Aibu to ask why it’s ok to make these comments?

[YDraig]

I’ve had a few, particularly since having DD. I’ve always been fairly slim (but not skinny) I am also just under 5’2. So if I was a size 16+ I’d probably be rather unhealthy.

For further reference I am a size 10, was a size 8 prior to having my dd.
Comments such as
“God, how are you SO SKINNY?”
“You should eat more!” Are commonplace. I’ve also had the rather unhurtful and untrue “ah well some men like more meat only dogs go for bones.” Aimed at me, I say untrue because rightly or wrongly my bones do not stick out

“Do you want some of my food?” - complete with a head tilt and raised brow.
And referring to me “She is such a skinny thing, I wonder how she managed to give birth without snapping”
I’ve just finished a night shift with three others who spent part of the shift making comments about my size, may be relevant but they’re all plus sized. I’ve never made a comment as I’d consider it rude and unkind.
Aibu to think it’s not ok to comment on someone’s body size either way and if it is ok, why?

When I was very slim (alas no,longer) this sort of comment only came from so called friends, fatter people who were permanently on diets they never stuck to.

One of them spread a rumour that I was anorexic. It was months before I found out.

Trust me, they're just jealous.

I've recently lost a stone and am still losing weight. I was 12st 4 at 5'5 to begin with. Aiming for 10'7 as I don't look well at lower BMI's (I was once 7st 7 due to stress and looked awful - bones sticking out and sunken cheeks even though I was not officially very underweight). Already I've had "but you're not even overweight", "you don't need to diet" and "if you get any thinner you'll disappear" type remarks. Most people have been supportive but there's always the odd one. People have also in the past commented on my diastasis recti telling me I have a big belly, need to do sit ups etc. So my conclusion is that people can't help themselves but comment on women's size/shape.

Just smile smugly and look with pity at them. It's just jealousy and people who are jealous are often spiteful. Rise above it.