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AIBU?

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Original poster

to think DP's being a bit cheeky in asking me to do this? (So trivial it's ridiculous).

145 replies

GreatBigMeanie · 15/08/2019 19:14

DP gets in from work trip fairly late tonight and has asked me to drive into town to pick him up (5 miles) to take him from station to his work so he can collect his car and drive to mine while I drive to mine separately.

It's 0.7 miles from station to his work, a 10 min walk or 4 min taxi. He's fit as a fiddle and not carrying any sort of heavy bags.

It's not a big deal, I love him and want to do nice, helpful things for him but this just seems a wee bit.......ridiculous and selfish? I would never ask similar of him.

Prepared to be told I'm a mardy old bag.

AIBU?

OP posts:
50shadesofblackclothing · 15/08/2019 20:35

There's a fine line to tread between being kind to someone and letting them mug you off- I'd see this as the latter. If it was pissing down/ in a really, REALLY bad area or he had a big bag or long flight perhaps I'd think differently but otherwise I wouldn't expect to be asked.

SoyDora · 15/08/2019 20:37

Hopefully he won’t get stabbed....your call though

Statistically probably more likely that the OP will have a car accident on the way to get him.

Original poster
GreatBigMeanie · 15/08/2019 20:37

"Hopefully he won’t get stabbed....your call though"

😂

The oh so treacherous walk would take him through a well lit small city centre, not Harlem in the 80's.

OP posts:
musicposy · 15/08/2019 20:38

Drive a 10 mile round trip to save someone a 0.7 mile walk? No way would I do that, on environmental grounds alone.
Fit healthy adults should always be walking that distance, unless they are so loaded down with luggage it's impossible.

Dontfuckingsaycheese · 15/08/2019 20:39

Isn't this the type of nice thing that couples do for each other?

SoyDora · 15/08/2019 20:40

Letting someone rest at home when they’re ill and tired is the type of nice thing couples do for each other too.

user1493494961 · 15/08/2019 20:41

If anyone's being lazy it's him, let him walk 10 minutes to fetch his car. It's a totally unnecessary journey on your part.

youarenotkiddingme · 15/08/2019 20:42

It wouldn't occur to me not to offer.

However if I was unwell and was then expected to make small talk after 2 days apart I'd make it clear I'm a taxi service only!

diddl · 15/08/2019 20:44

So if he had a cold & was usually in bed by 10pm anyway-would he do it Op?

Perhaps cheeky of him to ask-but if you say no, he'll absolutely accept that won't he?

Cascade220 · 15/08/2019 20:45

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mummmy2017 · 15/08/2019 20:45

How did he get from car to train after parking up?

Assburgers · 15/08/2019 20:46

Wtf is wrong with everyone. Of course YANBU.

“Darling, I’m not feeling well. Can you get an Uber? X”

Teacakeandalatte · 15/08/2019 20:47

My dh wouldn't this for me- he would think I should get a taxi if I was worried about safety, but he would be happy to walk and think it was foolish for a man to be scared of walking in an area like the OP describes.

Original poster
GreatBigMeanie · 15/08/2019 20:47

Q. "Why on Earth didn't he park at the station?"

It's free to park at work vs ££ at station.

Q. "How did he get from car to train after parking up?"

He managed to walk there independently without getting stabbed or fainting from exhaustion.

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HairyDogsOfThigh · 15/08/2019 20:47

OP, i wouldn't be happy to be asked and i think in this case, as you are not feeling well, i would have told him that in this instance, I would prefer not to, as i would be going to bed early as i am not feeling well. As you say, it would take him 10 mins to walk, or he could get a taxi and charge it to his company, if it was a business trip.
It will certainly take you longer to drive the 10 mile round trip. Equally, it wouldn't occur to me to ask my dh to drive for 10 miles to save me a 10 minute walk.

WhyBirdStop · 15/08/2019 20:49

We used to live just over a mile from the station and would always pick each other up, not because we had to buy because we could. We now live not even quarter of a mile from a different station, and have a baby who'd be in bed at that time so don't do it any more.

sonjadog · 15/08/2019 20:50

Normally I would think do it, but I think you being sick is a reason to say no this time. I'd tell him that you are having an early night because you are feeling unwell and that he'll either have to walk or get a taxi this time.

Durgasarrow · 15/08/2019 20:51

Normally, maybe, right now you're sick and going to bed early, so no.

mellicauli · 15/08/2019 20:51

If it’s a business trip he should get an Uber and expense it

Weezol · 15/08/2019 20:51

He wants you to drive 10 miles to save himself a 10 minute walk? That would be a no from me

And me. He can get a taxi to the car if he is too tired to make the horror that is a ten minute walk.

Branleuse · 15/08/2019 20:53

Id tell him that i dont feel well enough to drive

Fillipe · 15/08/2019 21:00

YANBU. It's selfish. OP is unwell and wants to go to bed early as she has to be up early in the morning. Yep, selfish and thoughtless of DP!

sackrifice · 15/08/2019 21:02

It's free to park at work vs ££ at station.

It's free to walk vs your fuel!

Srsly tho. 10 min walk? He could do that in the time it would take you to get from bed to car.

Fillipe · 15/08/2019 21:02

LTB.
Sorry, poor joke Wink

Untamedtoad · 15/08/2019 21:07

Yanbu. What's the point in wasting two lots of petrol with you driving there and back as well, for the sake of saving him a 10 minute walk? It sounds like sheer laziness if you ask me. Some people are just allergic to exercise I swear. I'd tell him to (quite literally) jog on 😂