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How would you feel if you received this email?

544 replies

SamCam349 · 20/09/2019 00:49

Is this (below) a nice email to receive? What would you think of the sender who wrote it??

‘I will reluctantly speak to you next Tuesday to attempt to address your discriminatory actions. As I mentioned last week, I, personally, do not consider you to be that important, and I would not be entertaining this call were your manager not also be participating.’

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Blueoasis · 21/09/2019 20:04

Am I the only one thinking that not only was the op daft enough to send that email, they may also have been daft enough to give away their full name in their username? Makes them very identifiable if they are called what I think they are.

OP, if someone had been discriminatory towards you, you easily had the upper hand. Until you sent that. It's no wonder you were fired. Try to be more professional next time.

voddiekeepsmesane · 21/09/2019 20:05

OMFG I just spent several minutes of my life reading this thread to find out it was an attention seeking twat of an OP. TELL THE STORY OR DON'T POST so fucking frustrated now need a drink! How the hell is anyone supposed to get context without the back story? Off to have some Gin and Cake

keepondreaming · 21/09/2019 20:12

How did your DH react OP?

I'm sure if you tell the whole story about how this all came about, you'll get good advice from posters in the employment/HR field.

LuciferTheCat · 21/09/2019 20:25
Shock
Fowles94 · 21/09/2019 20:39

Such an attention seeker. You clearly do think you are above everyone.

steff13 · 21/09/2019 20:41

I would have thought that if you were involved in some sort of a grievance process with this person, you would have been advised not to contact him/her.

FeelingSad2 · 21/09/2019 20:54

Oh dear! I'd think they were a complete twat who can't get their grammar together in an email. Hope you didn't send it OP (oh dear, you did)

gospelsinger · 21/09/2019 21:03

Its the 'I do not consider you to be that important' line that really makes this email extremely unpleasant. If it said 'I do not consider the matter to be that important', it would take on a different tone. It would still show some irritation, but not outright hostility.

Nexa · 21/09/2019 21:04

Jesus wept. I rtft for nothing. What a ridiculous thread that made it to the Hot Threads daily email

OP this isn't Facebook. Either give the full story or don't bother writing. The attention seeking is painful.

^ this is exactly how it comes across. Just like those transparent attention-seeking cryptic status' where OPs friends desperate for a nosey pile in with "U ok hun?" "What's happened chick? and the OP replies either "Im fine hun" "Its nothing babe" "Can't say chick"

I really gets on my tits

Nexa · 21/09/2019 21:07

*it Blush Grin

PumpityPumpPump · 21/09/2019 21:32

All its needs is a PM me. 💁

WellThisIsShit · 21/09/2019 21:57

Oh dear. Angry email fired off in the heat of the moment. Comes back to bite you on the arse.

Maddison12 · 21/09/2019 22:13

I'm so angry that I've read through 20 pages of this😂😂😂

manicmij · 21/09/2019 22:20

If you are thinking of sending that message, don't. It is not in the least reconciliatory, it is very aggressive no matter what has occurred. If you have received it, well you have definitely upset someone.

Marnie76 · 21/09/2019 22:26

FGS at least read the OP updates 😳

OccidentalPurist · 21/09/2019 22:28

If it's not patently obvious to you that your email was hostile and you have to ask an online forum if it is, I would question your current suitability as an employee (within a company anyway).

I'm wondering if, as you've inferred, you've been pushed to breaking point by someone or circumstances in your job and you've literally tipped over the edge.

In that case you're better off out of there and I would think you may have a case with a tribunal.

Jojo2wyatt · 21/09/2019 22:37

The sender is trying to be politically correct while getting in as many digs as possible

Isthisreallylife · 21/09/2019 23:43

The person who wrote this is a mega manipulator! You can always tell by the “bully in the playground” attitude of - I’ll get you after break! Or in this case next Tuesday/Thursday ?

Tosser!

ThatCurlyGirl · 21/09/2019 23:51

@Isthisreallylife

It was OP 😬

urkidding · 22/09/2019 06:23

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Normanpriceeh · 22/09/2019 06:39

You are a racist and a nasty person, who is trying to make us judge the person who wrote an exasperated email, because of the sort of time wasting, thoughtless person your are.

OP wrote the email.

browneyes77 · 22/09/2019 08:06

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@urkidding

You are a racist and a nasty person, who is trying to make us judge the person who wrote an exasperated email, because of the sort of time wasting, thoughtless person your are.

Where did you get racist from? What was racist about the OP’s post?

Tistheseason17 · 22/09/2019 08:19

There is do much more to this that we'll never know.

Ginger1982 · 22/09/2019 08:31

Racist? 🤔

TheLittleDogLaughed · 22/09/2019 08:47

Maddison12 yep! More fool us, eh? Nice one SamCam