To think that 3 glasses of wine with a meal is hardly ‘downing a bottle’

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Dh and I went out for a meal last night for our wedding anniversary. We had a lovely evening. I typically have 2 glasses of wine when we go out but ordered a 3rd last night as it was very nice and I just fancied another one. So 3 glasses over the course of a meal. Yes they were large so about the equivalent of a bottle but AIBU to be a irritated at dh asking me how my head is this morning as I ‘downed a bottle of wine last night’? For context we had a stupid mini row at the end of the meal which was a shame but we both overreacted over something fairly minor. He seems to be implying that it was my fault because of how much I drank.

The background is that dh doesn’t really drink, maybe only at the odd special occasion or on holiday. He used to but stopped a few years ago. I would say that I’m a fairly typical drinker, I pretty much never drink sun-thur (last night obviously being a special occasion) I may have a glass or 2 at home on a Friday night but often don’t. We usually go out for a meal on Saturdays and I usually have a couple of glasses then, and maybe another one at home. I am very rarely properly drunk. The last time I had an awful stay in bed hangover was over a year ago. I think my drinking is pretty average? And yet dh feels the need to comment on it all the time and act like I’m some kind of alcoholic just because I enjoy a couple of glasses of wine. I am getting really tired of it to be honest.

So, aibu to think that 3 glasses of wine with a meal is not excessive and hardly the same as ‘downing a bottle?’

I think it's excessive. Others won't.

That doesn’t make any sense. It’s an aibu board, I’m not here for LOLz.

It’s interesting, if not quite concerning how people behave regarding excessive alcohol consumption.

You obviously need to finish a wine bottle once it’s been opened, otherwise the wine will oxidise surely.... and more !

I hope you weren't driving in the morning.

YABU

C'mon, the chamomile tea and liver function tests are funny AF . hiphop I am loving your work.

@Jellybeansincognito so I go to my doctor and say I drunk a bottle of wine on my anniversary, which by definition is you know..... once a year. I sometimes drink on a Friday, I sometimes don't, I drink on a Saturday sometimes, do you honestly think that he'd be calling a liver function test. Don't be so fucking stupid, that's not an alcohol issue.

You've a ridiculous judgemental issue at anyone drinking any alcohol, get a grip!

@Jellybeansincognito

Drinking a bottle in one go is binge drinking IN MY OPINION.

Fixed that for you.

@SconeofDestiny surely that depends on

1. What time OP finished drinking

1. What time she drove if she even did in the morning?

You can finish drinking at 10, a bottle stays in your blood stream for nine hours, so easily ok for 8am, but ok for 7.

Mornings last until 11.55?

I’m not the poster mentioning liver function tests @spanglydangly

I don’t need to get a grip, but thank you!

OP i do think a bottle of wine within a meal would be excessive if done a few times a week.

As a one of no, I don't think so.

If it's an irregular occurrence, chances are it may give contributed to the disagreement as you may give been a bit squiffy.

It wouldn't bother me the terminology my hubby used to described how the bottle of wine was consumed, it would bother me having petty arguments, it would just bore me

@Jellybeansincognito you said it was binge drinking, which it isn't, so what would you expect from a GP?i presumed that you're such a know all about drinking, binge drinking, alcohol issues that you'd expect a liver function test?

1000s of adults drink responsibly, you do understand that?

@timshelthechoice

hiphop I am loving your work!

Thank you.

Helps that I have had 2 bottles of wine this evening. hic 🥴

You are aware that GPs and other healthcare professionals tend to drink more than the average person? And they know you lie when you are asked how much you drink.

Of course I do @spanglydangly. Drinking a whole bottle of wine whilst alone with someone who isn’t drinking doesn’t sound responsible to me.

The definition of binge drinking is drinking an excessive amount of alcohol in a short period of time, drinking a bottle with a meal definitely is excessive for that space of time.

I don’t really know why you have to be so offended by that fact though. To the point you need to swear.

Why are you asking me about GPS? I haven’t even mentioned doctors or tests or anything.

Now you're all swearing!

@Jellybeansincognito

The reason why (some) people are getting angry and sweary is because they are getting frustrated at the level of utter crap you're coming out with.

I am not angry though; I am quite entertained by your posts. Even though your posts are very goady and nonsensical, I am laughing at them, because they're so full of shit.

Come on then, throw some examples at me!
@hiphopchick

Your drinking is on par with mine - literally like for like! He's being silly, and the derogatory comments would irritate me too! Ignore!

Cheers! 😜

You were probably getting worse and worse company as the night went on and he was/is pissed off about it.

I can’t see what is more nonsensical than being ignorant towards a matter of fact that yes, a bottle in one go is excessive to the point of being aggressively defensive about it.

Just because people drink in excess a lot, it doesn’t make it any better either.

As I said earlier, if you opened a share bag of chocolate and ate them all, it’s excessive. Many people still do it, that doesn’t make it ok. At least the majority of chocoholics/ greedy people would at least admit that it is excessive.

Without having to get sweary/ try and insult others intelligence.

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This thread is highly entertaining. I scored the cigarette case! Go, me!

And I'd still rather sit drinking next to someone who's not than drink colonoscopy prep again .

Also, you're post's pretty defensive which usually means it's touched a nerve