Friends comment about my baby

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Just the above. I have a friend who's baby is 2 weeks younger than mine who is already sitting up in a bumbo seat. She mentioned to me that it was worrying my baby still can't support his head properly - he's still really wobbly with it.

I've started to panic now. He's my first baby so I don't know if it is something to think about or not.

I have tried putting him on his tummy so that he can practice lifting his head but he hates it and starts to whinge until I turn him on his back.

Is this normal?

All babies are different. If you're concerned about your baby's development talk to a professional in person instead of a bunch of internet strangers.

Solids at 15 weeks!! She is a prize twat. Is she a long standing friend or someone that you met at baby group?

I would take no notice of her. What she is doing is quite harmful for her baby.

There's absolutely nothing to worry about at all... except you have a competitive parent on your hands. I'd ease back on the friendship if I were you, otherwise it will be the same forever and a day. First word, first steps, first time to catch a ball, first time to read the entire Harry Potter books, you name it.

I wouldn't be spending any more time with this woman.

When mine were small they laid on a bouncy chair or on the beanbag but don't leave your baby unattended on a beanbag.

Your baby is fine and you're hundred percent right to keep him on milk at his age.

Bumbo seats look really uncomfortable for the baby.

And just a note - my dd was later to sit but she's just achieved two A levels at AS level at 15. Physical stuff being later than other kids mean nothing. Someone has to sit at five months and osteopenia else not until a year for their to be an average. All are fine..

I agree with those saying to cut your friend out. If you can't avoid her altogether just say "they're all different" every time she trots out her claims/beliefs. These early weeks/months are so precious, don't let her steal them from you.

People do speak mountains of bollocks about their children, so get ready for the road ahead. An ex neighbour of mine (aged about 70 at the time) had three sons, all very close in age, and, from what she told me, a disinterested husband. She was very dismissive of other people's children, and casually said to me one day "D'you know, I never had to raise my voice once when my boys were small." Yeah, right.

She was a very unhappy person, two bad marriages and lived miles away from all her sons. Happy, well-adjusted people seldom feel the need to "compete" like your friend.

I have a friend like this, her baby is 1 year older than mine but she kept telling me her baby was sitting up by 6-7 months and she’s not sure why mine wasn’t.

My baby sat up at 8 months and was walking by 11 months, hers didn’t start walking till 14 months, she didn’t have anything tonsay about that!

baby’s all develop at different rates. Just enjoy your precious moments with him

I have 7 and apart from one they were all really early when it came to sitting up, crawling and walking l, but as older kids they are completely average and two struggle with reading and writing, how early they do those things in the first year make no difference at all!

I remember this. Babies don't develop at the same time and it doesn't mean anything. Neither situation is better. He's going to be fine. x

I had ‘friends’ even try to be competitive about how much milk their babies drank, or how much weight they’d put on. Get used to it, unfortunately some women see being a mum as some sort of contest. It’s crap because as a new mum that’s exactly what you don’t need! My mum always said, listen, it won’t be going on when she’s 18, so ignore it. You wait till you hit the bitchy playground cliques!

My DS was language delayed, rather severely. He received speech therapy at home before he started school, had additional reading support after he started school. We were quite concerned about him at the time.

We're taking him back to uni on Monday. He made the Dean's List the first year and is thriving now at 19. Try not to worry too much at this stage about developmental milestones.

And ignore your friend. The baby bragging will only get worse.

OP, as long as the GP is ok with his progress, ignore her comments.

My best friend had her DC3 6 hours after I had my DC3. Hers was walking at 10 months and mine has just started at 19 months. They are all different and do things at their own pace. She was very jealous that mine just sat and played whilst hers was running around trashing the place

The best thing to say to your friend is that everything is fine with your baby and that he will do things at his own pace. Show her you are relaxed and confident and she will back off.

Seriously ignore it all. She obviously knows nothing about child development. Babies don’t need solids for at least six months and possibly longer and all the other things happen at different times. My daughter crawled early but didn’t walk until she was 16 months.

Please don’t ever compare your child to any one elses. THey all grow and develop at different rates.

My ds was walking at 9/10 months dd didn’t walk until 14 months. Ds was talking from around his first birthday dd didn’t speak until she was 2 yrs and 4 months old. They have both grown into intelligent, wise teenagers. Both so different as babies.

Don't worry about it at all. If he's not getting much tummy time that could be all it is and some babies just hate it. My dd loved it when tiny tiny but as soon as she got to about 10wks just used to cry on her tummy.

Her little friend is two weeks older than her and getting close to walking. Dd is just mastering sitting up.

You do kind of get in competition but I will say this much, the minute dd masters a new trick I always think oh god life was a bit easier before she could do that and she is growing too quick. It's not a race to see who can do things first, they all get there in their own time and each one is as special as the next.

You will always have competitive mums (what ever your dcs age) but try not to get caught up in it - I wish I'd known that with my first.
Your 'friends' behavior won't do her any favours in the long run.
Always go with your instincts and seek advice from a professional when needed. Children develop at different rates and each mile stone can be celebrated but don't think because her child is doing things at a specific age your child should be too.
As an example all my DC were rolling by 12 weeks but couldn't walk till after 1. My eldest siblings children didn't roll till they were over 1but were walking by 8 months. None of the 6 of our children have mobility issues they just did things at different ages.
Something that always makes me smile was a competitive mum whos DC were 'very advanced' said child was potty trained by 1.5yrs I was ridiculed told I was lazy (all mine were potty trained when they were ready around 2.5yrs) within a few weeks mine were not having accidents but competitive mums DC were still having toilet issues in reception. I don't know if they were trained too early but I do know my DC were trained when they were ready and that mile stones were met.
I wish I'd known with my first - enjoy your baby for what they can do (put a hard hat on when in company of competitive mums and don't take things personally). Best wishes.

There are no rules how babies progress.
And some mom`s just love to compete.
Pretty pathetic really.
Please stop worrying and enjoy being a mom.
Before you know it you will be doing the school run.

My DC’s didn’t sit unsupported until they were 5/6 months which is the average. Sitting in a Bumbo isn’t sitting unaided at all. Your friend sounds like a competitive dick.

Just enjoy these baby days, time goes soooooo quickly, don't compare, every child is different, just relax and love being a Mummy x

I haven't read the full thread because shit like this angers me, but your friend sounds like a competitive arse.

Take absolutely no notice whatsoever. Babies will all do it, just in their own time.

My SIL was like this. We are NC now (for different reasons) but I still hear it via my MIL, I just zone out.

They're babies, not performing seals!

Good luck OP

My baby is 15 weeks old and has just got her head control but is still abit wobbly, my friends baby is a week older than mine and he could bobble his head around at 10 weeks! It's hard not to compare them but all babies are different your friend was an asshole to make that comment. My baby also hates tummy time but loves been carried round with her head over my shoulder she lifts it up from there x

Your friend is a dick.

17 week old should not be on solid foods, that's really bad.

Dd refused to sit on the floor until she was 1, she could stand, crawl and cruise all before she would actually sit!

I really wouldn’t worry about it they all do things in their own time. My SIL keeps trying to compare my 15month old to her 21 month old 🙄 so I know the feeling!

It's not a race all babies develop at different rates it really doesn't matter when they sit up, walk, are toilet trained etc just because they do it earlier it doesn't mean they will be better at it. My daughter walked at 12 months my son at 16, they are both adults now and are equally good at walking!

She doesn’t sound much of a friend. If I had concerns about a friends child’s development, I would look it up first before worrying another new parent. I would put a bit of distance for the time being. Once they get to a year old, they’ve pretty much all caught up with each other.

All babies are different. I also found though that most are walkers or talkers. Mine rushed through the physical milestones but were slow to talk.