to be livid with this woman (asked dd to waitress)

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Dd waitressed last night at the birthday party of a girl we vaguely know. It was a big posh combined 18th and 21st. Dd is a great waitress and has done it part time for 3 years.

The party was at the parents house in a marquee etc etc. She told me this morning that it was full of drugs, all the kids were horrible and rude ("I need more booze!" "Just hold on a minute" "i need it now (whispered) you fucking peasant") was one example. They were all taking ketamine and the girl whose party it was told dd that she'd dropped a bag of ket and could dd keep an eye out on the floor. Dd ignored her but she kept demanding dd look for it. There was drug residue all over the side in the loos. To make it even more of a rank experience the boy who was sharing the party grabbed dds boobs from behind.

Dd is laughing it off this morning but said it was one of the worst experiences of her life!

I am livid and feel like texting the mum (who I have known for ages although we are not particularly friendly just acquaintances).

I am not actually going to text her, just need to vent! AIBU about the drugs? I know teens take drugs but to be so blatant about it!

It does seem logical

Cherry, I take every thing you say with a pinch of

I remember you going on about your island home, like it was a villa in the Bahamas. Except it turned out to be a chalet on the Isle of Wight

Nothing to do with the thread but this is piss funny goes to show to the delusion that some posters are under.

There is a weird bias on this thread towards private school
People
Seem to be falling over themselves to prove that private school kids are ‘worse’ that state
This says a
Mother who can’t afford private for love not money ! People are people

Drugs , bullying , intelligence , sexism , abuses , kindness prevail across humanity

Drugs , bullying , intelligence , sexism , abuses , kindness prevail across humanity
Exactly, @Pikapikachooo.

But what shocks me is that some parents turn a blind eye to them. Our Headmaster sent out the schools new anti-drugs and drug-help policy last week, and one comment he had to make was: we can't police private parties where parents have a different moral stance on drugs from the school's own. Which made me think he's encountered parents who think it's OK. I let DC (now U6th) have alcohol at their parties, but keep an eye on the amount and fill them with lots of rich heavy food really early on in the evening to soak it all up. But I'm even starting to feel uneasy about that now.

OP your DD is clearly a mature girl who doesn't need to get off her face to enjoy herself, thank goodness. I used to waitress similar events and our manager always said: 'It's more fun working these parties than going to them.' I think she was right.

Pik I think there is the opposite. A denial of the facts that well off young people are more likely to take illegal drugs as they have more money. Its all denial of this and stating, against research, that access to money makes no difference to how likely young people are to take illegal drugs.

@jennymanara I'm not sure it's that straightforward. Just because they have the money doesn't mean they'll take that route. I think, as a PP said, that it's the lethal combination of parents who give their children lots of their money but none of their time and attention that leads to problems.

I know one thing my DCs social group seems to have in common is that their parents are very present and interested in their DC's lives and the lives of their friends. They look out for them.

timegoingtoofast

Thank you for your realistic description of the effects and dangers of ketamine.

I found that it was best to tell my dd, when she was young, the truth about the effects and dangers of each drug, so that if she did decide to take them at least she knew what she was doing.

Pikapikachooo, I agree with you. Children and teenagers are what they are regardless of their situation.

The thought of people taking Ketamine terrifies me, it is a horse tranquiliser after all! Used for humans too but under strict medical supervision. I remember House taking it for his bad leg.

As for CherryPavlova, there have always been parents like that.

I remember when I was young, how we would laugh at some parents' illogical desire to believe their daughter was still a virgin, even when faced with the receipts.

The thought of people taking Ketamine terrifies me, it is a horse tranquiliser after all!

That's a bit of a myth actually. I mean, it is used in veterinary medicine. And it can be administered in doses strong enough to take down a horse. But so are plenty of drugs that are also used on humans.

Ketamine is routinely used on humans.

The only reason it's commonly called a horse tranquilliser is that was where Americans sourced it from, from stealing or otherwise acquiring it from vets, so it got the reputation of being a horse tranquilliser. (And it's kinda good marketing, for those who want a strong drug, don't you think?)

But, in the UK for a long time, it was simply a prescription drug and dealers imported it from countries where you could simply buy it over the counter in large amounts from (human!) pharmacies.

I'm out of touch, so I have no idea where kids get their drugs from these days (sometimes off the internet I believe?!)

Also it's now a Class B drug so the legal risks are more severe now.

(Disclaimer: my memory is hazy on whether it had the status of prescription drug, exactly before it was upgraded to B, but it was certainly seen as low risk, legally, by users compared to other drugs such as MDMA or coke).

@CherryPavlova you’ve never done cocaine? Can you not afford it? Urgh how common!

I'd let the parents know tbh....sounds awful.

I would be saying something about the drugs too and make quite clear how disgusting you think ket is.

Drugs are quite tragic really...even booze which i love ( abd is prob one of the worst.)

@Pingpongpoppy 😂😂😂

When I were a lass the paupers like me took speed and the rich kids took coke!

Your dd sounds like a OP

Of course drugs are to some extent classless but it stands to reason more access to wealth means more access to drugs - one of the reasons people choose private education for their kids is the connections they make, unfortunately not all those connections are going to be so desirable.

@ashtrayheart When I were a lass the paupers like me took speed and the rich kids took coke!

Indeed! And very disappointing to find out, later on, that coke was no better

If they're tiny (much, much smaller than, say, a typical line of coke) then they're likely only an occasional or new user

That explains why I had such a terrible time the one and only night I did it 🤦