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I dont want to give her lifts anymore

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Findingausername · 12/09/2019 21:04

My colleague lives 10mins walk away from work. She broke her ankle over a year ago. When it happened she was on crutches, complaining about getting to work on them, blah blah. Being nice, I offered to give her lifts as she is on my way and I was driving anyway.

Anyway, fast forward a year, her ankle is perfectly fine now and she's still expecting the lifts. It's meaning I don't have as much freedom, for example sometimes I would drive up to work early and sit in a coffee shop with a book for half an hour. Sometimes when I get to her house she isn't even ready, and I have to wait for her. I get the feeling she isn't apprieciative at all. (She was at first)
I have subtly tried to bring up the idea of her walking again and she kind of just goes 'well its on your way' and brushes it off. WIBU to tell her I can't give lifts anymore as it was never meant to be a long term thing in the first place

OP posts:
Pol16 · 14/09/2019 06:08

Well done OP and as others have said, don’t give in. The exact same thing happened to me. When I stopped giving lifts after a length of time similar to your situation, my colleague was clearly offended even though in my case it had added 15 mins to my journey each day as I had to go via a different route. She managed to get a lift with another colleague and I got the strong impression that she then bad mouthed me to the new person. It’s weird how some people aren’t grateful for all the care, time and effort you’ve given over a long period; rather they feel hard done by when you stop.

TellMeItsNotTrue · 19/09/2019 15:54

I hope you haven't let her get her foot back in the car door, and that you are back to enjoying your morning coffee and book time

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