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AIBU about DD15 behaviour should I say something to best friend

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pixie45 · 08/09/2019 21:02

Today I went cinema with DD15, best friend, her DD19 & her boyfriend who came last min.

Before they came DD15 said to me she didn’t want to sit with best friends DD19/her boyfriend I said to her this is how seating arrangement are - basically when we do go cinema DD15/Best Friends DD19 always sit in front together & this has never been a issue before everyone including DD15 were happy with this.

Anyway once they came my DD15 said in front of my best friend I’m sitting at the back with you I don’t want to sit next to them I said to her no this is the seating arrangements like always. Again DD15 said no I’m not sitting at the front I don’t want to I’m sitting next to you at the back, again I said no, at this point my best friend looked on in disbelief then she walked off to her DD19/boyfriend which I was very embarrassed about I did tell DD15 off though.

When we were walking into cinema my best friend said to me don’t she want to sit next to my daughter cos her boyfriend is here I said don’t worry about it but I was very embarrassed. When we went into the cinema my DD15 pulled a face at having to sit next to them.

Was I being unreasonable to not let DD15 sit next to me? Should I say anything to my best friend?

OP posts:
DannyWallace · 08/09/2019 21:04

Was it that your daughter didn't want to be a 3rd wheel to a 19year old and her boyfriend??

boptist · 08/09/2019 21:04

YABVU.

IfYouWannaComeBack · 08/09/2019 21:04

Why did you force her to sit next to them? I don’t understand what your issue was, she’s 15, if she doesn’t want to sit next to people she doesn’t have to.
Your behaviour was really odd and you need to apologise to your DD

CIT80 · 08/09/2019 21:05

She was obviously very uncomfortable sitting next the couple like a spare part ! Why could she not sit next to you ??

IfYouWannaComeBack · 08/09/2019 21:05

Also telling her off for not wanting to sit next to a couple was out of line on your part.
Your seating “arrangement” was bizarre anyway

ambereeree · 08/09/2019 21:05

YABU and a bit odd tbh.

Fluffyunicorns · 08/09/2019 21:06

YABU - why make her sit with your friends DD and her boyfriend. She felt uncomfortable and wanted to sit with you. You should have let her

Polly99 · 08/09/2019 21:06

Did you ask your daughter why she wanted to sit with you and not with the others?
I don’t understand why you were embarrassed, nor why you’d need to say anything to anyone. She’s 15 and wanted to sit with her mum. What’s the problem with that? I think you were pretty unreasonable to send her away.

lifecouldbeadream · 08/09/2019 21:07

Does the boyfriend normally go?

Why would anyone want to sit next to a couple of that age? Why wouldn’t the 15 yer old want to sit with you in those circs?

Wellandtrulyoutnumbered · 08/09/2019 21:07

Why would you be so difficult ?

Teachermaths · 08/09/2019 21:08

WTF why would anyone want to sit next to a 19yo couple as a spare wheel?

Your poor dd.

chamenanged · 08/09/2019 21:08

You tell your 15 year old where she can and can't sit in the cinema?

HeadintheiClouds · 08/09/2019 21:09

You always insist they sit a row ahead? Confused Why? Why can’t everyone just sit where they want to? And what exactly are you planning to say to your friend??

Celebelly · 08/09/2019 21:09

Why on earth are you forcing a 15 year old to sit where they don't want to? Confused Why couldn't she sit next to you like she wanted? Weird.

SunshineAngel · 08/09/2019 21:11

I wouldn't want to be sitting next to a couple, like a spare part. Your poor DD.

IndigoHexagon · 08/09/2019 21:11

You’ve made a massive mountain out of a molehill here! Absolute waste of energy - your dd is old enough to know where she wants to sit and doesn’t have to explain herself - if you should be embarrassed by anyone’s behaviour, I’m afraid it’s your own.

Carpetburns · 08/09/2019 21:12

What the fresh hell..?!
Seating arrangements at the cinema with teenagers. The whole post is odd. Yabu.

DareOrTruth · 08/09/2019 21:12

I think it’s odd that the boyfriend came tbh. But I’ve never understood couples who have to do everything together.

Your daughter clearly didn’t want to feel like a spare part next to a couple. You said yourself the boyfriend came last minute so she wouldn’t have known this when she agreed to go,

Why do you book seats away from each other anyway? That seems odd.

ShellbyBell · 08/09/2019 21:12

YABU Hmm

boptist · 08/09/2019 21:12

Why don't you all just sit in a row like normal people?

Butchyrestingface · 08/09/2019 21:12

Why weren't you all sitting together?

Weird.

littlepaddypaws · 08/09/2019 21:13

back story or are you just being a knob towards your dd 15 ?

RedHelenB · 08/09/2019 21:13

YABU. Dd friend and boyfriend together and toyr dd where she feels she wants to sit.

Beccaishere · 08/09/2019 21:14

To be honest you should be apologising to your daughter. Your made her feel like a 3rd wheel and then told her off like she was a small child. She is 15!

Also what’s with the weird seating arrangements anyway? Why not all just sit in a row? Your daughter one end then you your best friend her daughter and boyfriend?

LolaSmiles · 08/09/2019 21:14

I'm guessing you go to a cinema that allocates seats which is how you have seat arrangements.

I entirely understand why a 15 year old didn't want to be a third wheel to a 19 year old couple.

Instead of arguing with her could you not have found out what her issue was and let her sit with you?

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