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I literally can't get up...

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NotMyRealName11 · 10/09/2019 16:38

IABVVU. I literally can't get up! I woke up at a normal time, got out of bed and felt like someone had been beating me up / smashing me on the head with a hammer. Went back to bed, woke up a few hours later... and I still feel so tired that I can barely move!

I can't be ill because I have no other, ahem, "symptoms" but every time I try to get up I feel dizzy! I'm blatantly just being lazy, DP is being incredibly kind and saying "rest for as long as you need," but he is back off to work tomorrow, so I really need somebody to give me a bit of a kick!

Please tell me to stop being unreasonable and lazy! Grin

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BonnesVacances · 11/09/2019 12:33

I completely empathise! I've had viral meningitis and concur that you really can't get out of bed! It was also excruciatingly painful and up there with childbirth for me. I was in hospital for a week and then DH had to take weeks off work to look after me & DC when I was allowed home (I was a SAHM).

I think it took around 6 weeks for me to be properly back on my feet. So do take it easy and take your time!

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NotMyRealName11 · 11/09/2019 14:14

I am a bit worried about when I get home, with young DD and everything. My OH is taking the week off work but at the moment I can't imagine feeling normal ever again! Definitely a good idea to speak to HV. My OH's parents are quite close by and are lovely about helping out, but they both work full time and my family are not in London...

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ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 11/09/2019 14:17

I would consider getting a temporary nanny if you can afford it.

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 11/09/2019 14:23

Bloody hell, OP. Good job you got checked out.

Just rest for now. Stop worrying about what happens when you get home; your OH and his parents can help. That's what families are for.

Try and relax and get better. Hope you feel better soon. Flowers

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NotMyRealName11 · 11/09/2019 14:28

Thank you! I am not really a natural relaxer, lol. I like to plan and be in control! DP is feeling guilty as well because he thinks he should have made me go to hospital sooner. But I honestly thought I was just a bit tired and run down or something... or lazy!

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kateandme · 11/09/2019 15:21

op you cant do anything now apart from what you can do.does that make sense.some things are out of your control.the way of your revocery is part of that.so what can you do? well worry less about letting people down.or guilty mum.is this your fault.do you still love your dd and would do anything fro her if you could.exactly so no guilt.
what else.well you can rest.you can follow everything the doctor says.
akk question.so what fluids.diet.what medication.what and when should you do certain level of acitivity.
when your a worryier or needing to be in control it can help to get these thing sorted about what you actually can and cant do.this stops the spinning in your head.then when all practicals are out the way just rest.
let your mind rest.
what helps at this time.movies.tv.favourite books?
family or help for dd and you will come.but dont worrry about how or for how long.take it each a bit at a time.dont think of weeks in advance focus on the right now.becasue shit happens and it never ever goes to plan!
let urself heal.

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NotMyRealName11 · 11/09/2019 17:10

Yeah, I hope at the end of the day you're right and it all will work out!

No going home today sadly Sad

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NotMyRealName11 · 11/09/2019 18:26

On an aside, when DP has been in to see me, he had to wear a mask and scrub - you kind of have to see the funny side...

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MrsMozartMkII · 11/09/2019 18:46

You're probably in for a couple more days lass.

Loving the image of your DP.

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NotMyRealName11 · 11/09/2019 19:32

It doesn't really particularly suit him!

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MrsMozartMkII · 11/09/2019 20:28

Hopefully he won't have to wear it too much longer Flowers

managedmis · 11/09/2019 20:34

So you're in another night?

How are you feeling in yourself?

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NotMyRealName11 · 11/09/2019 21:33

Yeah, in for another night. I'm feeling a bit down... it just feels like flu x 10! Which is not amazing, but I think that things must be getting better because the headache is much better (thanks to the amazing pain meds!) and I'm not being sick every time I try to move my head anymore! And the blood counts look a bit better this evening, apparently. Lucky to have such good care and everyone in the hospital has been amazing... but yeah, I'm just tired of feeling like this and I want to go home!

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FluffyCloudsInTheSky · 11/09/2019 21:36

Bless toy. Rest up Thanks

sorrythisusernameisinuse · 11/09/2019 21:48

Omg bless you! From thinking you were being lazy to being hospitalised!!! Wishing you a super speedy recovery!

ElektraUnchained · 11/09/2019 21:50

Urgh being ill sucks so hard. You don't even get to enjoy all the rest.

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NotMyRealName11 · 11/09/2019 22:07

Yes, totally! I've been longing for a bit of a rest - so that will teach me to wish for the wrong things!

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ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 11/09/2019 23:36

Hope you continue to recover quickly. Take advantage of being in hospital to rest. You will find it harder to get the rest you need at home.

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NotMyRealName11 · 12/09/2019 00:54

I know! I'm just so miserable that I can't see DD. I wish my OH could bring her to visit, but I do see why it isn't possible.

I'm just a bit cut up about it.

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Nodramahere · 12/09/2019 01:06

Wishing you a fast recovery OP Smile

managedmis · 12/09/2019 01:09

Yup, there's no way they'd have a small baby on your ward. Must be very tough but no doubt you'll be discharged soon - have they given you an ETA of when this may be?

Glad you're feeling better 🎉

Dita73 · 12/09/2019 01:31

I hope you soon get better. It sounds like you’ve been through a nightmare. Sending you much love x

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NotMyRealName11 · 12/09/2019 09:43

They've said hopefully tomorrow. Today was a possibility, but my temperature went crazy high in the night and I've been sick a lot again, so that's now gone out of the window :(

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INeedNewShoes · 12/09/2019 09:53

Poor you OP. Sorry it's all so rubbish.

I think it might be easier for you to accept that you might be in for a few days. I know it's really hard but the disappointment every time you're told you're not going home today must be awful if you've built up your hopes each time.

It's good that the hospital are on the ball and sounds as though they're really looking after you. I know you're desperate to get home but it also sounds as though the enforced rest in hospital might be a good thing as you sound liable to try to do too much once you're home! Have you accepted how unwell you've been/are and that you're going to need significant rest at home?

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NotMyRealName11 · 12/09/2019 10:23

@INeedNewShoes Yes, the hospital have been amazing and I feel like they're being so on the ball. I know how overstretched the NHS is, which makes it all the more incredible!

My partner says that he is going to sort everything out so that I can just rest when I get home. I think he's going to see if he can get another week off work (his work means that he is often working out of town, so he's sometimes not here Tuesday - Friday or Saturday - Wednesday). But he says that I have to not worry about it and it's his job to sort things out. This morning he had made a video with DD which was really cute. It makes you really appreciate that we have all this technology these days - it must have been much worse before! I've had so many lovely messages from friends and so on.

The doctor told me this morning that I have to speak to a dietitian (sp?) at some point to talk about putting on weight. Can't say I'm looking forward! I have a crazy low BMI like 15.6 or something usually (which isjust the way I am) and I think I've lost weight in the last few days, so I probably look horrendous.

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