my dad was a teenager in the 1970’s, not a small child. I also did not say he was homophobic, it made him uncomfortable because it doesn’t fit with traditional masculinity. He is one of the many many many men who, like some of women on this thread, don’t see where it fits within their own gender.
On this thread people do not even seem to understand that they are contradicting themselves into the exact reasons people ended up labelling themselves! Because you can’t explain it either. It doesn’t seem to fit with men and it doesn’t seem to fit with women. Ego, gender confusion or wanting to be non binary.
No one wants this within their gender. No one wants to accept it. Making a new category has been the easiest option
So does everyone equates men dressing femininely or flamboyantly with being gay? Some do. Some don’t
People were confused by men back in 70’s who seemed straight dressing in female clothes or using make up. They questioned their sexuality and whether it was acceptable for men to do that, but some people accepted it as a fashion, a statement, and expression, an art.
You cannot be a wild fan of Bowie and hate Sam Smith without recognising that Bowie was a pioneer of this exact expression.
Quote from DB himself
For Bowie, however, this rejection of conventional masculinity was not just about gender — it was about shirking what it meant to be human. "I always had a repulsive need to be something more than human,"* Bowie once said in an interview."I felt very puny as a human. I thought, 'Fck that. I want to be a superhuman.'"
DB didn’t want to conform to traditional masculinity either.