To not know what to make of my DH saying this every morning...

[SillySallySue]

OK - this might sound weird so apologies in advance!

Every morning for the last two or three weeks, my DH has said "I'm tired, I had to get up with DS (8 months old) several times".

You're all thinking "And?"

DS is a great sleeper, as is DH - I on the other hand am not. I sleep like a cat. We have other DC's who wake up for various wees/drinks/bad dreams and I can sense them before they even get to my room lol.

AIBU to be starting to get annoyed that he keeps saying this when it's obviously not true? I've gotten to the point where I feel like I need to spend the whole night awake to see for myself! If he was saying "DS woke up once" I'd be more inclined to accept it but DS sleeps in a cot right next to me - there's no way I wouldn't hear multiple times!

If he is lying - why would he do that? Is it possible he's dreaming he got up with him?!

Am I being nuts to think that if someone is lying to make you feel bad/inadequate when you're in a relationship that it's a bit of an issue?!

No! In certain circumstances it would be considered gaslighting.

Am I being nuts to think that if someone is lying to make you feel bad/inadequate when you're in a relationship that it's a bit of an issue?!

You're assuming his intention. It could be he truly believes this, or he wants to "pump" himself up in his wife's eyes.

It almost sounds like it’s a stupid habit he’s gotten into - wake up, stretch, fart, scratch balls, lie about waking up with the baby.
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No, it isn't unreasonable. It is a real problem. It's common - and damaging - for couples to play the 'I'm more tired than you' game with small children. When someone is lying to score points, that is really damaging and you need to get to the bottom of why it's happening.
Ideas: He genuinely thinks he does more. He feels he does less and is trying to make an excuse for it. He's selfish. He wants an excuse to do less because he feels he can't cope. He's trying to make you feel bad...why?
I don't know. I don't know if it's conscious even. I don't know how you address it...but it is a genuine issue.

OP - have you got to the bottom of it all yet?! I'm weirdly invested in this thread and intrigued as to what your husband is up to!

Any update?

He gave a bit of a pause and said "DS woke me up a few times". I thought OK bullshit! - I left it until we got downstairs and I was doing the kids breakfast and jovially mocked myself saying "You should have seen me trying to sleep last night, I was tossing and turning like nobody's business" to which DH says "Oh. I was well gone. I think I slept right through"

OP, did you call him out on that contradiction? What did he say? Has he been claiming to have got up to your son since then?