To be annoyed that a joint house is not in my name

[stellavisionandunderstanding]

AIBU?

I sold my house in the UK and my husband and I bought a house together. We live abroad. His parents do everything and everything is passed by them. At the time I was focused on having our second child and before I knew it, his parents had taken him to an accountant to sort out the deeds and the paperwork.

I'm really cross about this as my rights by hanging my name on a house has been lost and this is not what I signed up to. I keep saying when do I sign something and then he finally told me what they'd gone and done.

He keeps saying we'll buy another flat in a few years and your name will be on it. It annoys me that this was done for tax reasons by his parents rather than protecting the right I had. I'd like to go back and do further study and now I can't show evidence for local frees rather than international. Please tell me I'm being unreasonable!

So you handed your money over to him...

stellavisionandunderstanding

Was the flat in UK in your name ?

Take legal advice, but I would at the very least be registering an interest with land registry.

So get him to take his name of and put yours on... no he’s not keen?

Honesty op I would just go back to the UK more in with family or friends back here until this is sorted.

Tbh it is unforgivable in my opinion. They have stolen more han your money. What happens next...

Do you have rights over your children where you are?

It was bought as an investment. I'm so upset because my father was an awful man and would do this sort of this to my mother. She had no idea of a lot of stuff until she divorced him. I'm annoyed as my identity and independent had gone. My kids were born in the UK. He's a good man my husband but it's more the identity and lack of accessing to the uk that annoyed me. He just follows his parents and that so frustrating.

I would sue him for theft

We bought the flat off his parents.

Ignore the parents thing. Are you saying that you have invested your money into s property you have no legal title to?

If he is a good man he would understand this is theft . My god I’m angry for u.

OP plz answer was the UK house in your name too?? Did you invest in it ?

Would you still pay less tax if the flat is 100% in your name? See if your husband would accept that. I bet you he won’t give up his rights to pay lower tax.

I am going to have another chat about sorting it out. I need my name on the house.

Please, please seek legal advice for yourself, OP. My ex was very convincing when putting things in his name 'to save on tax' or whatever. No, he was conning me.

Yes it would seem I have no legal title to it.

So he used your money to part pay for the flat without your knowledge? How did he get the money?

So you need proper legal advice. He knew perfectly well what he was doing. Don’t blame anyone but him.

I have said: put it in my name but he doesn't want to go back to these law firm and sort it out.

I knew about the flat and was all for it but I didn't know my name wasn't going to be on the deeds.

What does he say about your money?

Op did you invest in the house in the U.K.?

He says our money is our money.

He had his own money as well.

He just says that I'm being ungrateful about it all.

Make an appointment with them and tell him he's coming to it. No ifs no buts.
If he won't come, go alone and tell them he paid with your money, ask them how they allowed that to happen and ask what they propose to do about it!

I would be taking him right back to the bank to change it so your name was on the deeds, and letting him pay whatever costs associated with it.

It's outrageous it would have gone to sign the deeds/mortgage without you. Speechless!

stellavisionandunderstanding

How much percentage in the house in the UK did you have ? Or was it the fact you felt secure by the fact you get around 50 percent of divorce happens ?

I ask because it helps to know for your legal stance

I'll got 50% in divorce etc so that's his thinking of fairness.