Aibu - not to punish DS for this?

[IndigoHexagon]

My sons friends parents seem to think I am being unreasonable because I won’t punish (or in fact tell him off) my ds14 for something that happened yesterday at a local event.

DS went to event with some friends and two of the friends parents. The kids went off alone while there but were called by ds friend to come and sort out an issue that had arisen.

Ds and his group of male friends had met up with others - including a young lady who (according to all the boys) spent the afternoon being a bit silly - pretending to faint on a fairground ride and then going on again, generally over reacting and screaming at every little thing. Just a bit OTT in general, but she’s know for being like this at school too.

Said girl won a goldfish at one of those hoop a duck stalks. She was swinging the bag around and at one point opened the bag a plucked the fish out and then threw it on the floor when it was wriggling. DS was horrified, snatched the bag off her, picked up the fish and then refused to give it back to her. He then returned to the stall and made them take it back, while telling them how awful it was that they were abusing the fish by giving them out as prizes. The girl started getting hysterical, screaming that my ds had stolen her fish. dS have her the £2 it cost for her to win the fish, but she continued screaming and crying. DS friend called his mum because security came over and refused to let the boys go while the girl was so upset. I actually think that there was no issue with this, security needed to ascertain that the girl wasn’t hurt after all. When ds friends mum came and the story unfolded, she was mortified that Ds had caused such a commotion, brought the boys straight home and was very upset that their day was cut short due to my sons appalling behaviour.

She’s bonkers right? She called me today outraged that she’d see DS outside when I should have grounded him. I’m actually quite proud of him for his actions.

She’s uninvited DS in a shopping trip next week with her son as a result. Am I missing something here?

Your DS definitely did the right thing!! You've done an amazing job raising him.

Well done to your DS. You should be proud of him!

Didn't realise fairs still gave out goldfish. If my DC came home with one it would probably end up in the turtle tank. And probably therefore food!

YANBU

The girls parents , obviously, don't wish to admit their daughter is a wicked little girl . Who does that ?!!

TheTrollFairy Wed 14-Aug-19 18:38:29
Is this in the UK? I didn’t think you were allowed to give fish out anymore?
Either way, the woman is bonkers. I wouldn’t be telling my child off for what your son did... the girl on the other hand

Sadly.... I have seen fish being given out as prizes

If you want to be petty like myself I'd leave a goldfish themed present on the OTT mother's doorstep-a stuffed goldfish or goldfish shaped crackers

Show her this - the RSPCA backs your son's actions
www.cornwalllive.com/news/cornwall-news/goldfish-given-away-prizes-fair-2986957

Veterenari the other parent present was not the girl's mother.

She was the (commotion averse) mother of one of DS's friends.

DS and his friends were taken to the fair by a friend's parents, and then let off on their own to have fun. They met up with the girl and her friends while at the fair.

Why do the teens hang out with her if she's like that? It's only a matter of time before she gets someone in big trouble with accusations and hysteria... OP, tell your son and his friends to stay the fuck away from her and never be alone with her ever!