to be shocked when i receive a letter/card addressed to MRS (DH'S NAME)?

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...this has happened to me twice! By this i mean it's addressed to Mrs Joe Bloggs, for example. These are both from friends - not ultra close ones, but good enough friends.
I keep thinking....what?!?! Haven't i gotten to the stage where i at least earned to be addressed by my own name? (i mean, i love hubby to bits, but even he thought it was a bit ridiculous!)

bothering about names, pah. Far too introspective.

I don't think you can revert to being Miss, though, can you? Like a born again virgin?

(Also DP occasionally gets misspelled letters addressed to Mr Fatter. Which would put me off even if I felt inclined to go for his name.)

(A friend of mine had a bit of a thing about (a) getting married (b) changing her name. Only her first husband had such an embarrassing name that he actually took her previous surname. Then they got divorced. And she couldn't revert because he'd got her surname - so she was stuck with the embarrassing one, also because by now she was stuck with it professinally. Then she got married again (to a man who looked like a hamster) and took his surname as well, a double-barrelled appendage. Now she has divorced the hamster and has dropped his appendage, so to speak, but is stuck with the embarrassing. I tell you this merely as a Cautionary Tale.)

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an exception: if you tend to get married more than once, keep original surname. Much less confusing

Ah, but most people don't recognise that tendency till they join the one in three people whose waltz up the aisle ends in used tissues.

yeah I know but I liked the thought

Lesbians should be able to revert from Ms to Miss, if they revert to being straight (but still not married). Sex with women doesn't count, does it, in etiquette and legal circles? If it's not with a man it's not real sex.

But Ok that wouldn't work for my divorced and widowed lesbian cases.

lucyellensmum, removing the Mrs from my name was one of the attractives of doing a PhD but I left it too late, no PhD will save me from the "Mrs" title my wrinkles have now awarded to me

the only one who does it I think is my MIL and I'm sure she does it to wind me up, cos it does

isabel, its never too late, apparently! I just heard that my supervisor has a new masters student, he is 78! he said to my friend, he would quite fancy doing a PhD, but he would be 82 when he is finnished

Considering the current state of my neurones, I will be 78 by the time I finish writing my research proposal...

Pruners - someone who worked on "Green Wing" was called Alabaster. So was one of the characters - Kim Alabaster. They did a lot of in-jokey stuff of naming the characters after the production team.

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Oi Malory,
I'm a MS and not a lesbian or divorced (well, I am but now happily married) or bitter.

And I have the name I was born with despite havign been married twice, I've never changed it.