to be shocked when i receive a letter/card addressed to MRS (DH'S NAME)?

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...this has happened to me twice! By this i mean it's addressed to Mrs Joe Bloggs, for example. These are both from friends - not ultra close ones, but good enough friends.
I keep thinking....what?!?! Haven't i gotten to the stage where i at least earned to be addressed by my own name? (i mean, i love hubby to bits, but even he thought it was a bit ridiculous!)

(oooh, don't start me on Christian names. On the rare occasions I'm asked to spell my 'Christian' name I say truthfully if unhelpfully it's not a Christian name, it's a Hindu name.)

It;'s funny, I'm as atheist as they come these days, and yet I don't tend to get offended by "Christian name". I suppose I don't even associate it with the Christian religion. I just think of it as a generic word, like all vacuum cleaners being "the Hoover" or all ballpoint pens being a "biro".

lapin - yes, that's right.
Hence also the new Secretary General of the UN, Ban Ki-Moon, is "Mr Ban", and Deng Xiao-Ping was always "Mr Deng".

Lordy - check Wikipedia "discussion" on Saddam Hussein's name, v. complex...

agree with meandmyflyingmachine, I now consider Dh surname to be my name

and I love the idea of someone writing to the Queen address ing the letter to Dear Mrs Prince Phillip!

I remember reading in a magazine once, about 20 years ago, about those "prize" letters people used to get sent in the days before mail-merge - you know, when they had blanks very obviously filled in by details from a clunky database. Apparently Prince Charles got one which was addressed to:

MR HRH PRINCE
CHARLES BUCKINGHAM PALACE
THE MALL
LONDON

and said:

Dear MR PRINCE!
Imagine if you rolled up outside CHARLES BUCKINGHAM PALACE in a brand spanking new Audi! Whatever would your friends in THE MALL have to say?... etc

Just to throw another mix into the pot we are Prof & Dr! But we are both peeved in an equal opportunities manner as much of the family go for 'Mr & Mrs'.

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i did a PhD to avoid the Miss/Ms thing. No really! (well almost) But actually, what annoys me more than anything is when dealing with people re dc's then they insist on calling me Mrs even though ive never been married.

Anyway surely you could be a civilly-partnered lesbian and be called Mrs, eh?

only read op.

YABU. People really don't think about it that much.

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Thre are so many different ways of addressing people these days, with so many different surname options, I don't know why people bother getting sniffy at others' mistakes.

So would an etiquette-following, yet bitter, lesbian divorcee be Ms Herfirstname ExHusband'slastname?

And a widowed lesbian would be, I suppose, Ms Exhusbandsfirstname Exhusbandslastname.

But non-bitter lesbian divorcee would have a problem. She'd have to struggle between Mrs and Miss Herfirstname Exhusbandslastname.

I don't have surname options. I have a surname. It's mine (mine mine MINE). There is no reason to assume that just because in a careless moment of miscalculation I allowed some bloke to impregnate me I agreed to his surname as well.

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Hmm. am getting confused, I mean the non-bitter lesbian divorcee would have to choose between Mrs and Ms. Unless she reverted to being straight and became Miss again.

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