75% of mothers

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...do all of the housework and childcare related tasks - no matter how many hours they work outside of this

I was a bit depressed to read this in the Independent newspaper today.

I wondered how mush of this rings true in your experience?

The only person I know that does 100% of the childcare and house work and isn’t a loan parent has a DH who is currently deployed overseas.

Do you have a link to the article? I could definitely believe that in 75% of households women do more than men but saying that men do absolutely nothing, literally never lift a finger, in three quarters of households really doesn’t sound right.

True in my house. I take all the mental load too. It’s exhausting.
I’m around more as work term time only, but during the week I end up doing all the drop offs and rush my arse to pick up on two days, then one night dh would go do rugby coaching. Then on a Sunday he’s out most of the day watching/coaching the lads play. He even has tickets for games on a Saturday, we won’t see him then.
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I'd say my house is 50 50 over all, I do the cooking, recycling, washing up, bathroom and put washing on, DP does the vacuuming, takes bins out, mops, does cat trays and puts washing out we both do the shop and when little one is here in December we've agreed to both be hands on etc.

I didn't even do 100% when I was on maternity leave!

Absolutely not. I do the majority of the child related "admin" but DH does more cooking and cleaning than I do. Plus all tedious house jobs like painting, bulb changing, lawn mowing etc.

I do everything but then I’m a single parent. I did everything when I was with ex aswell though

I know of only 1 woman where this is sort of true but her husband is a massive dickhead. Everyone one else I know with a partner and kids shares it out reasonably, I thought that's what most couples do. I'd be interested to see the data behind this claim, I honestly can't see that 75% of women would accept that kind of bullshit.

I didn't even do 100% when I was on maternity leave!

Me neither, far from it!

So we're saying 75% of fathers don't look after their kids at all!?

Maybe the survey is of families with children under one? That would at least be believable.

Are they including single parents in those figures?

I don't see this at all in the people I know. Most things are very equal. I certainly don't think it's true in my house. My dh works shifts but before he goes to work he does school run, hoovers the house, mops the floors, stacks dishwasher, puts a few washes on, walks the dog and then usually goes to the gym. He also does all DIY- has painted the house and laid flooring the past few weekends.
I start early but finish early so do school pick up, walk dog, grocery shop, cook dinner, support homework, bath time and anything else that needs done. Weekends are shared.
However he travels between 1-2 weeks per month so it all falls to me on those days 😳. When he's away he pays for extra dog walks and the odd breakfast club. I'm lucky my job is flexible though. My dh owned his own house and was quite house proud before I met him so I think that helps.

I'd believe it. The amount of women i know who seem to scrabble to find someone to mind the kids so they can go to an appointment or whatever, when their able bodied husband is sitting at home, or could leave work early, is shocking. My BIL for example "can't manage both children by himself" and everyone nods sagely over this - can you imagine if a woman tried that one on?

DH is mostly brilliant, but even so I'd say most of the mental load falls to me, partly because of circumstance, partly not

Wonder what the percentages would be if the question was 'how much fathers do without being asked'.

I know my OH does a lot but I have to remind him so the mental workload of running a house/ family is nearly 100% mine but the doing it is probably 50/50. And I don't mean nag, he's happy to do it, he just doesn't think about doing it enough 😂

I did do all this because i work from home 36 hours and have done 15 years and dh works 60 plus hours a week and often away.

That’s said, i do wonder what will happen when we retire, no child care but will he continue to come home from golf and sit down waiting for dinner?

I can't see how that statistic can be true. I can believe that 75% of mothers do the majority of housework and childcare but all of it? Their partner never ever watches the DC for an hour, takes out the bins, wipes down a kitchen surface or cooks a meal? I know some pretty lazy men but I can't think of a single one that does absolutely nothing ...

Not me or the mothers I know!

I guess it depends on what the woman is prepared to put up with 🤷🏻‍♀️ I wouldn’t allow it within my marriage but many do you’ve only got to read posts on here to see that

I seriously question those numbers. There is no way 75% of mothers do ALL housework and childcare regardless of work hours. I think someone’s pulled that out of their bung hole.

We both work full time. Dh does around 90% of the housework/kid stuff. I would like to make this a more equal. He is just better at it than me!

It’s true in my household which is why I won’t do more than two days a week at work. I’m poor but I’d run myself into the ground.

I do all the trad female stuff but also do the diy, repairs, bills, booking stuff, garden, lightbulbs etc. My dh works bloody hard out of the house and is rarely home in the evening.

I think I did at least 75% when I was a SAHM but that was my contribution to the household with DHs being financial.

When I went back to work DH just stepped up to doing more without me even mentioning it.

It's definitely not the case in my house.

Not the case for me but I do see it a lotTBF
I think a lot of women seem to be martyrs to housework
Lots of "he made such of x I had to redo it 😄

Certainly not true in my house, and to be honest I wouldn’t stay in a relationship where this was the case. And I’m a SAHM.
The way it works here is that while he’s working I look after the children (one still a baby), and when he’s not working we split housework 50:50. I do slightly more as when I’m at home with the children I have time to do things like stack the dishwasher or put a clothes wash on. He works from home though so also gets chance during the day to do some jobs.

True - but I am a single parent!

Nah not true here, DH does at least 50% if not more.

I believe it.

Ime most mothers are little more than slaves.