To be furious about my wedding

[Itsalltoomuch19]

So got married yesterday and want to point out it was amazing day full of the people I love and care about the most. But one thing caused me hours of stress and I think I should complain.
Our venue doesn’t have an actual marriage license so you get ‘married’ in a barn and I paid £500 for a celebrant to conduct the ceremony we met with her before and told her no one knew we were getting married a fews before and the people from the venue were coming to be witnesses so as no one felt they were not left out and both sets of parents had contributed a lot to this wedding so I didn’t want them being annoyed. An hour before I arrive my DH text me to say the celebrant has told his mum that we got married last week, he mum was upset and then asked my mum if she knew. I think she wanted to find out if my mum had been invited and not her, so now both sets of parents knew and were upset. This is all before I got there so I felt so upset and stressed by it as we didn’t want this to happen and she knew that.
Even the venue were limited and said they have never had a celebrant do this before and they have 3-5 weddings every week for the last 5 years! I really want to email her stating how stressed she made me feel and caused a bit of tension on the day but my DH thinks it’s done now we just need to face our parents today and explain the reasons and leave it

The real irony is that a few people are still desperately trying to defend the OP when she actually returned to the thread about 20 pages back, admitted that lying to her parents had been a bad decision and realised she would look ridiculous trying to complain about the celebrant.

No doubt the OP is now busy enjoying week 2 of married life.

You're probably right and who can blame her.

@mrpickwick It's ironic all the sanctimonious claptrap that is on this thread e.g.. celebrants can't lie (they gossip and lie like any other human) and the OP is deceitful, whilst the 'virtuous' posters line up to cast the first stone.

How is that 'ironic'?

It isn’t. The irony is that @mrpickwick has posted a definition of irony that proves it’s not ironic. I don’t know whether to laugh or cry.

@AlsoHuman I know. I was just hoping that he would come back with another copied and pasted dictionary definition that bore no relation to what he said.

sanctimonious claptrap e.g.. celebrants can't lie (they gossip and lie like any other human)

It's pretty disturbing that he believes that it's 'claptrap' to think that anyone has any sort of standards in their professional or personal life, or that most people don't go around lying to their friends, family and colleagues all the time.

I know someone (unfortunately, not through choice) who is a thoroughly dishonest, corrupt and exploitative person. He genuinely thinks that everyone else is like him. I think some people actually don't realise that others aren't routinely dishonest and two-faced.

Got to admit, I’d never claim to be a saint.

But it’s weird how one or two posters insist it’s ‘sanctimonious’ and ‘casting the first stone’ simply because other people

A) Don’t lie
B) have a basic understanding that professional conduct applies to lots of jobs and should be taken seriously

It’s hardly being whiter than white, it’s just basic decency isn’t it?

This is a weird thread