To think that 3 glasses of wine with a meal is hardly ‘downing a bottle’

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Dh and I went out for a meal last night for our wedding anniversary. We had a lovely evening. I typically have 2 glasses of wine when we go out but ordered a 3rd last night as it was very nice and I just fancied another one. So 3 glasses over the course of a meal. Yes they were large so about the equivalent of a bottle but AIBU to be a irritated at dh asking me how my head is this morning as I ‘downed a bottle of wine last night’? For context we had a stupid mini row at the end of the meal which was a shame but we both overreacted over something fairly minor. He seems to be implying that it was my fault because of how much I drank.

The background is that dh doesn’t really drink, maybe only at the odd special occasion or on holiday. He used to but stopped a few years ago. I would say that I’m a fairly typical drinker, I pretty much never drink sun-thur (last night obviously being a special occasion) I may have a glass or 2 at home on a Friday night but often don’t. We usually go out for a meal on Saturdays and I usually have a couple of glasses then, and maybe another one at home. I am very rarely properly drunk. The last time I had an awful stay in bed hangover was over a year ago. I think my drinking is pretty average? And yet dh feels the need to comment on it all the time and act like I’m some kind of alcoholic just because I enjoy a couple of glasses of wine. I am getting really tired of it to be honest.

So, aibu to think that 3 glasses of wine with a meal is not excessive and hardly the same as ‘downing a bottle?’

Thanks.. But I don't really need a medal just for not having to drink alcohol to enjoy myself.. But thanks for the effort

Do people really drink to this extent on their own? I couldn’t think of anything worse than being sat drinking (especially a whole bottle to myself) whilst being sat with someone who isn’t having a drop.
I’d feel a bit weird and rude.

@spanglydangly hiphop that's fucking genius.

Why thank you...

Please enjoy this also... A picture of my liver...

Taken last week after my customary 3 glasses of wine, that I always have when I go to the pub. (once a fortnight.)

Think I'll visit the GP for a liver function test...

Can I get one of those, hiphop? I know my limits, too, but like, I don't really give a gram of fuck what other adults do with their time, money or bodies as long as it's not impacting on me or mine.

@Jellybeansincognito

Do people really drink to this extent on their own? I couldn’t think of anything worse than being sat drinking (especially a whole bottle to myself) whilst being sat with someone who isn’t having a drop. I’d feel a bit weird and rude.

'Weird and rude' to drink alcohol when the person you're with isn't drinking any? WTF? @Chandler913 had a well-earned medal. So THESE are for you! (to clutch.)

@hiphopchick bypass the GP, straight to AA or A&E?

Once a fortnight........huge fucking issue not!

I don't need alcohol but if I do decide to have a drink I know my limits.. I stop when I'm tipsy and I don't get a hangover.. So yes I can regulate my drinking.

Good for you but your point is? That sounds exactly like what the OP did. There is no indication that she can't "regulate" her drinking is there or that she was hungover?

I couldn’t think of anything worse than being sat drinking (especially a whole bottle to myself) whilst being sat with someone who isn’t having a drop.

God, I can! Ever had to drink the prep for colonoscopy or barium xray? WAY worse! Fasting for procedures and then getting pushed back or cancelled, that's worse, too. Gallstones are pretty dire, too, so is open surgery to remove the gallbladder. Having your bladder stop working after a GA and needing a catheter when you can feel everything, I'd much rather sit drinking with someone who's not. Any day.

@timshelthechoice

Nothing confusing about it! The poster said she couldn't think of anything worse than drinking next to someone who's not, I sure as hell can think of worse !

Well, considering your rude response @hiphopchick I’m not going to take any manners advice from you. But thanks, for the beads? Wtf?

Well OP, it's hardly like you've got to the point of vodka on your cornflakes is it?
I've seen people drink twice as much on a regular basis, and be fine. I'm also one of these medalled saints that hardly ever drinks because I can't hack it. Personally a bottle of wine would put me on my arse, but that's because I don't really drink any more so have a lower tolerance. Makes for a cheap night out when I do go though 😄
I do notice however that people don't tend to know how much they're drinking in reality, and a lot of people are shocked that 3 large glasses = a bottle (large measure 250ml X 3 is 750ml which is 75cl - average size bottle) they won't order a bottle, because it's too much, but will have 4 large glasses - it's about perception I think more than anything.
"I only had 4 glasses all day!" Vs "I drank a full bottle of wine!"
I work in hospitality and we really do have an odd relationship with alcohol, oblivion (which has it's issues obviously) seems to be the goal for a lot of people, it's not a case of a few glasses to enhance an evening, it's physically pouring as much down their necks as a)they can or b)the bar staff will allow before stopping service.
I think that kind of behaviour leads to the biggest problems, and causes a lot of issues.
We've all drank a little too much at some point, I think though the intention behind it is as impossible as the act itself. It doesn't sound to me like you went out with the intention of getting shit faced, rather fancied another glass of wine. I also don't think your DH is unreasonable to ask if a bottle of wine gave you a hangover. Unless you don't get them, or are used to that much, I'd think it'd make you feel a bit ropey the next day.

Hands up who's damaging their liver right now whilst reading this fucking amazing thread?

Me, miss - pick me!!! 🙌

Not me, Gimme, I'm on an auction site bidding on a silver cigarette case for my dad's 84th birthday. He has only the occasional bottle of beer or glass of whisky these days, but he's been smoking since 1952 and still going strong. He doesn't even have to take any medications.

This thread is comedy gold!

All he sanctimonious judgy stick-up-the bumsters are quite entertaining.

@Jellybeansincognito those are not beads...... they are pearls! You've heard the mumsnet term "clutching at petals". It's normally aimed at this who have zero sense or humour and judge the whole fucking world! Obviously whilst cliutching at their pearl necklaces!

"Clutching at pearls" damn autocorrect making me look like I need to book a liver function test tomorrow!

Isn’t it pearl clutching and clutching at straws? Different meanings.

I have a brilliant sense of humour, I just don’t understand these jokes related to alcohol consumption, genuinely surprised that more people seem to think a bottle in one go is fine than not.

Binge drinking and alcohol issues aren’t funny to me.

@Jellybeansincognito

I have a brilliant sense of humour.

Really? You'd never know it from your posts on this thread.

@Jellybeansincognito

I'm genuinely surprised that more people seem to think a bottle in one go is fine than not.

Binge drinking is not funny to me.

Well therein lies the problem you see. Not everyone will agree with you that drinking a bottle of wine in one night is BINGE DRINKING. It's only 3 medium to large glasses.

If people have this once a week (on the weekend) and a glass or two on a couple of week nights, then so what?

Live and let live, and just leave people alone. I am sure YOU are not perfect and your shit DOES stink.

@Jellybeansincognito who has an alcohol issue, not OP! Stop judging and diagnosing people.

Well that’s pretty self explanatory considering I’ve just explained I don’t find alcohol related issues funny.

Where have I diagnosed anybody?

Of course drinking a bottle in one go is binge drinking.

@Jellybeansincognito maybe it's best to steer clear of threads about alcohol, then.