To enjoy sex without an orgasm?

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Hope the name change works

I don't have a massive sex drive when it comes to orgasms but enjoy the closeness of PIV sex. I don't orgasm from PIV only clitoral stimulation and after decades together dh and I know what works.

But an orgasm to me is so much more than the right touch. I need calm mind, no distraction, no drunkenness . So I don't always orgasm. I don't always even want to try to.

But I love the closeness of PIV. I love the feeling of dh enjoying it too.

Dh is concerned that I don't enjoy sex and that it's "your turn now, I've had more" but that's even more pressure!

So in short, AIBU to just want sex? No orgasm? To enjoy just sex?

I find the longer between sex sessions the better the orgasm. Not saying months and months but sometimes DH and I can go up to a fortnight without and when we do get down to it, the orgasm for me is far better than if we'd done it the day before.

I also don't mind not orgasming. Often I'm quite happy with PIV and DH having one.

someone literally said fuckhole

That was SarahTancredi in her description of how she saw those posts! Not one of the posters themselves used that word. Sarah said:

The way people are talking about women here is disgusting. That they must think of themselves as nothing more than a fuck hole for men.

Different poster caricaturing the view, not one of those questioning the willingness of women to forgo their own orgasm (yep, love my italics, have some more..)

As long as you think you've contributed helpfully, pal.

Specific position that makes me orgasm - this is the only one that does really.

Standard me on top, leaned forward but it’s arching my pelvis in that does it and kind of grinding against DP. DP says he also tenses/raises his buttocks. Hope that’s specific enough 😄.