Aibu to think private school kids wearing their logoed school jumpers at the weekend is weird?

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Isn’t it a bizarre stealth boast, except it’s not stealthy at all and a bit attention seeking? I know several children who do this. If your child does, why?

You’d never catch a state educated child wearing their school jumper at the weekend. If my child started to, I’d suggest they changed.

My 13 yo son often wears his school hoodie because it’s comfortable and warm (you’d expect so for the price!) In fact he wore it out to the park on Sunday with his friend so maybe it was him you saw! I personally would rather he wore non school clothes at the weekend but it’s his choice and certainly not a stealth boast on his part.

You don’t think your children deserve a better education?! Christ, what’s wrong with you? My son is not the centre of the universe by any means, but I want all the best things for him in life because I’m his mother. It’s my job. I work for the NHS so am not exactly rolling in it, but should I be able to afford to privately school him when the time comes then I absolutely will because I will do anything I can to give him an increased chance of happiness and success. What you should be asking is why you don’t feel your children deserve that.

In an ideal world, we’d have a great state education system and everyone would benefit, but we don’t, and I would never deliberately choose a lesser option for my child when it was within my power to do otherwise.

Rather than resent people who can and do give their children the same opportunities you claim you could if you wanted to, surely your vitriol would be better directed towards those in government who have run out education system into the ground....? Until there’s a viable alternative to private education, people who can pay will do so.

I can’t even imagine the thought of showing off enters his head. He grabs something comfortable and clean and goes out!!
We live near a couple of very prestigious boarding schools so my son’s private school isn’t the one you’d boast about in this area!

'Manontry - they are indeed allowed to show off. And I am similarly entitled to judge them accordingly'

Exactly, just own it! No need for the 'it's comfy' bollocks.

Wearing a leavers hoodie is entirely different. Wearing a jumper with a private school logo on a weekend is to let everyone know you're privileged, superior to the plebs.

Also, most sweaters/ hoodies are 'comfy' I've yet to see an uncomfortable jumper.

What an odd thread. Despising parents for sending their children to schools they feel are better and children for wearing whatever it is they wish to wear.

My 4 are all in private schools and they do at times wear their hoodies outside of school/during school holidays when they attend certain sport activities. The hoodies are not cheap and I'd rather they wore them than me having to go and buy some other branded hoody for sports/other activity. Not once have I thought or seen it as showing off. More as a convenience. I also never thought it would/should bother anyone.

Exactly, just own it! No need for the 'it's comfy' bollocks.

I honestly think that’s why mine wears his but I’ll ask him when he’s home to be sure!
He hasn’t got many hoodies and he has 3 school ones so occasionally wears them at the weekend as they are usually clean and available. My son has no big branded clothes and isn’t into labels, he just grabs and goes. If he wore his PE top, blazer or other school items I’d raise an eyebrow. But a hoodie is a hoodie to a teenager and I can’t imagine he give status a second thought! It’s a private school but considered particularly posh in this area.

“because I will do anything I can to give him an increased chance of happiness and success.“
So will I. I just don’t think private education is necessary for that.

DS used to play school football. They had to wear full uniform travelling to and from matches (usually Saturday) for both home and away games.

*not considered posh typo!

Exactly, just own it! No need for the 'it's comfy' bollocks

What do you mean, own it? My dd doesn't wear her sports hoodie to show off, i doubt thats occurred to her. She likes wearing it though as its the right size (huge), the right weight (soft) and her favourite colour.

Honestly, the idea that some uptight woman is looking at her with a cat's bum mouth and a spiteful attitude - makes her the weird one.

What a shitty attempt to have a dig a parents of private school kids.

People should just mind their own fucking business and I say this as someone educated at a bog standard, but not terrible state school.

As far as I’m aware we are not in Communist China and the state does not own peoples children. Obviously I advocate the state interfering in the event of neglect.

Froth all you like. Do you ball out adults wearing ‘designer’ clothes you come across in the street or picket people who have big houses or drive a ‘posh’ car. After all it’s not fair either that I don’t drive a Range Rover and someone else can

My DD has a school hoodie with her name on the back which she has been known to wear on a weekend as it's cosy. It's not uniform as such, and she wouldn't wear her real uniform on a weekend unless she's been in for any reason (eg sometimes they show potential pupils round on open days).

Froth all you like. Do you ball out adults wearing ‘designer’ clothes you come across in the street or picket people who have big houses or drive a ‘posh’ car.

I think it’s a pretty safe bet that the OP does do that, yes. She’s pretty vociferous in her moral outrage regarding inequality, despite being well off (via dogged hard work) herself.

Well actually they probably have all these things because they have said they’re wealthy because they ‘work hard’. Unlike those lazy lower paid people who mustn’t do

This is the weirdest thread.

OP can afford private school but does not think it is unfair. I wonder if she lives in an area that has good schools, average schools or bad schools.

(I’m sure she’ll say she lives next door to the UK’s lowest ranking school now!)

DH went to boarding school and had to wear his uniform at the weekend if they went into town. Didn’t give them a choice.

The OP cannot afford private school.

DH went to boarding school and had to wear his uniform at the weekend if they went into town.

Did your DH go to Hogwarts?

I can't imagine any kid wearing their uniform( posh or otherwise) when they don't have to. Saturday schools are a thing though.

The OP cannot afford private school.

She says that she can (though any one of us can say anything at all online, so who knows?):

“I do consciously object to private school (we could afford it but choose not to as we don’t think our kids deserve a better education than anyone else)”

It could be pride of their school team, like people who wear sports kits. We're in the USA so all the kids wear school hoodies and t-shirts at the weekend, private and state schools alike. So I don't find it odd.

Yep, I actually force my children to wear their private school uniform at all times for exactly that reason, an “I’m privileged” sandwich board.

Do you put a big chip on your shoulder for the same reasons OP?

I think this thread shows the deep cavern between state and private education and the resentment and defensiveness on both sides. So I’m not surprised.

I really don't think this thread shows anything of the sort.
Having read through it seems to show that dc whether in private or state schools often find their school hoodies ( sport, leaver etc) comfortable items to wear at the weekends and therefore wear them.
My dc have been in state and private schools and have worn hoodies outside of school in both sectors as have both sets of class mates.
OP this giant cavern is really just in your head.

Many of our high paid public sector colleagues/friends/associates sold out too - its a great shame.

Far better to sell out their principles - or rather your principles - than to sell out their kids!