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I dont want to give her lifts anymore

152 replies

Findingausername · 12/09/2019 21:04

My colleague lives 10mins walk away from work. She broke her ankle over a year ago. When it happened she was on crutches, complaining about getting to work on them, blah blah. Being nice, I offered to give her lifts as she is on my way and I was driving anyway.

Anyway, fast forward a year, her ankle is perfectly fine now and she's still expecting the lifts. It's meaning I don't have as much freedom, for example sometimes I would drive up to work early and sit in a coffee shop with a book for half an hour. Sometimes when I get to her house she isn't even ready, and I have to wait for her. I get the feeling she isn't apprieciative at all. (She was at first)
I have subtly tried to bring up the idea of her walking again and she kind of just goes 'well its on your way' and brushes it off. WIBU to tell her I can't give lifts anymore as it was never meant to be a long term thing in the first place

OP posts:
NoTheresa · 13/09/2019 18:28

Well done, OP. She can offended if she wishes. Who cares. The main thing is you have got your mornings back. It can be incredibly annoying to find yourself being taken advantage of. She was definitely doing just that.

NoTheresa · 13/09/2019 18:28

...behave as if she is offended...

eladen · 13/09/2019 18:49

if it is a ten minute walk how long is it by car? Struggling to imagine why someone would want a lift for that distance once mobility issues had resolved. Icy days aside.

Redwinestillfine · 13/09/2019 20:52

Don't tell her what gym you're allegedly going to, she may join then suggest you car share there 😂

Moomin8 · 13/09/2019 21:21

I guess she figures I'm going that way anyway so it doesn't cost me as much.

That's not the point though is it? Petrol is expensive and she's sponging off you. It was very nice of you to take her for this long. Who do these people think they are?

Well done for stopping this one sided arrangement 👏👏

imalrightjack · 13/09/2019 21:26

You may now need to go a different way, because otherwise she will be walking In and will see you drive past her each day...

Drum2018 · 13/09/2019 21:36

She should have been mortified that you had to tell her the lifts were coming to an end. She should have thanked you profusely for all the lifts you have kindly given her. But instead she's in a bloody huff and dared ask what you were planning on doing instead of collecting her - the cheeky bitch!

Juells · 13/09/2019 22:02

she will be walking In and will see you drive past her each day...

I'd consider that a result since she's been 'off' today. In fact I'd wave to her cheerily as I drove by.

bombomboobah · 13/09/2019 22:04

she has been quite cold to me today
Hehe lucky you!
But seriously what the fuck!!!
she's punishing you for not being a doormat😲

CTRL · 13/09/2019 22:06

Simple - don’t pick her up in the mornings and when your leaving work; say bye and zoom off 🤣🤣🤣

If you want to make an excuse just simply say your going somewhere else and your not going in her direction.

Simple as

Beautiful3 · 13/09/2019 22:08

Yay well done op.

flumposie · 13/09/2019 22:24

10 minute walk! I've been walking to work for longer than that for 17 years. Lazy thing. If she continues to be off with you and says anything just remind her of the year long favour she's had. C.F..

spanglydangly · 13/09/2019 22:24

Super OP! Well done!

Charley50 · 13/09/2019 22:28

You're actually doing her a massive favour stopping the lifts as two 10 minutes walks a day is great for her health.

oabiti · 13/09/2019 22:34

No mistaking her true colours. Don't feel guilty.

Delatron · 13/09/2019 22:42

Wow to her being so lazy she can’t walk 10 minutes. What a dream commute. She’s a lazy one.

Well done for putting your foot down. Who cares if she’s being off.

Smelborp · 13/09/2019 22:49

I think with long term favours, people forget it’s a favour, stop being grateful and start thinking it’s a right. When it’s removed they get arsed rather than grateful that someone has been kind to them for a v long period of time.

She should be thanking you. She’s a CF.

incognitomum · 13/09/2019 23:34

She's a cf for asking what plans are. Well done you though.

aliolilover · 13/09/2019 23:50

Well done OP!

justilou1 · 14/09/2019 01:44

If she gets snippy with you at work, I don’t think it would be rude to quietly point out what PP very astutely said... “It is very clear that you have forgotten that I started giving you a lift as a FAVOUR, CF Colleague. Your foot has been mended for over a year now and you have been taking advantage of my kindness and/or generosity for far too long.”

mantlepiece · 14/09/2019 04:32

So entitled! If you need to, say you got fed up having to wait around for her when you picked her up. Don’t let her bad mouth you, hurt her down.

mantlepiece · 14/09/2019 04:33

*shut her down.

poppycity · 14/09/2019 04:40

Well done, OP!

StoneofDestiny · 14/09/2019 05:03

Well done - her reaction tells you she has taken advantage of you. I'd not have offered any 'excuse' at all - 'I'm getting back to doing my own priorities' is enough.

Boysey45 · 14/09/2019 05:55

She should have given you petrol money even if you didn't want to take it. That says it all for me.
Don't be bothered that she's quiet, just get on with your job. She sounds to be a right user.