Moved in with partner..he got fired and expects me to pay the bills...Aibu?

[Beachball32]

Hi all, I have no one that I can really talk to and needed some advice...

I moved into my partners rented flat about 3 months ago. We’ve been together about a year and he’s had a few jobs. He hates working and has lots of sick days and has an entitled attitude at work. He got fired last week because he threatened his colleagues (who he says were lazy and it was getting to him).
Hes now decided he wants to do a course and the job centre have agreed to put him on it but it doesn’t start for a few weeks and there’s no guarantee of a job at the end of it. He’s also now thinking about doing another course afterwards so he can get a better job.
I work full time and have started to do overtime. I’ve got health problems and waiting for a hysterectomy but I’ve got no choice- my partner has no money to pay bills or buy food so I’ve had to step up and make more money. What’s getting me down is he stills go to the pub every week with his friends spending money? He went out Saturday night- I was a bit upset because I have a lot of pain. He knows this but still goes out....AIBU? I’m ill today and he’s just declared he’s going out to watch the footie with his mates and have some drinks....he’s 38, never had a long term girlfriend as he was happy on his own. Day to day he’s doing all the housework and cooking dinner for me but I’m worried I’m being used - what do you all think? He doesn’t get hammered but I’m getting fed up of the pub nights...he’s a gambler and smokes weed a lot too so his moods tend to be up and down....I’m considering leaving him as I have a house that I was going to rent out...It seems as though he expects me to support him and work my ass off to pay the bills....

He sounds lazy, selfish and a scrounger, i can't understand what you see in him at all, spending money regularly at the pub when he has no way of paying himself, not caring that you have to work extra hard to fund him even though you're in pain and awaiting an operation.
Move out, and dump his lazy arse!

Christ he’s using you big time. What a coincidence that he’s got out of working now he’s got you to bank roll him. Move out and never look back.

Yep, as others have said, he's a waste of space - hell amount to nothing, you'll always be picking up after his messes - good luck

Unemployed lazy arrogant weed smoking gambler? No thank you

I suggest you find somewhere to move to ASAP and leave him to it

So glad you have a house yourself. Get back there now!!!

You've give it a shot, he's taking the piss out of you and doesn't care, you have somewhere you can move into? Just move out.

You don't have to dump him, although I'm a bit unsure what you see in him much but you don't have to bankroll him.

Courses indeed. The perfect thing for a weed smoker.

Cut your losses and move out. The money you save from not subsidising his drinking, weed and smoking can easily go towards a holiday or savings for your post recovery op.

Surely this is not real?

God please run.... far far away, spend your hard earned money on your self 💖

38 and never had a long term girlfriend? Now you know why.

He sounds like a catch OP....:pls go!!!

Well he's timed his unemployment perfectly hasn't he. I doubt he would be making those choices if he didn't have you to fund him. Most adults with financial commitments do evening courses after work or correspondence courses, if they want to learn new skills.
Move out again as soon as you can. You've only lived together 3 months so hopefully it would be pretty straightforward to go back to the same kind of set up you had before you cohabited.
Explain to him that your expectations and his expectations seem to be too different now that he has decided to stop work. You could always look to move in together when he is working again. To be honest though a lazy, freeloading, aggressive (he threatened a colleague), weed smoking, gambler isn't much of a catch is it?

To be honest i'm not sure why you moved in with a weed smoking gambling loser in the first place but while he is at the pub tonight just pack up, go home and chalk it down to experience

So he’s a workshy gambler with a weed habit? Where did you find this prince of men?!

Seriously OP I am concerned that you even need to ask this. You are worth so much more than this waste of space. You are perfectly placed to just move out. Get rid of him out of your life!!

Why are you with him? He sounds vile.

FFS, of course he's using you. A lazy, workshy, gambling, drunkard druggie loser. A vibrator is better company. Move into your house. Get rid of him.

It's post's like this that make me realise just how much work there is still to do empowering women.

It's 2019 FFS you do NOT have to put up with this OP.

You are worth so so much more than this.

Leave NOW and don't look back.

Good luck.

He’s using you.

Why would you say in a situation like this that you had no choice??
He quite literally saw you coming.

Where is he getting the money for drinking, gambling and weed?

A reverse cocklodger. Get the hell out of their OP whilst you still can.

No job, uncaring, smokes weed, drinker, gambler......he sounds quite a catch! Come on OP surely you can raise your bar a little?

Just leave. Sorry to be blunt but he doesn't sound at all interested in you and frankly his work ethic is appalling.