Comments that people with kids make to people with no kids

[lastqueenofscotland]

Just to flip the other thread on its head.
I am childfree by choice, I don’t hate children, I was a nanny for a number of years. I enjoy spending time with my friends children, but for various reasons it’s never been right for me. However some people with children have made some howlers of comments about this.

My two favourites remain
“You’ll grow out of it” as obviously not wanting children is hugely immature.

“You must just not have met someone you love enough or you’d want children with them” this drives me backwards as I ended up breaking up with someone I adored because he was desperate for a family.

@SerenDippitty I did have a very close friend who really regretted not having kids. She felt that she was unable to talk about it when she was younger as childfree friends only wanted to share how great it was that they did not have to be housewives or mothers, and women with children walked on eggshells around her. She said she would have really appreciated being asked by a good friend at the time. She went through a deep depression for a while and it does stick in my mind.

Whilst, again, as I’ve repeated before, I’ve a lot of sympathy for the judgement many childless women get. I’m dismayed that I’ve had an equally as judgemental reaction too. It goes both ways.

Of course you have...

Imagine going after a friend with children and doing "Do you think it was a right decision to have them? Are you sure you are not regretting having them? I just want to make sure. You can still put them up for adoption. Is there anything forcing you to keep them?"
I am pretty confident I would be hit by a slipper.

Wow.

Pretty bitchy attitude.

🤷

DP and I are into year 3 of ttc. Had a miscarriage end of 2017. Colleagues all know.

Senior colleague is ALWAYS saying about somebody who works with us on a part time basis... “L is a Mum so she takes no nonsense”! I inwardly eyeroll every time she says it.