Soft play shit storm

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Name change for this... just because... but I promise I'm not a poo troll!

So met a friend at soft play for lunch today. Nearing the end of lunch almighty smell of shit. Turn around there is a lady behind us cleaning up her 3 year old nappy full of poo on the floor, a potty there and it's down his legs getting worse.

This is in the middle of the food area. There is a baby change less than 8 metres away.

So I stood up and said to her "do you mind this is disgusting people are eating"

Her reply;

"Don't be so damn judgy you dont know what's going on I didn't know it had poo in it"

(The kid had been waking around with a visibly full nappy for sometime whilst she ignored him)

Me "well it's disgusting there is a baby change here you shouldn't be doing it here"

Her

"Oh I suppose you're so damn perfect are you shaming people"

Me

"Well I wouldn't do this"

I turned around and ignored her at that point.

This is disgusting right or am I in a parallel universe?

I don't really care if I shamed her she should be ashamed. As my friend said if there was an outbreak of food poisoning from the cafe they'd get the blame! There was no reason to do that there. There was no staff around at this point.
No doubt someone will say I should have helped her but I've had two of my own and never had the need to change them in he middle of a cafe!
I think she was possibly the grandma rather than the mum couldn't really tell. I actually feel sick thinking about it still.

Totally disgusting behaviour I'd have struggled to keep quite too

Apparently that's nasty and mean I think it's having standards

How can any posters try justify this type of behaviour? Are your standards really that low that you think it’s acceptable?

Surely other parents with kids the same age would be the first to make allowances if this sort of behavior were at all reasonable. But since the rest of you seem to manage without resorting to changing poopy diapers in the food area, then plainly she is being ridiculous.

Hope you shit yourself in public one day

She made it very clear that she didn’t intend to clean up a poo explosion in the cafe. It is gross but why be so mean? I get that you enjoy the confrontation (that comes through loud and clear) but there’s no more reason to subject the general public to your weird personality than to subject them to toddler poo. The only difference was that you behaved badly on purpose whereas the other woman didn’t. You could have kept your mouth shut and bitched about it later on mn anyway. You’d still get your fix and heyday wouldn’t have been even worse 🤷‍♀️

YANBU!!

That's fucking grim. Please tell me she went to wash her hands afterwards at least?!?!

@toasterstrudle that's what I was thinking too! Exact story right down to the face pulling, mardy Mum and Aldi! @PookieDo are you a minor podcast celeb?

Different perspective here. I think you were being unreasonable. You didn't need to snap at her. Bust softplays are stressful places, and she could have been on her own with multiple children, meaning having to round them all up for a quick nappy change.

I totally agree with this. The woman was up to her elbows in shit, realising she made a shit decision, only for you to give her more shit.

@getmeacupoftea I don't think having multiple kids creates the need to pull one of their stinking nappies down next to where people are eating.

The only way it'd be understandable is if the child had pulled it down themselves and it had gone everywhere - all over his clothes, floor and he was still pooing etc - because in that situation picking him up probably isn't the best idea... and she may have panicked and thought "OMG arrrgh I'm just going to have to sort him out here"... but it doesn't sound like that's what happened.

There will always be people on here that come in to defend any story you can post. It’s bonkers! It was disgusting and no there isn’t an excuse for it.

She had a right go at me that it was only small child’s piss

WHY do some people seem to think that piss and shit that come out of a toddler are somehow different to piss and shit that come out of an adult? It’s absolutely identical, stinks just as badly and is just as unhygienic, and yet I have heard so many parents defend gross unhygienic practices with “It’s only children’s poo/wee” as if that makes a difference.

On a related note, I once unfriended someone on Facebook because she thought it was OK to change her toddler on the table in Costa and was ranting about the staff who told her that this wasn’t actually something they could allow.

Maybe if more people spoke up and called out this behaviour there’d be less shitty behaviour about!

You don’t sound nice OP.

Good on you for saying something. She’ll think twice before being disrespectful in public again.

Soft plays are the worst because they attract the kind of parents who like to just turn their back on what horrors the kids are getting up to

I think soft plays are vile places because it's where exhausted parents take their kids when they are on their last nerve. Let's face it, it's not for the ambiance or the weak tea. It's like a safe harbour for the broken. They are probably perfectly good parents in any other setting.

I’d say She was porty training. And when they say they need to do a wee it’s easier to whip pottt out . She’s pulled back App you down to let kid sit, and didn’t know it was coming down full off poo. Cue the poop on legs.
Has happened in the house with my toddler.
Not the end of the world really.

She obviously didn’t plan a poo explosion to take place and probably just expected a wee.
She was doing her best to clean it up.. once it started I assume she can’t pick him and a dirty nappy up while he’s covered in poo and start again in the toilet. Isn’t imagine she doesn’t make a habit of it and would have felt sorry for her to Be honest. You should have left her alone

Who on earth thinks it's a good decision to remove a nappy in a food area?!

It doesn't matter whether it's 'just' got wee in it.

You don't do it.

And if you don't have enough basic cop on to realise this yourself, then you deserve whatever ear-bashing you get from random members of the public.

Jeez, it doesn't matter if she was potty training, FFS.

Don't put the potty down in the food eating area.

Do people really need to be told this?! 🤯

Yuk that's damn right nasty I'd have said something aswell!

That's disgusting. You should always use the baby changing area.

I have to admit that I clean up and carry on after my ds has vomited when we are out. He vomits several times a day every day so if we didn't then we would never go anywhere. He isn't contagious but I worry about people judging us.

As I said originally the child had been running around in a full nappy for some time whilst she ignored him. It was perfectly obvious what was going to be in it. I'd noticed only because he had played with my DD a couple of times.No I don't enjoy "confronting" (I would say respectfully addressing) people in the middle of my lunch. It may be in a soft play and not a fine dining experience but it's unhygienic and unpleasant and at 45+ she should know better. Just because soft plays can be a bit grim doesn't mean we need to make them worse. What if everyone decided to change their shitty nappies in the middle of the cafe?! I've had plenty of poonamis to contend with in my time and have managed to avoid people eating even when they've exploded.
I'm glad the majority agree and have a sense of standards (!)

That was utterly gross.

However, eating at a soft play is like eating from the floor of a public loo even without someone literally shitting their pants right beside you.

Eww

@QueefLatifah Personally I wouldn't put the potty down in a public place where people are eating. If she wants to use a potty with her child whilst out, take it to the toilets, or find a more suitable area. Give the kid some privacy.

If she knew what was in the nappy she shouldn't have been touching it until they were in the toilets.

@mathanxiety 😂