to think DP's being a bit cheeky in asking me to do this? (So trivial it's ridiculous).

[GreatBigMeanie]

DP gets in from work trip fairly late tonight and has asked me to drive into town to pick him up (5 miles) to take him from station to his work so he can collect his car and drive to mine while I drive to mine separately.

It's 0.7 miles from station to his work, a 10 min walk or 4 min taxi. He's fit as a fiddle and not carrying any sort of heavy bags.

It's not a big deal, I love him and want to do nice, helpful things for him but this just seems a wee bit.......ridiculous and selfish? I would never ask similar of him.

Prepared to be told I'm a mardy old bag.

AIBU?

No, yanbu like you say it wouldn't even occur to me to ask someone to do that for me.

How late is late?

How big was the work trip ? Time zones involves ? Has he been awake many hours ? I would do this

Personally I would have offered knowing how crap long work trips are.

I would do it, he’s been working and you doing this makes things slightly easier , it’s probably been a long day and you’d be doing him a favour, I don’t see a problem with it and think you are being a bit unreasonable.

10pm so not v late but I'm usually in bed around this time as up early for work in morning. Plus I have a stinking cold (he's aware of this).

If it were the other way round I'd insist he went to bed and say I'd let myself in/see him in bed.

He's only been to a different UK city a few hours away on train.

Maybe he just wants to see you

Not a long trip in either time or distance.

2 day trip from, say Manchester to London.

Sounds a bit ridiculous. I'd do it as a one-off (definitely not as a recurring occurrence !) but I don't think you'd be unreasonable to refuse.

Brienne I currently have a soggy tissue shoved up each nostril and mascara down my face. God help him if that's the reason 😂.

I don't think it's a big ask considering he's been away. Is he getting the train after a flight?

Nails Nope.

Hmmm. I think he is either BU or not thinking clearly if he knows your not well. What did you say when he asked you?

Yes I would collect my hubby if it was feasible and didn't spoil anything else planned.
But he would also understand if I didn't fancy doing it, but most likely a yes.

My DH would always pick me up, I return the compliment.

I can see why you’d be annoyed but I’d probably just do it.

It’s convenient and you get to see him sooner (if you care). I’m sure everyone in a relationship does small things like this for their partner from time to time, yes it might be pedantic/minor/silly/other alternatives etc but you do it because you care about them? Like a parent would for their offspring or vice versa

lol. What a joke .

I’d do it in a heartbeat for my OH no questions asked . As he would for me .

U sound lazy .

A 10 minute walk?? I can't believe he'd even ask, it's so lazy.

If this was us we would probably pick the other up and take them home, and then drive them to their car the next morning. This is what we do if DH ends up leaving a car at a different workplace to where he ends the day

He’s probably going to have had a long day at work .

Clearly he wants to be picked up . Wouldn’t u do it for your partner regardless of whether he is fit or not ?

Just because that’s what a partnership is about .. being KIND to one another .

YABU. Maybe he’s had a really rubbish day and is exhausted. It’s not a big ask really!

You don't live together, you will be in bed, you're not well and you still have to get up and work tomorrow.

Tell him sorry, but not this time.

Thing is, being kind to your partner works both ways. It's not kind of him to ask.

He could jog it in 5 mins ffs

I would do this in a heartbeat for my boyfriend and he would for me no problem. Wouldn't even enter my mind not to.