I'm 30 and dating a 19 year old

[Luciferthethird]

That's it really, I've 2 DC's they've not been introduced yet, still too early for that. We've been dating for about 3 weeks. He's lovely and he keeps telling me the age gap doesn't bother him.
My sister has the exact same age gap between herself and her partner but somehow that seems more acceptable when it's the man that's older. I just need a sounding board really.

Sorry but it's gross. You're a 30 year old woman and you're dating a teenager. Just because it's legal it don't make it right.

Someone I know is 28 she has 5 kids. Her boyfriend is 17. He looks about 14.

Ah I dated a 33 year old when I was 19. Married him. Had children. Still together 19 years later.

Oh my days, talk about lots of posters sticking the boot in.

The age gap is big yes but you know what OP enjoy the guys company, have fun, take precautions and see where it goes.

Most 19 yr olds are immature, this guy may be different who knows.

I think disgusting is a bit harsh.

I wouldn't do it. I havent met a 19 year old I find remotely attractive. Never mind want to sleep with them.

I think it's a bad idea and I wouldn't want my son being used as a sex toy for an older woman so she can brag about it. (OP doesnt come across like that but some posters here do). Nor would I want him settling down in his early twenties and taking on 2 kids.

But disgusting is taking it too far.

@Quepaso You're utterly disgusting

No! She’s not!

Well I'm guessing he doesn't act like a typical 19 year old as presumably then you wouldn't be interested?

She's said that she can't get along with men her own age so I think it's probably more that she's a bit childish/immature rather than him being an extremely mature and developed teenager.

I don’t know why so many people are wondering what his parents think! It’s nothing to do with them.

Someone I know is 28 she has 5 kids. Her boyfriend is 17. He looks about 14.

Yeah that's very uncomfortable.

If it was the man that had 5 kids dating a 17 year old, people would be calling him all sorts.

I'm slightly younger than you at 29 ,my daughter is nearly 11 and closer to a 19 year old in age than I am !

19 would seem to much of a child still to me personally. I suppose if it's just for fun and you are enjoying yourself and not seeing it for more than it is and keeping your kids out of it then no harm can be done .

I don’t know why so many people are wondering what his parents think! It’s nothing to do with them.

So parents dont have a right to concerned when they 19 yeara old get into questionable relationships. Dont be so daft

@Skittlenommer yeah I get you :)

I mean he's a teenager, he should be having an absolute ball with his mates. I'm all for you fall for who you fall for, all that crap kinda stuff but who really at that age would want to be bogged down with that?

I don't see the appeal

Christ my recent ex is 4 years older than me, no kids and I even worried about why he'd want to occupy his time with me 😂

No, he's a teenager, just ewww.

Someone I know is 28 she has 5 kids. Her boyfriend is 17. He looks about 14

5 kids at 28?? Does she do anything other than get pregnant??

When I was 27 and newly single I dated a guy, he told me he was 24 and I believed him we had a lovely few months together before he moved to Barcelona which I always knew was happening so I put zero stock into the relationship just a little fun.
I later found out he was only 20 at the time, I was very angry when I found out but I think that's why the age gap doesn't really bother me this time around. Judge all you want it's an online forum you're all entitled to your opinion I genuinely wanted some input from people that are around my own age and can maybe bring me down to earth a little. I'm not going to introduce him to the kids you're all right about that. It is what it is and I'm just going to see how it goes. 🤷
He bloody loves friends too, I'm showing him that clip tomorrow 😂

If the chemistry's there, it's there! You don't get with someone because of their age. Enjoy your relationship OP, you don't need Mumsnet's permission. You be happy.

do you imagine he’ll be as interested in you when you’re 50 and he’s still only 39

YES - My sister married a man she met when he was 21 and she was 30 - they are still going strong over 15 years later and he is still besotted with her. It can work. I hope yours does OP.

@Flerkin So parents dont have a right to concerned when they 19 yeara old get into questionable relationships. Dont be so daft

They can be as concerned as they like... but it’s nothing to do with them!

Luciferthethird I though you didnt see people more than once? Until this magical 19 year old?

So at 27 you were dating a 20 year old and now at 30 going for someone even younger than that?

I think there is a reason you are dating these young men. Up to you wether your want to look at the reason why.

I truly believe those 'damaged' be relationships who alreasy have kuds, should leave the youngsters to enjoy their experiences with someone their own age. Especially when they are a teenager barely out of school-men would be called a certain name for that.

They can be as concerned as they like... but it’s nothing to do with them!

And that's what people are asking.

I wouldn't call it dating, I had a fling that I wouldn't have now and I haf thought there was only a 3 year age gap.

You had a few months with him. Which is different to what you said. Not judging, just saying it's not what you said before

Why don't you date a grown man?

Im your age and wouldn't look twice at a 19 year old boy.

We arent old but we arent teenagers either which he is.

And it's everything to do with his parents as he probably still lives at home! 😂😂😂

Gross!

I had a 9 year age gap once and that was Pre kids. It was doomed. He liked the novelty of an older gf and we had loads of fun but when it came to settling down he cheated and I guess it was all too much.

If it’s a laugh and sex your after fine but don’t get carried away.