AIBU Niece did a 'reactions' haul video for 18th birthday presents...

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I don't know if I am out of touch with the youth of today [I'm only in my 30s but I feel seriously old right now despite working in social media] but I'm feeling pretty offended by this.
My niece turned 18th recently so we all spent a little extra and got her something from a list she provided.
We got her a necklace she'd asked for, for example, but other people couldn't afford to splash out and got vouchers or something smaller.
She's recently become very active on Youtube and Instagram, which is fine and pretty usual, but she saved all her presents from her birthday bbq as she said she wanted to open them later - again, fine.
However the real reason she wanted to open them later is because she wanted to open them during a video and show her live reactions to them, rating them with a thumbs up or thumbs down and saying things like 'Thanks but not thanks Auntie XXX'

I wasn't aware of the video until she shared it on her Facebook page - she's friends with lots of family members on there so people will have seen it. My mum isn't on Facebook but heard about it [her present got a thumbs down] and is mortified and really hurt.

I want to say something to her mum about it but DH thinks I should let it go and not get involved.

What would you do?

Of course you should send it to her mother if she hadn't seen it and I would also message the niece directly saying how rude and inappropriate that was. What a little shit.

Speak directly to her, she's 18 and an adult so she needs to hear this feedback.

It's how things work these days, people overshare online but strangely other people want to watch it.

Just remind her that these people she is rating are her family and they will support her far much longer than a few youtube subscribers.

Filming herself opening presents isnt that strange, but rating them is bizarre and rude.

I'd contact her and say you'd seen the video and you were sorry to hear the niece was unhappy with her present and your mother was upset she hadn't liked her present so publicly.

What a sh1t! If that was my daughter I would take every one of those gifts from her and either return them to the friend who gifted them. Tell her mum and hope she does the same.

Also, who has a gift list for an 18th?!

Tell her how your mum and you feel
That it's not acceptable. Those people bought her gifts because they care about her and wanted to celebrate with her. She has really crossed the line

Ridiculous girl wtf was she playing at , this is the curse of SM you get attention seeking people using likes or not to feel something. I would say somethi ng does she not give a shit about her famiy

I’d comment “how awful. Your Grandma knows about this video and is very hurt”.

That’s horrible and she knew you would see it as she shared it. I’d ask for the presents back.

You're nitpicking Glitterpearl, her behaviour is vile and says a hell of a lot about her but of course this is MN so there's always somebody to minimize and make excuses for anybody being a dick .

disgusting. I'd send the mother the link and say how upset your mum is and I'd also say how awful I think her video is in the comments. What an ungrateful cow!

I need to see this video .....

I would text and tell her how ungrateful she is and would not be receiving anything in the future!

I expect she was thoughtless, not intentionally cruel, but she needs to understand how unkind that was

I would also comment on her YouTube/insta page letting her know how disappointed you are in her.

To be honest if it was me - I would make a public comment on Facebook or YouTube. If she is going to be publically horrible about her family then maybe she needs to see the consequences.

She won't need to do a reactions video for her 21st, as she'll get no presents.

Perhaps in her entitled world-view, she thinks people will up their game and become competitive, all striving to give bigger presents than each other 😂

What a nasty girl. My DD is almost 18 and wouldn't dream of doing anything like that.

She would be getting nothing off me ever again.

Absolutely disgusting. She sounds like a spoilt brat.
From a very early age I knew I had to say thank you graciously for any gifts I was given, even if I didn't like them.
I particularly remember an outfit my grandparents bought me that I didn't like. I wrote the thank you note and wore it when I saw them. I must have been about 8.
There's no excuse for an 18 year old doing this.

She is 18, an adult now, that would be the last present I would be giving her op. Absolutely atrocious.

I would forward a link to her mother without a word of criticism. Simply put I thought this would interest you. Let her deal with it (or not) I would leave it at that.

Surely if its on her FB page her own mum has already seen it?

I think it highly unlikely they're unaware.

Tell her direct. She’s an adult now so treat her like one. Tell her that her nan has heard and is very upset and it’s likely others are as well. Don’t minimise or sugar coat it just tell her straight. I would also throw in I doubt thee will be a need for a re-run at Christmas as people aren’t going to want to buy her gifts now

I would be furious about this. She's an adult, so I would contact her to say how disgusting this is. But I'd tell her Mum too. (And I be tempted to make another video of her having all of her presents removed, but that's just me.)

Also when did this all happen? You said "recently" but are we talking a few weeks ago?