To wonder if some posters realise some people lie on threads?

[jennymanara]

So when people say how much they earn, how much they spend on a holiday, how handsome their DH is, do you realise that some people will not be truthful?
I ask because I see comments all the time about how well-off most MN are. I have been to meet ups, and most MN are pretty ordinary women. Lovely, funny and kind, but not super wealthy with amazing homes and husbands, just ordinary. Of course there will be some women on MN who are very well-off but they are not the norm here.

@septemberdread most of stuff in life is ordinary except the people in our lives who are special to us, so I bet your DH is off the scale in specialness!

I know people lie and i dont take everything at face value.But the 2 things that always strike me."Are the how much you can feed a family for".You cant feed a family especially with teenagers for a tenner a week.You just cant.

And i cant say what it is "its too outing".Nobody cares,unless you are admitting to murder.

I never lie on mumsnet. And lots of what is true about me are the things people are saying not to believe. But the more I’m on mumsnet the more I realise how lucky I am. And how remarkable some of the people in my life are. It’s easy to take things for granted and not see how incredible the things we experience are.

How do you know from meeting someone how much money they have?

On a separate note I think the husband thing is quite subjective. My husband is quite handsome but no where near as handsome as I find him (to me he is drop dead gorgeous but objectively he’s just fairly attractive).

My DH is very handsome. But I’m used to him and friends/family are the same. I’m often surprised when people meet him for the first time and raise their eyebrows and say ‘who’s THAT’. Nobody is handsome to everyone though.

This makes me laugh because I always think that it seems like the vast bulk of people on MN are struggling for cash. A few are comfortable or rich, but lots aren't. I suspect it's just the threads I'm on!

I don't lie. What's the point? Nobody knows who you are and you can change your username as often as you like. There is no reputation to uphold, nobody to impress and no real comeuppance for saying something embarrassing or admitting something that you would never admit in real life.

I know that there will always be weird people on the internet who lie about stuff, but I hope they are in the minority. I find it a great comfort if I post something like "does anyone else hate breastfeeding?" And other women feel comfortable enough to say "yes, I did". People are often afraid to have these conversations in real life.

Oh also, in regards to the husband thing - surely everyone thinks their husband is attractive? Why would you marry someone you thought was ugly?

I've never lied in any of my posts.

I haven't made any attempt to be anonymous with my username, and some of the information in my posts is very 'outing' so there wouldn't be any point anyway. I know a few of my friends are on here (and probably more that I don't know about).

I wish there was one day a year you were allowed to call out bullshit without getting your comment deleted because of troll hunting.Like The Purge but for MN.

@Toneitdown, you’re mixing up attractive and handsome. Of course people only marry people they find attractive but attraction runs far deeper than looks.

Clever men are an absolute turn on. It is not just about looks.

@ToneItDown.
Plenty of women. The 20 something's marrying a doddering 80 something multi millionaire. However, she married him because she loves him and she's never given his bank balance a second thought. Oh no, no, no, it's true luuurve honest Guv.
Oooh look at that flying pig 😂

AllBellsNoWhistles

Hahaha I am so naive. I wasn't even thinking of those sorts of marriages. Although tbf if you've married just for the money then you probably wouldn't bother telling everyone how sexy your 85yr old DH was...

Well. My husband is the most handsome man in the universe. So there 😝
And the most thoughtful. He crawls on his knees every morning to bring me my coffee in bed, with a rose between his teeth. Freshly picked out of our 10 acre garden of course.
Then he flies off to his high pressured 6 figure salaried career. First class naturally, anything less is just too horrifying to contemplate, I mean, some peasant may brush against him and infect him with germs!
Then, on his return in the evening, he bathes our children and helps them with their homework. They're extremely gifted, they have just obtained a dozen straight A's in their A levels, despite only being 4 year old and 6 months old. Then the nannies take them to bed while my husband prepares a delicious light supper.
He then spends an hour on his hobby ( I can't say what that is as its outing ) while I catch up with my work emails in my study. I haven't really had time to view them earlier as I was busy working out in the gym to maintain my perfect 00 BMI and gathering fresh manuka honey from our own hives.

Disclaimer. All of the above is complete bollocks.

I’m actually a basket of puppies not a basket of kittens.

@ToneItDown
Billionaire Bernie Ecclestone aged 88 and his wife Fabiana aged 43 spring to mind.
His money never entered her mind, no, no. She luuurves the ugly dwarf with all her grasping hands, sorry, heart. 😂

Well to be absolutely honest, I think it’s hard to be “real” for many people on here because they get accused of “stealth boasting”. For instance, if I am being totally honest I could say, DH is a self-made multi-millionaire many times over; I’m a SAHM; we have a beautiful home in a lovely part of London, plus many other properties; DH is gorgeous (I think)!; we’ve been together almost 20 years; three gorgeous DC; the eldest just got nine grade “9s” and an “8” yesterday in his GCSEs; all in top Indeoendent schools, etc. I don’t know why people would not believe me because most people know are similar-ish to us (obviously). It feels like boasting in a way, but then again it’s not really because I’ll have to namechange after this, so who cares? But I just wanted to say that wealthy people do exist on here - just as they obviously do exist in real life. What is also obvious is that we all have our own problems and issues just like anyone else.

think the majority are v well off here. Most seem to have high flying jobs, lawyers, banking, accountants, solicitors, senior management in the City etc

Nah, they're talking bollocks. Half these lawyers/heart surgeons are posting on MN all the live long day, they're bored SAHMs talking shite.

@Rethymnon can I have some money please?

Your post isn't stealth boasting, it's plain old broad daylight boasting! There was no need to add alllllll that detail just to get your point across. If you're going to boast, at least own it!

Yes it is boasting, but that what the thread is asking. “Are people lying?” Of course I would never describe myself like that in real life. But here there was a question I answered. I don’t see why I would lie because how it would actually matter to anyone on here, as nobody knows me and I’ll NC anyway. But not everyone is “lying” on MN no. What is the point - it’s abstract lying. I imagine many people actually play it down so they don’t get accused of boasting.

I tend to think that anybody who posts an amazing story in real time is lying.

With regards to the posters with loads of money and clever children, I suppose not every one is truthful but I would think a lot are. Because I also read the threads where people are seriously struggling for money and they have DC with special needs or teenagers with mental health issues or behaviour problems. What I don't see much of are posters with a really ordinary life like my own. Perhaps people do embellish then.

No one is going to admit they lie though, are they? 😂 I think I’m fairly dull/average in real life but feel a bit shit on mumsnet sometimes.

Amongst our peers DH and I have average wages, we are early home owners, used to go on fancy holidays but a long weekend in the Canaries and a long weekend in the UK is our limit this year due to me going PT since having a baby, and we’re of average attractiveness I think. We’re both very fit which is probably the only MNet bragging I can muster!