How would you feel if you received this email?

[SamCam349]

Is this (below) a nice email to receive? What would you think of the sender who wrote it??

‘I will reluctantly speak to you next Tuesday to attempt to address your discriminatory actions. As I mentioned last week, I, personally, do not consider you to be that important, and I would not be entertaining this call were your manager not also be participating.’

It's completely unprofessional, not one bit nice, and very poorly written by someone who is clearly in a state of high dudgeon.

I actually don't care what the recipient didnt do, it's very unprofessional of the sender.

It should have been worded:

Thank you for confirming your manager will be attending the meeting on X to discuss the grievance I have raised. On that basis I confirm I will attend and look forward to discussing a solution with you. KR

Their tone is just pathetic and does them no favours. If I were HR overseeing it an email from sender like that would make me think 'ok, clearly we have an ego here' and approach the allegations with some scepticism rather than 'x says y did z. Let's work out what happened here'

If it’s work-based it represents a serious lapse in professionalism.

*did or didn't do

You know perfectly well it's not a 'nice' email. Why ask such a totally pointless question?

Wow - what on earth did you do to prompt that?!

YANBU - it's a terrible email, which leads me to believe that whatever you did to prompt it was equally terrible!

That is an awful, nasty, unprofessional and downright rude email.

Id think a pretentious underling had sent it, trying to "best" their line manager. It's going to backfire OP, you shouldn't have sent it.

It reads like the sender is being bullied and the upset has made them shoot themselves in the foot a little.

Absolutely impossible to give an informed opinion without the background....simply though this person is so livid and ‘over ’ you that they do not even care to try and hide it in a written email which could be used against them later.

I think tbh....that the fact you came here asking ‘ if it was a nice email’ when it screams ‘not’ indicates your a bit of a shit stirrer.

You've definitely pissed somebody off. Good luck!

I really hope you reconsider sending this email, OP.

But please tell us why you want to.

It is written in a most peculiar way,

It could mean “I am reluctant to get involved in this but have no choice because your manager has instigated it. The whole issue seems very minor and ought to be below the level of needing my attention “

I.e whatever discrimination is being alleged is of minor importance.

Have you been discriminatory?

Pompous, badly written and arrogant.

I think it could be a language issue, maybe badly translated from an asian or russian language? It's very abrupt but I know the style and result of literal translation from some languages can result in a harsh tone.

You had no idea that wasn’t a nice email until you asked MN?????

The OP confirmed she sent the email

42SamCam349

I'm off to bed now - very tired - but I guess that I really am a piece of shit then. :/

I'm not sure that is confirmation that she sent it?

A lot of people are saying that if she was on the receiving end of it, she must've done something really bad, so the 'I really am a piss of shit' could equally apply as the receiver.

Ita obviously not a nice email. Theres no way anyone thinks putting 'you are not important' in an email can ever be nice or professional.

I would be interested to know what the recipient has done.

However, regardless of what the recipient has done, the sender of that email has made themseleves look really bad. O cant help wonder of the recipient will use this email as proof that they werwnt discriminatory, but that's actually the sender is a dick and were dealt with in a certain way because they are dick. Not discrimination.

Buts thays all conjecture because mo one knows what the fuck is going on

If you sent that then yes you are a piece of shit.

If you are a manger or attempting to be, you're shit at that too. No decent manger in their right mind would send that. You deserve a bollocking

Well it’s badly written for a start. If written in a professional context it’s also unprofessional, possibly with an element of bullying. If it’s just a casual email (for whatever reason), I suppose it depends what’s provoked it - maybe the emotional undertone is justified to some extent. But of course it’s not ‘nice’.

Obviously not nice. If you sent this, you need to look at your professionalism. Deserved or not, this doesn't reflect well on you.

I'd read that as being an email that OP has received. But, if so, OP, I wouldn't interpret it as meaning you're a piece of shit unless you actually have been discriminating. Other issues apart, the sender is pretty illiterate.

Weird post. What could possibly be 'nice' about telling someone or being told that you are not important?!

And the grammar - ugh