To think he is checking up on me?

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I work in a solicitors in town as admin assistant.
I was at work this morning and I sent the guy I'm seeing a Snapchat saying roll on home time at my desk.
Then I went and did the post office run.
Got a text at lunchtime saying ..why aren't you at work like you said?
I said I am..
He said my friend has just seen you in town
I explained I nipped out to the post office
He is now ignoring me.
Aibu here or is this a bit OTT

send him a text telling him this isn't going to work and that you're calling it a day.

THIS. Don’t give too many reasons or opportunities for him to convince you that you’re unreasonable to dump him. Make it short and quick. Otherwise you’ll get pulled back in.

You do not need to explaining anything

I'd be ditching him quick time

Sack him off. Pronto.

Get rid!

If he is still ignoring you just txt him.and tell him " as an independant adult you don't need anyone to monitor your whereabouts thanks nor a sulking manchild. Bye bye."

Get shot of him now before he shows you exactly how much more controlling he can be, he’s definitely done you the biggest favour ever, showing you what a controlling knob he can be even at this early stage of the relationship.

What the hell business is it of his how you spend your day?

Agree with what all others have said: MASSIVE red flag.

You can do what you like during your day and you don't have to explain yourself to him. Also, why are his friends reporting back to him on your movements, like bloody spies?

OP, are you absolutely sure it was his 'friend' who saw you? Did you see the friend, or did they say hello? Are you absolutely certain your boyfriend isn't checking up on you himself in some way?

Has he ever been alone with your phone, or have you ever given him your phone to use or look at for a few minutes?

Please op RUN. This is a massive red flag, I ignored too many of those in a previous relationship. Just things like this to start with and it ended in multiple broken bones. RUN FOR THE HILLS.

Omigod get rid! Seriously, he's checking on you and worse he's not believing you AND then he's sulking. Fuck that. It's not just a bit OTT - it's creepy.

Oh my goodness, dump his controlling arse immediately.

If he texts you later ignore him.

He sounds like a creep
If he is already like this NOW after just dating 2/3 months
Imagine how he will be after 2/3 years

Why are you posting here? You should be busy tindering looking for a different man

Block him now. That is soooo creepy.

Please be smart enough to tell this twat to go fuck himself. Massive, massive red flag. His mask has slipped.

No no no no no no no no
Before my lovely DH my ex was like this.This man ended up trying to drown me.Get out now.

Check your location is off on Snapchat OP and then run for your life!

Petulant and controlling. Get out now as this is only the beginning: can you imagine the grief you’ll be getting in the future if he happens to hear that you were spotted WITH A MAN??? No matter who it is - colleague, relative, etc. The fact that you’re questioning yourself and thinking have you done something ‘wrong’ ... he’s playing mind games already. Future gaslighter.

Ditch him. And download the BrightSky app. It has a very helpful section that helps you to understand whether someone else’s behaviour is ok or not. Clearly we know that this particular example is definitely not ok, but it may help you to see it as part of a bigger picture.

That's so creepy. Run for the hills. Or 'checking up' and silent treatment will likely be your future.

Plus, and this is the worst part, he has already made you question whether you are doing something wrong when what you're doing is perfectly normal. Run, fast.

run for the hills woman!!

What a tool, OP don't put up with this nonsense.

I don't think I've done anything wrong,my office is pretty laid back and it was my turn to pop to the post office.
Unless your definition of "wrong" is popping to the high street without first alerting Strange B/f to the fact & requesting an armed guard, no.

I don't understand why he's in a mood with me.
& you don't need to.
He is waving a giant red flag under your office window. Pay attention.
Text him again, telling him that you don't require his permission to run errands, you don't expect the 3rd degree on your movements, you have no interest in controlling, moody fuckers ... & BLOCK.

Genuinely, OP.
This is nasty, nasty, nasty, & will only get worse. Run.

Wish I worked party time instead of 9-5

I don't think I've done anything wrong

He even has you doubting yourself.

Only 3 months in,doesnt look good.Finish it now before it goes further.

He said my friend has just seen you in town
His imaginary friend. Be careful, it's more likely he's following you or tracking your movements. He's invented the friend because he can't tell you that it's him without looking unhinged - which he says. Bin.