I'm 30 and dating a 19 year old

[Luciferthethird]

That's it really, I've 2 DC's they've not been introduced yet, still too early for that. We've been dating for about 3 weeks. He's lovely and he keeps telling me the age gap doesn't bother him.
My sister has the exact same age gap between herself and her partner but somehow that seems more acceptable when it's the man that's older. I just need a sounding board really.

Sorry to be brutal but I just think this is a recipe for disaster. Why a grown woman with two children would want to date a ‘man’ just out of childhood is beyond me. And what a 19-year would really see in a 30-year old with two children - other than sex. If I was his mum
I would be really worried.

I’m so sorry to sound so judgemental and harsh OP but I am giving you my honest opinion.

When I was 34, I started seeing a 22 year old. We are still together 20 years on, and have a 12 year old dd.

Enjoy shagging him

Do not introduce your shag-piece to your DC, EVER.

HTH

I think it's a bit creepy for some reason but then I'm the child of parents who were 16 and 29. They lasted 20yrs so it can work.

My DM was 36 and divorced with 4 children when she met my step-DH. He was 24.

She spent months telling him to sod off and find someone his own age. He didn't listen and my DM eventually gave in and went out with him. They are still together now and she is 74 and he is 62.

I asked him once, why he wasn't interested in women his own age and having his own children. He said, he lived my DM (simple as that).

She has put him through hell these last 10 years (long story) and he is still there and still loves her.

I feel sorry for him, but he chooses to stay.

I have a DS and would not be happy if, at 19, he dated a 30 year old with kids, but it would ultimately be his choice.