To think that 3 glasses of wine with a meal is hardly ‘downing a bottle’

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Dh and I went out for a meal last night for our wedding anniversary. We had a lovely evening. I typically have 2 glasses of wine when we go out but ordered a 3rd last night as it was very nice and I just fancied another one. So 3 glasses over the course of a meal. Yes they were large so about the equivalent of a bottle but AIBU to be a irritated at dh asking me how my head is this morning as I ‘downed a bottle of wine last night’? For context we had a stupid mini row at the end of the meal which was a shame but we both overreacted over something fairly minor. He seems to be implying that it was my fault because of how much I drank.

The background is that dh doesn’t really drink, maybe only at the odd special occasion or on holiday. He used to but stopped a few years ago. I would say that I’m a fairly typical drinker, I pretty much never drink sun-thur (last night obviously being a special occasion) I may have a glass or 2 at home on a Friday night but often don’t. We usually go out for a meal on Saturdays and I usually have a couple of glasses then, and maybe another one at home. I am very rarely properly drunk. The last time I had an awful stay in bed hangover was over a year ago. I think my drinking is pretty average? And yet dh feels the need to comment on it all the time and act like I’m some kind of alcoholic just because I enjoy a couple of glasses of wine. I am getting really tired of it to be honest.

So, aibu to think that 3 glasses of wine with a meal is not excessive and hardly the same as ‘downing a bottle?’

Read the op post at the start 👍

@Amibeingsensitive I've read it and that's why I'm questioning your post! Why is that to much, please do tell.

Well mybe she should. We all need to evaluate things in our life sometimes, especially if a family member/partner or friend mentions it even in the guise of a joke/dig 🤷🏻‍♀️ If someone can't go a week without drinking then perhaps it's a problem?

Other people on this post have also commented saying its possibly too much

@Amibeingsensitive but she doesn't always drink on a Friday, she drinks on a Saturday but once a weekend is an issue for who .... you? Drinking guidelines are based on weekly consumption for a reason.

You've got issues with alcohol, get over it and stop being ridiculous about adults able to act like adults and regulate their alcohol consumption.

You are hideously judgemental and unable to understand a normal relationship with alcohol, presumably due to your history or upbringing.

@Amibeingsensitive you stated it's too much each week.........WHY.

Having had an alcoholic in the family, one can be very thin skinned because of experience of events that have occurred. It is awful to live with an alcoholic, but someone who occasionally drinks too much nah not bothered about that.

OP does your OH have someone in their family been raised by someone who made their childhood adolescence miserable I wonder?

Hang on. I've missed it if this has been said already but 3 glasses of wine which was about 1 bottle is 6 units. If op is drinking that much 3x a week she is drinking a lot. That's way over the recommendation.

Other people on this post have also commented saying its possibly too much

@Amibeingsensitive and others have said it's not, so are you just being a sheep?

Oh my goodness I just googled it and a bottle of wine is 9.8 units. So even doing that twice a week is almost 20 units and the recommendation is 14. I can see why the OPs dh is concerned.

Bloody hell this threads made me

1. consider whether I’m actually a secret alcoholic
2. want a large glass of that lovely wine OP was drinking

@MyOtherProfile a bottle of wine is 10 units not 6, OP is not doing this three times a week, not sure what post you're talking about or if infant you're pissed?

OP you are an adult and can drink what you bloody well want provided you are not driving no problems. Your dh is being a dick.

Of course it all depends on glass size. No have two glasses sometimes with a meal but they are small glasses so less than half a bottle. But OP said she drank the equivalent of a bottle in her 3 large glassss.

@MyOtherProfile but she doesn't do that three times a week!

No I gave my own opinion and then had a read through other people's comments. You've obviously got a chip on your shoulder....

Accusing people commenting on here of being pissed? Really? Wow....definitely a chip on your shoulder

@Amibeingsensitive you've still not said why you think Op is drinking too much weekly, you're just spouting nonsense and irrelevant "if you can't go week without alcohol, you've got a problem" bullshit.

No chips other than, I am an adult, I can behave like an adult, I want to be treated like an adult and can control alcohol intake without being a judgemental and irritating, bossy bore!

No @Amibeingsensitive I've no chips, just the ability to act like a responsible adult, try it, it's amazing!

You're being very insulting and rude to posters on here

And you're being judgemental, objectionable and not even reading the OP and getting the facts right! Being teetotal does not make you right, it only gives you the right to an opinion, albeit one that's skewed by the issues you have around alcohol.

Drinking a bottle of wine as a one off is hardly a hanging offence. If the op drank like that every day it would be cause for concern but she doesn't generally drink much at all.

I don't have issues around alcohol, I have experience with people who drink too much. I drink on special occasions myself but definitely not weekly or even monthly. And I wouldn't drink in another person's company if they weren't drinking 🤷🏻‍♀️ it's not going to be fun it's a bit crap drinking on your own unless you're bored or depressed with your life/person you are with perhaps

@Amibeingsensitive so you're saying OP should never drink at home? Because her DH doesn't drink? Really?

Agreed @Rachelover60 but @Amibeingsensitive thinks OP drinks to much EVERY week!