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Parking in disabled when pregnant

247 replies

Notagainsusan · 05/09/2019 20:28

So I don't actually think I am bu but I just need someone else to wtf with me and have no one I can rant to in real life other than dh who may soon cut his ears off rather than listen to me again 😛

Good friend is pregnant. I have a 10 week old baby. Yesterday we went to the supermarket together. As we were driving round my friend commented on the lack of baby and parent spaces to which I said oh don't worry he's in his pram anyway so not like I really need the space (I mean he won't be running in front of cars etc and spaces at this shop are quite big so I could easily get the buggy out 😊).

Friend then comments how she can't walk very far atm.
I did internally eye roll at this. She is 7 weeks pregnant. So far in this pregnancy she has had every symptom known to man kind and keeps commenting how her bump is huge already. At 10 weeks post partum I have more of a bump than she does, she is literally stick thin. However I realise I'm being a bit mean here and she is very excited to be pregnant.

Anyway! As we drive around she pulls into a disabled space. I didn't think she had realised so I said oh this isn't parent and child it's disabled. To which she tells me that as she is pregnant she is fine to park in disabled?! I replied saying I didn't think that was true and we should probably move. She said she wasn't and tbh I didn't want the hassle of an argument as she had done me a favour by driving so I shut up.

We get out the car, do the shop, all fine. When we are getting back in the car I was folding the buggy etc when a lady approaches and starts having a go at me for using the space?! Saying how it is not for child and parents. I didn't get a chance to say anything back to this woman as she stormed off mid shout about how inconsiderate I was. Friend just stands there and then raises an eyebrow to me.

In the car I bring up the woman shouting at me and friend just says 'oh don't let her ruin your day'. 😳😳 I said maybe this is a lesson in not using disabled bays unless you're actually disabled and she went in a huff saying how she was feeling really hormonal and not sleeping well so she didn't want to have to walk far ?! She dropped us off at home and it was all a bit awkward.

I'm annoyed that I got the blame for her wanting to use a disabled bay! And that she is using one in the first place!

Prepared to be flamed as I probably should have got her to move but I've no idea how and couldn't face an argument with ds in the back waiting for his stinky nappy to be changed 😂

OP posts:
boobybum · 05/09/2019 20:45

Beaverdam People shouldn’t be so touchy about parking??!! WTF?

tillytrotter1 · 05/09/2019 20:45

I think your friend should park where she likes.

I agree, parent and child places too!!!

MakeLemonade · 05/09/2019 20:46

Your friend is being ridiculous, of course she can’t park in them.

I’m 36 weeks pregnant and on crutches and yes it’s frustrating to not be able to park closer to the shop sometimes but wouldn’t dream of parking in a disabled space.

WaggingKnife · 05/09/2019 20:46

I think your friend should park where she likes. If there were loads of disabled bays then i dont see what the issue is. If she took the last one i sort of see where the woman was coming from.

Are you for real?

Beaverdam · 05/09/2019 20:47

Uh? Where did i say i was exempt from following rules? Please do not make assumptions. I simply said i do not judge anyone who uses them.

GrimalkinsCrone · 05/09/2019 20:47

She’s a dramatic, entitled woman who obviously thinks she’s a very special Pregnant Person. You got the blame because you were her accomplice, which seems fair.

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 05/09/2019 20:48

She’s a twat.

MrsTerryPratchett · 05/09/2019 20:48

I'm very grateful as a formerly pregnant and now parent person for all the modifications people with disabilities have campaigned for that we share. Ramps, easy open doors, busses that are easier to get on.

That doesn't mean I nick the stuff we can't share, like parking spaces.

Friend is BU.

Ginfordinner · 05/09/2019 20:48

When DD was little, and had health issues that meant I had to carry medical equipment around with me, I once challenged a woman for parking in a parent and child space. She replied that she was disabled and all the disabled car parking spaces were full. I felt awful for challenging her.

Your friend is being very unreasonable.

CGTER567 · 05/09/2019 20:49

Uh? Where did i say i was exempt from following rules? Please do not make assumptions. I simply said i do not judge anyone who uses them.

Well, you should. Unless they have a blue badge, it is illegal, whatever the circumstances.

PortiaCastis · 05/09/2019 20:51

Oh FFS a disabled person with a blue badge may need that parking space not someone who thinks being pregnant gives her carte blanche to be an entitled arse

AmIRightOrAMeringue · 05/09/2019 20:51

She obviously has no empathy so with someone so self centred I'd put the argument back on her - you dont want her to get into trouble or a fine when she is already having such a stressful pregnancy!

MorganKitten · 05/09/2019 20:52

If you are t disabled don’t park there, being pregnant is not a disability. My mum is wheelchair bound, I’ve spent nearly two years in different hospitals and heard others struggles not being able to get around, using those spaces is selfish.

Aprillygirl · 05/09/2019 20:53

Your friend is a prick.

WaggingKnife · 05/09/2019 20:54

Please do not make assumptions. I simply said i do not judge anyone who uses them

You said you didn’t see what the issue was with her taking one.

duffyluth · 05/09/2019 20:54

I think your friend should park where she likes. If there were loads of disabled bays then i dont see what the issue is.

That they are for disabled people maybe?

If she took the last one i sort of see where the woman was coming from.

You know even if she took the first one she contributes to them filling up.

People shouldnt be so touchy about parking.

They are not touchy about parking. They are touchy about being fucking disabled Hmm

Some people are just arseholes.

NearlyGranny · 05/09/2019 20:54

A parking fine will soon sort your friend out, but some blue badge space abusers do seem to lead charmed lives!

ShirleyPhallus · 05/09/2019 20:54

As if people like @Beaverdam actually exist?!

carly2803 · 05/09/2019 20:55

pregnancy is not a disability. She is BVVVVVVVVU

I didnt even park in the mother and child spaces when pregnant!! should have but didnt.

BenjiB · 05/09/2019 20:55

Your friend is an idiot. Hopefully she’ll get caught and fined.

ShirleyPhallus · 05/09/2019 20:55

Why is beaverdam also referenced as 38beaverdam?

LatteLove · 05/09/2019 20:57

YANBU and your friend is a madam

Sorrysorrysosorry · 05/09/2019 20:58

I think your friend should park where she likes. If there were loads of disabled bays then i dont see what the issue is. If she took the last one i sort of see where the woman was coming from

People shouldnt be so touchy about parking

Carrying an oxygen tank with you and being unable to park because some ABLE BODIED lazy swine has taken a space you could have had tends to make people a bit touchy. I hope you were being sarcastic Beaverdam

Op your ‘friend’ is out of order and you should have made her move.

Sirzy · 05/09/2019 20:59

I saw this on a car in a disabled space with no blue badge. Although I don’t necessarily agree with going around leaving notes it did make me laugh

Parking in disabled when pregnant
AlunWynsKnee · 05/09/2019 20:59

It's not even disability = disabled space. It's disability + blue badge = disabled space.