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I literally can't get up...

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NotMyRealName11 · 10/09/2019 16:38

IABVVU. I literally can't get up! I woke up at a normal time, got out of bed and felt like someone had been beating me up / smashing me on the head with a hammer. Went back to bed, woke up a few hours later... and I still feel so tired that I can barely move!

I can't be ill because I have no other, ahem, "symptoms" but every time I try to get up I feel dizzy! I'm blatantly just being lazy, DP is being incredibly kind and saying "rest for as long as you need," but he is back off to work tomorrow, so I really need somebody to give me a bit of a kick!

Please tell me to stop being unreasonable and lazy! Grin

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sueelleker · 15/09/2019 15:59

They do Ensure in puddings too-you could ask if they have those; they might be easier to keep down.

MrsMozartMkII · 15/09/2019 16:09

All crossed for tomorrow!

WellThisIsShit · 15/09/2019 16:12

Oh my goodness, just read the whole thread, what a shock for you and your family too, poor you!

I hope you’re a little bit on the mend at least now...

Frouby · 15/09/2019 16:18

Bloody hell OP, I hope you feel a lot better very soon. Flowers

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NotMyRealName11 · 15/09/2019 16:56

Well, I am getting bored...and I can now sit up for like, 20 minutes at a time... so definitely on the mend, I'd say!

Thank you for all the nice messages!

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Notwiththeseknees · 15/09/2019 20:35

Hope you are still improving and on track to go home tomorrow x

stayathomegardener · 16/09/2019 10:29

Fingers crossed you get your results back today and they put your mind at ease.

anyoneneedabodygaurd · 16/09/2019 16:59

OP, hoping we've had no update as you are on your way home Thanks

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NotMyRealName11 · 16/09/2019 20:28

Yes, I'm home! Thanks for all the support SmileFlowers

Having a very lazy evening and so happy to be back. I haven't had the biopsy results yet, but the results did come back from the blood film and there were some weird cells (acanthocytes and elliptocytes or something like that) but the doctor said they can't make any conclusion from just that and they would need the biopsy result. I'm thinking that they wouldn't have been happy for me to go home if there was anything super worrying. And I am not googling. Just trying not to worry about anything for the moment!

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Gonegrey31 · 16/09/2019 20:34

I’m so glad you are home OP but do take it easy. Flowers for you

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NotMyRealName11 · 17/09/2019 09:47

I'm taking it very easy! But it's very nice to be home :)

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Teensruletheroost · 17/09/2019 20:13

Glad you’re home Smile

Canttasteanything · 17/09/2019 20:25

How scary, so glad you are home now!

ShowOfHands · 17/09/2019 20:42

Goodness. What a roller-coaster.

DH had viral meningitis earlier this year. He battled on for 5 days at home until he couldn't move/speak/bear the pain and he went to A&E. 2 days in hospital and 3 days off work and the twit went back to full time work. 12hr shifts and all. Don't be a twit. Take it easy.

Hope you're all better soon.

Bananasandchocolatecustard · 17/09/2019 21:13

I’m glad you are at home. You need to rest and not worry that you are being “slothful “ or “lazy”, you have an illness and you need time to recover properly.

bridgetreilly · 17/09/2019 21:16

On the other hand, I don't want to become slothful.

You are ill. You have been very ill. Just stop with the self-accusation and wait until you are well again before you start worrying about laziness.

Orchidflower1 · 17/09/2019 21:41

Op you have not been lazy- you have been very very ill. Take care of yourself please.

Incidentally have you started another thread about going back to work?

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NotMyRealName11 · 18/09/2019 08:18

Thank you - and I am trying not to worry about laziness! I tried to do the washing up yesterday evening and fainted - so I think I definitely have to embrace doing nothing for the moment. It feels like being a Victorian invalid!

I did start a thread about work (although a little while ago) since I'm supposed to be back off maternity at the end of the month. But I'm not sure that's going to happen, realistically...

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Orchidflower1 · 18/09/2019 08:47

Your body needs time to repair itself. Rest ☕️🍫💐

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NotMyRealName11 · 18/09/2019 20:43

I just feel so fed up! I should be pleased to be home and everything and I just spent the whole day crying off and on. I'm losing it!

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MontyBowJangles · 18/09/2019 22:40

Sorry you're feeling like that OP Sad I had bacterial meningitis a few years ago (was in an induced coma for a few days) and it took weeks and weeks before I started to feel better, and was exhausted for months (but then I did have a newborn and a toddler to contend with too!).

Just try to rest and recuperate as much as possible. You've been through a lot. The only way to rest a brain and aid healing is SLEEP, so get plenty of it. And don't be afraid to cry, it's shit feeling like this. But you will be better.

Hope work are understanding about going back to work later x

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NotMyRealName11 · 18/09/2019 22:59

That sounds awful, it must have been really traumatic for you and your family! I hope you're fully recovered now? Mine was viral, so it's not as serious... I just feel weirdly emotional and down! My best friend from high school (we went to school together 500 miles or so north and have bizarrely ended up living 10 mins walk away from each other!) came over with her gorgeous baby boy today and I just about managed to make some coffee and chat for 15 minutes and I was wiped out. I just feel so far away from normal and I can't imagine actually getting back to my normal self ever!!

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NoSquirrels · 18/09/2019 23:34

I don't think that's odd or out of the norm, NotMy.

Think about it - a week ago you thought you were a bit tired. Nothing major. Bit of a headache.

Then all of a sudden you're gravely ill, basically in isolation in hospital, with all sorts of blood tests and worries, all the horrid sleep deprivation being on a ward gives you, you name it. Your body has been in survival mode.

You've missed your baby DD and you feel guilty for being ill, for not being super mum, for making your DP take care of everyone.

And your DF is visiting, with her lovely baby, and you want to be normal and you're ... not.

Rest up, love. Be kind to yourself.

Anyone would feel upset. Anyone would be having a weep.

Sleep is a healer, and NOT BEATING YOURSELF UP FOR BEING A HUMAN is also super important.

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BonnesVacances · 19/09/2019 13:39

I can't stress enough how important it is to rest and try not to overdo it. Viral meningitis is a serious illness that will have taken its toll. My DD had glandular fever (another serious viral illness) when she was 14, pushed herself to get back to school and now has ME. She's lived your life now every day for nearly 4 years.Sad It's almost as if the body can't take the additional stress you're putting on it and it shuts down. It's so important to respect what it's telling you and take it easy or you can do it more damage.

INeedNewShoes · 19/09/2019 14:42

You are bound to be physically and emotionally wiped out. I think you need to embrace the Victorian invalid role!

Seriously, you need to play the long term game here. Your real recovery will be quicker and more complete if you really really look after yourself now. Tons of sleep, eat well and you must stop beating yourself up.

If you push to do too much too soon it'll very likely backfire and see you unwell for longer.

It sounds twee but try to think of the little things each day that bring a bit of positivity to it. When I was very unwell (but thankfully not bed ridden) for around 6 months I honestly think that one of the things that kept me sane was thinking a bit about the little things that made my day nice.