the truth from an early age you better do some serious priming to make sure he doesn’t spoil it for his peers.

Also received a text this morning saying she hopes I have changed my mind and seen some sense

Frankly, I think it makes you a fun sponge of the highest order.

And you'll have to teach them not to blurt it out in front of their friends.

I've heard of people doing this and always thought it was a little bit mean. Believing in father Christmas is part of the magic of childhood. I've never heard of a child being upset that their parents 'lied' but I do know lots of children and adults who talk about the magic of Christmas.

But this debate has been done before on mn so I know there are plenty of people who disagree.

I'm with your MIL.

Why would you do that? . The grinch is alive and well.

May I ask why you don't want your child to have Father Christmas? I'm sorry but in think that is truly, truly sad. Nothing as an adult ever genuinely replicates the excitement and magic of Father Christmas as a child. I can't understand why you wouldn't want your child to have that. Plus you could of course inadvertently ruin it for all of your child's friends if he tells them all.

But why would you do this?

Why on earth would you do that?

Oh and yes make sure they don't tell other kids!

Yeah I'm with your MIL too tbh. Don't suck the fun out of Christmas and use the "truth" as the reason. I loved believing in Santa as a child. It really was magical.

It has not harmed any child believing in Santa and I don't think it's fair on your little one being the only one especially when they start school to not believe in Santa. Imagine if they started telling his friends that Santa isn't real and the friends say he does and it causes conflict in the friendship, because at a young age I'm sure it would.

What harm is there in letting them believe in Santa?

I think this is so sad. Why? Why would you?

There is so little magic and joy in life and little children believing in Santa, the tooth fairy is really rather sweet.

In wanting ‘honesty’ with your child, to be a decent human being, the lesson has to come with a big dose of training in never revealing the ‘truth’ to his peers.

Aw, I find it really sad that you’d deny your child a wee bit of the “magic” of Christmas.

What a kill joy 🙄 Is another one of those current 'Oh look at how alternative I am' trends? 'Oh I don't lie to my child'.

Is that you Scrooge?

This has to be a reverse. I would be equally upset if my children decided to abolish Father Christmas for their children

Agree with your MIL

Aw. Why do it? There's so little magical whimsy left in the world.

Please do the Santa thing. It makes Christmas magical for a child.

Oh dear

"The whole Santa Claus thing"??

Poor kid, I think it's cruel. Why wouldn't you want your child to have that little bit of magic?

Sorry I agree with your MIL. Let your child enjoy believing in him. I have two children and it’s just magical. Life is hard enough. Don’t be so serious.

lunas exactly what I thought. Alternative for the sake of it......