To be annoyed that a joint house is not in my name

[stellavisionandunderstanding]

AIBU?

I sold my house in the UK and my husband and I bought a house together. We live abroad. His parents do everything and everything is passed by them. At the time I was focused on having our second child and before I knew it, his parents had taken him to an accountant to sort out the deeds and the paperwork.

I'm really cross about this as my rights by hanging my name on a house has been lost and this is not what I signed up to. I keep saying when do I sign something and then he finally told me what they'd gone and done.

He keeps saying we'll buy another flat in a few years and your name will be on it. It annoys me that this was done for tax reasons by his parents rather than protecting the right I had. I'd like to go back and do further study and now I can't show evidence for local frees rather than international. Please tell me I'm being unreasonable!

You're ungrateful that he's stolen your money?! Good god!

Tell him if it's 'our' money it needs 'our' names on it!

Point out you believed it was an oversight, but his refusal to fix it makes you begin to wonder if he did it on purpose.

His parents told him the tax would be less.

Took him to the law firm and they signed it all.

Outrageous.

stella did you invest any money in the UK property? Or was it that by default you owned half because you’re married to him?

Our Money is our money until he wants a divorce. Go and have a word first then make appointment for both of you. That way you will know costs and where you stand. Don't give in of course his parents will say that you need to protect yourself.

I invested half of the money and he did too.

Ungrateful??! He appears to have deprived you of both options and assets. What do you have to be grateful for? Also, that's a word you use with a child or dependent.

I'm sceptical that this saved anything taxwise as well. That doesn't tend to be how things work for married couples. I don't know the country and I'm not a legal expert, but if I were in your shoes I certainly wouldn't take that at face value.

It is really easy to transfer property into joint names in the UK, I’m not sure where your property is. I have just done it using a solicitor & it cost £224 inclusive of all their fees.

Call the cab or your countries equivalent. If he doesn’t change it immediately then it sounds like financial abuse to me.

I don’t understand how you avoided tax by leaving your name off the deeds.? Is that a lie on his part?

You need to get legal advice. Get it sorted .
I am livid for you .

I just don't know enough about this paying more tax if both out names are on the house. Is it really that much? I really don't care, I'd rather pay for it.

Tell him that he has defrauded your money and if he doesnt sign it you will seek legal advice and divorce

Or frankly divorce him anyway because he stole your money!

stellavisionandunderstanding

That’s theft, you are being deprived of financial security. I would certainly blow this out of all proportion.

I also wouldn’t trust him st all. If it was about taxes he would’ve discussed and agreed with you.

He just stole your money. Go quickly get advice and act on it.

And if he had decent intentions he should completely understand

It's all so wrong!

Thank you for making me feel so much stronger about it all.

Also... if he is saying only one person can have their name then make that yours.

His behavior is disgusting I’m so angry

I'd like to know why the parents have led him down this road of paying less tax.

He is fobbing you off. Thats not his parents. Thats him.

Not good OP.

Could you at least tell us which country you're in? It won't really make you any more identifiable, but it will likely get you more focussed advice and information.

OP take your money and invest it back in the UK. Don’t trust this man with your money in a country where you don’t understand the financial rules! He sounds manipulative as well as his parents

Am baffled as to what sort of tax benefit this would confer ? Apart from if you then purchased a second property that was only in your name, thereby trying to avoiding CGT on non residential property and second property council tax ? Actually, if you are married that one can backfire and you can lose CGT exemptions.

They need to spell out exactly what the idea is, rather than a woolly ‘tax, ..reasons....don’t bother your little head .....’ ’ Whatever the intent, cutting you out of your rightful property title is appalling and it has to be rectified.

He is not a good man if he’s done this. I would say that is a pretty big red flag for financial abuse.

If you can say, what country are we talking about?

Oman

But the house is back in the UK.

You're not ungrateful and you're certainly not being unreasonable. You want to get your name onto the deeds of a property that should rightly be half yours.

Your dickhead DH and his family have fucked you over. He knew what he was doing.

I would be beyond furious and would insist on legal advice to put it right forthwith.

You might need to consider all options, including getting back to the UK without DH in tow. Therefore I hope you aren't in a country that is signed up to the Hague Convention or you could have problems taking children with you if DH doesn't give his express permission.